How to Lose a Man in 5 Easy Steps

How to Lose a Man in 5 Easy Steps

by Rick Wall

how to lose a man in 5 easy steps

 

Sometime it seems that men and women are completely on different planets, and that it is absolutely impossible for either gender to understand the other. This can be seen clearly when observing some of the common causes that drive men out of relationships with women (and vice versa, of course). It is often times the result of behavior that is considered appropriate by some women; however, men view it in a negative light.

 

Following are five steps that will pretty much guarantee that you will lose your man. Keep in mind that these steps don’t have to be in consecutive; as few as one will do.

 

1. Overanalyzing Certain Situations

 

One of the most common mistakes that women make that end up driving men away is overanalyzing situations through an emotional lens.

 

Men will typically say or do things without giving much thought to what they are saying or doing. On the other hand, a woman will spend hours discussing the specific nuances of the same statement or action with another female.

 

When you overanalyze the actions of a man, it will typically lead you to a conclusion that is absolutely opposed to what he intended. I know that it is hard to believe, but while you are analyzing 20 different reasons why he did it, he actually just did it because he felt it needed to be done. There are no ulterior motives.

 

2. Become a Drama Queen

 

If there is anything that a man loathes it is drama. Men want peace, and they really prefer their partner to be the source of their peace.

 

Although a woman may be coaxed or riled up by those who are trying to show support for her, a drama queen is on a fast track to driving away the man in her life.

 

There are some women who have no problem bringing drama to their man’s life by doing things such as showing up to his job unannounced and causing a scene or having a public meltdown with a large audience to witness it. This behavior takes a man to a place that he is most uncomfortable, and it will end with him walking away.

 

Instead of confronting your man when you are worked up, firstly take a moment to calm down and clear your head.  Taking any action while your emotions are high is a bad idea.

When you have had a chance to breathe and think about what you’re angry about logcially, arrange a time to speak with him calmly so that you can sort out whatever you are having an issue with. It will work to your benefit no matter what the result is.  There is no better substitute for keeping it classy.

 

3. Spewing Perpetual Negativity

 

The only thing that a man seeks more than the affirmation of a woman is the respect of a woman. Relationship expert, James Bauer, actually calls this The Respect Principle (click here to learn a lot more about it).

 

Research has shown that men actually prefer being respected over being loved, whereas for women, if they had to choose, they would prefer to be loved.

 

Yes, men want to be loved too, but they need respect and affirmation the same way that you need to be loved.

 

When a woman is consistently negative, it slowly eats away at a man’s soul. One of the most negative statements that I have heard aimed at a man by his woman is, “Why don’t you love me anymore?” There is nothing more despairing for a man than to have a heart for a woman and be accused of not loving her.  He feels as though she doesn’t believe him when she makes these kinds of statements or asks these kinds of questions, and when a man feels as though you don’t believe him, he consequently feels as though you don’t respect him.

 

Further, there is no man or woman alive who wants to be with someone who perpetually has a dark cloud over there head.  Make a conscious effort to identify when you are being negative and do your best to work through what is making you unhappy so that you can be happy and positive in your relationship, too.

 

4. Constantly Trying to Change Him

 

Let’s get this clear right up front. When you meet a man, he is who he is. He will grow and mature, but his personality and his style will be pretty much fixed.

 

There will be certain things he will change to please you; however, hounding about things that he does not want to change will eventually wear thin with him, and he will push back. In the most extreme situations, he will push back by leaving.

 

5. Moving Things Along Too Fast

 

Becoming too emotionally attached or too physically clingy is another way to push a man away. It is understandable that you are excited about this new guy in your life; however, most men have learned that when a woman becomes too clingy too soon in the relationship, it typically leads to other issues later on.

 

Give him the space he needs to miss you and desire you. You also need space to ensure that you don’t lose yourself.

 

Men are actually very simple creatures, which means they are significantly different from women, and approaching a relationship with them the same way that you approach relationships with your female friend will almost certainly lead to problems in the long run.

 

 

Ready for more insights into the surprising things that men crave?  After reading this article, I hope you have started to realize that it’s not what you think. 

 

For further reading on The Respect Principle and so much more, make sure you check this out.

 

Respect matters to men in ways women just can’t see (without a little training in male psychology). If you’d like to learn how to implement this concept in your own relationships, follow the link below for a more in-depth explanation of The Respect Principle.  It can literally change EVERYTHING for the better in your current relationship, or in preparing you for a new, healthy relationship.

 

Click here to learn more!

 

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14 comments

  1. I would like to receive emails, i really enjoyed the article. Im going through a break up and need all the help i can get

  2. While this is typically the way it goes my bf acts out all 5 of these situations and I follow the male perspectives lol

  3. Thank you for this here now better understanding even my own feelings when it comes to a relationship. Yes, we are different to the others feelings and thats ok when its about communication and comprise with our partner. In all each others likes dislikes and how we feel never bottling up our emotions only causing a future conflict and more pain in the relationship.

  4. 1. Gain 80 pounds since we got married
    2. Watch 2-8 hours of TV per day, Hallmark movies being your favorite
    3. Wipe my kisses off because they are occasionally too wet.
    4. Tell me you don’t like candles in the bedroom.
    5. Wear the same two stretchy, slip like pajamas t bed for the last 10 years
    6. Never move in bed.
    7. Never initiate
    8. Make no noise in bed regardless of how hard I try.
    9. Never be willing to give or receive oral sex
    10. When you do orgasm, be one-and-done, never be willing to go for multiples
    11. Expect me to iron all my own clothes
    12. Enjoy me making my own breakfast and lunch 90% of the time.
    13. Wait until I as if you have thoughts about supper to say “I can look in the freezer to see what we have”
    14. Do candy crush and Suduku for hours every day
    15. Come to bed and hour after I do, waking me up.
    16. Snore forcing me into the guest bedroom many nights a week
    17. Enjoy the fruits of my labor, retiring at 50 to play golf and tennis.
    18. The list could go on….

