5 Ways To Re-spark Your Irresistibility Factor
by Rick Wall
Maybe you have reached a point in your relationship in which you feel that some of the fire is gone. At least to you, it does not seem that your partner is as into you as he once was.
Those unsolicited text messages, emails and phone calls that were simple, yet powerfully impacting, are not coming with the frequency in which they used to. It is getting increasingly difficult to even get him to acknowledge your presence when you walk into the room.
In your mind, you are doing all the right things. You take the extra steps to keep the flame lit in the relationship – planning special trips and nice dinners that are centered on things he would enjoy; however, you are seeing minimal results.
You have virtually tried everything in the book, but you are not receiving the results that you desire. It is as if you are almost invisible.
You may be surprised by what you are about to read, but I promise you that if you simply take the time to read it, and keep an open mind, it will set you on a path that will initiate the process of making you irresistible to him once again!
Understanding the Simplicity of a Man’s Desire
Sometimes, women tend to view their partners through the same lens in which they view their female friends, but men are simply not that complex. They generally know what they want, and they like to keep things simple.
They simply want the woman they fell in love with.
So, the more you focus everything on him, the less progress you will make. You see, it is women who enjoy being the center of attention their partner’s attention. Men want to conquer and accomplish things. They want to feel needed and respected above all else.
This might surprise you, but your man is responding to your internal energy – he is reading how in tune you are with yourself. You are probably not sending off the type of energy that says that you believe you are irresistible, which is a form of confidence and self-assurance.
This type of mindset, and its subsequent behavior, will drive your man crazy as he is drawn to you.
There are a number of things that you can do to improve your level of confidence in yourself that will lead to that irresistible persona that you partner initially fell in love with. Let’s take a look at what those are now…
Connect with Your Own Passions
As important as it is for you to support your partner’s passions, it is equally important to find and connect with your own. Go back to some of those things that you enjoyed doing before you met him – those things that you used to fill your free time with. If you are passionate about dancing, make it a point to get out at least twice per month to get your groove on.
Free Yourself from the Confines of Your Home
There is so much that you can get into, such as taking an art class or teaching an aerobics class at the gym. Live in your passion; do what excites you. The more satisfied you are with yourself, the more appealing you will be to your partner.
Put Some Effort into Your Appearance
It is common to relax a bit in this area once you become comfortable with your partner; however, you must remember that he will forever continue to look for that person he fell in love with. Here’s what I mean by that:
Everyone changes over time and so will he. It’s not about how your body is changing in size or shape or your breasts are no longer where they were when you first met him. That doesn’t matter.
What does matter is that you love yourself enough to care about your your hygiene and your appearance.
You love it when he makes the effort so do the same for not only him, but most importantly, for YOU. It’s amazing how good you feel about yourself when you put on some clothes that make you feel good or some undergarments that make you feel sexy.
Believe me, he’ll notice. And so will you.
Make Family a Priority
If you are juggling being a Mom with the many other different roles a woman fulfills in her daily life, it can be difficult to find quality time to spend with your Hubby and kids.
Make sure you carve out some time every day to embrace your gift of motherhood. There are very few things that can turn a man on more than watching his woman care for his kids, and being his equal partner in parenthood.
Be Okay with Having Some Alone Time
There should never be a time when your man is not welcomed to join you, but you must be willing to get out and enjoy yourself when he is not able to join you. Invite him to come along when you go out to dance, but if he is forced to decline for any reason, be okay with that, and go out anyway.
In most instances, you will begin to see some immediate changes; however, on the rare occasion when this does not work, you will have to engage your partner with honesty, genuine care and concern – letting them know that you miss the closeness and that you are concerned about the distance.
There may be some deeper issues that have to be addressed; counselling may even be in order. However, your relationship is worth saving, or you would not have taken the time to read this far. So go get your man!
Does your man dream about you in his future? Are you the light of your man’s life? If not, the Respect Principle may have something to do with it.
Check out the free presentation my friend James Bauer put together to explain this vital relationship principle by clicking here.
It could make all the difference in the relationship you share with your man.