7 Habits of Happy Couples
by Rick Wall
Despite what you may have read in those steamy love novels or seen in the latest romantic movie, sustaining a relationship takes work; however, it does not mean that it has to be hard.
You will have to put in the effort, but when you really understand the dynamic of a great relationship, the effort is not overwhelming at all, it actually becomes invigorating. You are investing in something that has a massive return on investment.
Here are 7 habits that are common among couples who are considered to be successful in managing their relationships…and happy!
Give More Than You Take
Unfortunately, we live in a culture that is constantly looking for what they can get out of any situation that they become involved in, and it is easy to take that mindset into a committed romantic relationship; however, that is not how a solid relationship is built.
Relationships are about giving, about meeting the needs and desires of your partner, while you trust them to meet you at your point of need. Each person in the relationship should make it a habit to always give more than they take. In turn, you are both receiving in abundance.
Communicate Your Needs
“Communication is key” has to be more than a cliché in your relationship; it has to be your mantra. Instead of assuming that your partner knows exactly what you need, take the time to communicate it to them, and encourage them to do the same thing with you. Honestly, it is unfair to place that type of pressure on someone, when you can simply express it. It will save you both a lot of unnecessary frustration!
Take Your Partner’s Needs Seriously
This should be viewed as an extension of number two. When your partner opens up to you, don’t respond by being dismissive or by diminishing the importance of what they have expressed. Try to understand that you and your partner are different, so there will be things that are important to them, that may not seem major to you; however, if it is important to them, make it a priority for you.
Do What Makes Your Heart Happy — On Your Own
There is nothing wrong with engaging in activities that you find personally fulfilling, and there is nothing wrong with doing those on your own. If you like swimming or taking a spa day, and your partner is not up for it, make a go of it on your own. It is okay to take a little “you time.”
In fact, studies show that when each individual in the relationship makes a point of carving out “alone time” for themselves and respecting their partner’s desire for it, the relationship grows stronger as a whole.
Cultivate Common Interests
Just call this the yang to the yin in number four. Just like you have to take the time to fulfill some of your personal interests and passions, you also need to work with your partner to cultivate common interests that you can share together. This is one of the best ways to build a strong bond.
The importance of expressing affection to one another cannot be overstated; it is one of the simplest yet profound ways that we express our love. The simple touch and caress of a lover’s hand can settle the spirit and calm stormy seas. This should be something that is done daily.
Hold each other as you fall asleep at night. Learn your partner’s style of affection and respect it the way that you want them to respect yours.
Focus on What is Important
If you are not careful, it can be easy to focus on the negative, but place an emphasis on focusing on the positive. Instead of highlighting what your partner does wrong, focus on what they do right. Learn how to respond to situations instead of reacting to them. Ask yourself if what you are getting upset about is really important to the big picture in your relationship. Failing to do this is one of the common mistakes in relationships. Live for what matters.
These points may seem simple; however, they are all common habits found in successful relationships. Implement them into your life and you will definitely experience the benefits associated with them.
Did you love and learn something from this article? If so, please help to spread the word by sharing it with those you care about.