Forget Your Idea of a Soul Mate: Try “Love at Last Sight” Instead
When asked what her type was, Eva replied she’s only attracted to the athletic type. But she also wants someone who’s sensitive, who would buy her flowers on a whim or sweep her up for a weekend getaway on random occasions. Dark features and big muscles were a must, and it was important that he had an interest in music and liked going to concerts.
These are great ideas. And more power to ya for putting together an elegant recipe for “the perfect man.”
If this is all you’re looking for, not only will you end up with someone who fits the description but who you have no connection with whatsoever, you’ll completely miss potential men who could make you truly happy.
Phantom Soul Mate
Every woman has a type … or they think they do. For example, let’s look at the most generic type that women gravitate toward:
- He’s rich in some fashionable profession: athlete, architect or musician
- He’s taller than you
- He’s got a strong jaw and thick, strong arms
- He works out
- He’s super funny
- He sweeps you off your feet
Ok. Sounds uh-mazing. But what happens if you meet and sort of fall for a skinny dentist with tattoos and an affinity for polka music? Perhaps … you meet in the hallway at work and he clumsily (albeit accidentally) spills a drink on you.
Then turns out he’s the new guy.
Turns out you work together.
Months go by and you never talk. He drives you mad because he’s always listening to that damn polka music at his desk.
Could this be your soul mate? The truth is, he might be just what you need. But if you’re stuck on only your type, then you’ll never know.
So many women are obsessed with meeting The One … Meeting is the keyword here (you still haven’t met him!). Yet all these women have their eyes closed to 90 percent of the men out there. They’re waiting for love at first sight, and ladies … it may never come.
The man for YOU might actually be the last person you could imagine being with. We’re talking love at last sight. You’ll only realize this if you keep an open mind.
Tips for Opening Up to Different Types of Men
- Figure out what you think your type is at this moment.
You might actually write it down. Imagine yourself entering a bar with friends. There’s a smattering of different types of men there. Some with slicked back hair and business suits on, others with flannel shirts and baseball caps, still others with some “dorky” clothes on (sandals with socks, Hawaiian shirt, you get it.)
Some are stocky, others buff, others thin. Some with glasses. Some are smiling and talking boisterously, others are sitting back and taking in the room, smiling occasionally and sipping their beers.
Who are you drawn to? List their features and their qualities. Who do you immediately disregard? Why?
- Think about who you’ve dated in the past who tends to meet the “perfect guy” description you jotted down. How did it work and how didn’t it work?
Sometimes, you meet someone who either completely or almost completely meets your ideal description. Think about how it went with that person. Were there still things that annoyed you about them or was it as perfect as you imagined?
- Have you ever dated someone who didn’t fit your “perfect type” but who you seemed to really click with?
You’ve likely fallen into a relationship in one way or another that didn’t fit your imagined idea of perfection. Often, a gentleman takes a liking to you as their perfect type. Or they’re simply interested on a whim. Regardless of why, you just end up together.
How did this relationship pan out? What did you two connect on? Were you still bugged by little things (too short, works in finance, can’t cook)? Or did they seem to work themselves out?
- From here on out, make an effort to be more aware of how you funnel and filter your current partner or potential partners.
Just like the bar scenario, if you’re looking for love or thinking about your current partner in a judgmental manner, you may find yourself feeling like these men are somehow terrible for you when … they’re really not. You’ll be judging them consistently for what they’re not instead of looking at what they are. Which could be really great.
Simply being aware of how you filter what you think “your type” is can help you be more open.
- If you’re already in a relationship that’s in trouble right now, is it because you’re stuck on him not being your type?
Let’s say this right now: If you’re in a relationship with a man who loves you for you, is not abusive, doesn’t cheat, has a job, is responsible and takes care of you … and there’s still problems between you … the real problem … could be you.
You’ve got to learn how to let go of the idea of your so-called perfect-type-soul-mate-man because what does an idea know anyway? You’re holding on to a fairy tale. It’s ridiculous to be mad or frustrated just because a man who treats you well and is a great companion doesn’t fit who you wanted to be with when you were 22 or 18.
You’ll grow closer and enjoy more passion if you drop that idea and turn toward loving your partner in the best way possible. But you may have screwed up already and knowing how to go about repairing things can be a challenge.
Hopefully, you two aren’t so far gone that he’s already thinking about leaving you because you’ve been aloof to his true value. If this is the case, you probably feel it’s too late for the two of you.
Fortunately, you do have time. There’s time to change things, but keep in mind that you should act fast. Best and fastest solution to making him fall for you all over again? Use a technique that will teach you what you need to know to keep him with you. One presentation that can give you a psychological loophole to do the trick.
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All in all, you’ve got to buck your old thoughts about your soul mate. If you’re single, open your mind and expand who you feel could be a potential mate. And if you’re together, take this presentation’s advice and love the one you’re with. We guarantee it will make your romantic life so much better and so much stronger.