Men desire admiration in a way that women would find hard to believe. Testosterone is, as you know, the male sex hormone. When it is active, he feels manly and alive. He feels happy. Did you know a man’s testosterone is affected by the way people treat him? It’s true. If you put a man in a position where he is treated like the low man on the totem pole, his testosterone will drop.

After a group of men are thrown together, there is a sorting-out period when a “pecking order” is established. No one talks about it. It just happens. If you watched a video tape of interactions among men after about five days, you would be able to tell who was more of the alpha-male at the top end, and who the people were lower on the pecking order. If you measured each person’s testosterone before and after grouping them together, those at the bottom would experience a drop in testosterone while those toward the top would experience an increase.


Why does this matter?

Because men will lose interest in anyone that accidentally tromps on their ego. And there are all kinds of ways this happens without you meaning to do it! The feeling can come from something as simple as the tone of voice you use when offering a compliment!

This is not to say that you have to walk on eggshells when you are with your man – not by any means.  Nor does it mean that you have to continuously feed his ego.  That’s not at all what it’s about.  What it does mean is that when a man cares about you, he needs to feel that you admire and respect him.


Does your man dream about you in his future? Are you the light of your man’s life? If not, the Respect Principle may have something to do with it. Check out the free presentation I put together to explain this vital relationship principle by clicking here.


It could make all the difference in the relationship you share with your man.


Wishing you the best in love and life,

James Bauer