5 Ways Back to a Healthy Relationship with Your Ex
by Rick Wallace
There is an old adage that says, “Your ex is your ex for a reason,” implying that a person should never seek to rekindle a relationship from their past; however, life is far from being that simple.
There are many factors that impact whether a person is a good match for you or not, and just because a person is not a good match at one point does not mean that they will never be a good match.
For example, one of the most prevalent factors that can cause a relationship to fizzle, and yet be rekindled later is immaturity. Sometimes people simply need time to grow.
Other times, people simply break up prematurely, which can be the result of intolerance based on previous relationships.
There are definitely times in which it is not a good idea for a person to seek a relationship with an ex, especially in instances in which there was any type of abuse; however, there are other times in which it may actually be a good idea.
Following, are five ways that you can work your way back to a healthy relationship with your ex.
1. Put it All on the Table
Whether you are starting from scratch or rebuilding a relationship, communication and transparency are essential. This is the time to evaluate the entire situation.
It can be easy to only see or remember what’s good about your ex when you are lonely, but before moving back into the relationship, it is very important to put all of the cards on the table.
Be honest about the concerns that you have, and discuss conflict resolution.
2. Own Up to Any Mistakes You Made
You would be surprised how hard it can be for people to admit that they were wrong about something, but it is absolutely necessary if you want to build a healthy relationship with your ex.
Your honesty builds trust and credibility with your ex. It also allows you to develop a solid foundation on which you can engage future conflicts.
3. Avoid Rehashing the Past
This may seem a little confusing when considering the previous two steps, but there is a difference between pointing out concerns and pointing fingers.
Leave the hostility and the blame game in the past. Although the two of you know each other, this is the chance for a fresh start and you don’t want to blow it with rehashing old problems.
4. Tap Into that Old Loving Feeling
This is where reconnecting with your ex is cool. With the average relationship, you have to take the time to get to know a person, so there is a learning curve.
When you reconnect with your ex, you two will have that old loving feeling to call on, and the understanding of what makes the other happy. Make sure you plug into those good memories and old behaviors that drove you crazy about one another.
5. Create New Memories
Just as important as it is to tap into those old situations that make you smile, it is equally important to create new memories and find other interests to share with one another.
This is one of the most effective ways to rekindle that old fire, and it is also one of the best ways to bond with one another.
Obviously, there are some challenges when reconnecting with your ex. You are aware of their imperfections, and if you are not careful, that can create contempt; however, leaving the past behind and embracing all that is good about your partner is conducive to a fresh new start. The built-in warmth that already exists gives you a distinct advantage over a new relationship.
Of course knowing that you have a CHANCE for you to get a healthy relationship back doesn’t tell you exactly HOW to get your ex back . . .
Which is why I want you to go watch this awesome video . . .
It shows you how to use tiny little text messages to “bait” your ex into begging to have you back . . .
This is powerful stuff and you should be really careful to only use it if you ACTUALLY want your ex back… and actually make it work this time!