    But….
    1. She was my girlfriend when I was 15. Homecoming at 16, married at 23, kids at 31.
    2. Beat friend and playmate (tennis, skiing, golf, sailing, scuba diving) for 3 decades
    3. Shared faith.
    4. Two beautiful, talented daughters and three granddaughters
    5. Frugal and a good financial steward
    6. Showed strength and perservence through breast cancer trials
    7. You take very nice care of our home.
    8. You make holidays special for our family
    9. Your a terrific Grandma.
    10. You’ve been a fabulous daughter-in-law
    11. You’ve been kind to my dysfunctional brothers.
    12 You don’t smoke
    13. You’re a social drinker and never over do
    14. You’ve never had a speeding ticket.
    15 you’re a good cook
    16. You decorate the house nice for holidays
    17. You can drive a stick
    18. You handle a boat well, and can back a trailer.
    19. You like to travel
    20. You enjoy golf, tennis, and pickleball despite bad knees and hips now.

    So, I miss the girl I fell in love with, your weight gain and lack of interest in intimacy turns me further and further away from you. You get pecks instead of kisses because you wipe them off. (No I’m not a sloppy kisser). You have become my roommate. I’m sad, lonely, and horny. Im 60 years old, 6’3″ and 195 pounds. Married for 37 years. Others express interest when you don’t…you take so much for
    granted. It’s frustrating that when try to talk about
    My feelings I get the silent treatment or tears. I want to talk, I want to listen…

    I hate watching this ship sink.

    1. I felt sad after reading your comment. I really hope you are able to talk to your wife about how you feel. You deserve to be happy.

  5. 1. Gain 80 pounds since we got married
    2. Watch 2-8 hours of TV per day, Hallmark movies being your favorite
    3. Wipe my kisses off because they are occasionally too wet.
    4. Tell me you don’t like candles in the bedroom.
    5. Wear the same two stretchy, slip like pajamas t bed for the last 10 years
    6. Never move in bed.
    7. Never initiate
    8. Make no noise in bed regardless of how hard I try.
    9. Never be willing to give or receive oral sex
    10. When you do orgasm, be one-and-done, never be willing to go for multiples
    11. Expect me to iron all my own clothes
    12. Enjoy me making my own breakfast and lunch 90% of the time.
    13. Wait until I as if you have thoughts about supper to say “I can look in the freezer to see what we have”
    14. Do candy crush and Suduku for hours every day
    15. Come to bed and hour after I do, waking me up.
    16. Snore forcing me into the guest bedroom many nights a week
    17. Enjoy the fruits of my labor, retiring at 50 to play golf and tennis.
    18. The list could go on….

    But….
    1. She was my girlfriend when I was 15. Homecoming at 16, married at 23, kids at 31.
    2. Beat friend and playmate (tennis, skiing, golf, sailing, scuba diving) for 3 decades
    3. Shared faith.
    4. Two beautiful, talented daughters and three granddaughters
    5. Frugal and a good financial steward
    6. Showed strength and perservence through breast cancer trials
    7. You take very nice care of our home.
    8. You make holidays special for our family
    9. Your a terrific Grandma.
    10. You’ve been a fabulous daughter-in-law
    11. You’ve been kind to my dysfunctional brothers.
    12 You don’t smoke
    13. You’re a social drinker and never over do
    14. You’ve never had a speeding ticket.
    15 you’re a good cook
    16. You decorate the house nice for holidays
    17. You can drive a stick
    18. You handle a boat well, and can back a trailer.
    19. You like to travel
    20. You enjoy golf, tennis, and pickleball despite bad knees and hips now.

    So, I miss the girl I fell in love with, your weight gain and lack of interest in intimacy turns me further and further away from you. You get pecks instead of kisses because you wipe them off. (No I’m not a sloppy kisser). You have become my roommate. I’m sad, lonely, and horny. Im 60 years old, 6’3″ and 195 pounds. Married for 37 years. Others express interest when you don’t…you take so much for
    granted. It’s frustrating that when try to talk about
    My feelings I get the silent treatment or tears. I want to talk, I want to listen…

    I hate watching this ship sink.

  6. Ok, I’m a woman. I guess I’m pretty unique because these are the exact same things that would make a guy lose me. For me, respect is far more important than love. I give the same things I expect. The problem is I meet guys who automatically assume that I’m just like every other woman, instead of getting to know me or seeing me for who I truly am. If they did, they’d realize that we are on the same page (if they are trying to avoid the 5 things listed above).

  7. This LSI article assumes that the man is the “prize” and/or the “Princess,” and attempts to instill fear in women of losing a man if she doesn’t “behave” and keep her mouth shut and feelings to herself.

    So…

    How to lose a woman:

    1. Rush her into exclusivity, either by coercion, manipulation, blackmail, thus eliminating her options so he can sit back and take his time.
    2. Criticize, belittle, and highlight her every flaw, even make up some that don’t exist, and chip away at her self-esteem.
    3. Waste her valuable time, date her for years, not propose (and sometimes promise but never deliver), sit on the fence, enjoy all the “benefits of marriage” without having to commit to marriage.
    4. Call her at the very last minute to ask her out (keeping her as an option).
    5. Not make her a priority in his life. Put her at the bottom of the list under job, friends, family, sports, himself.
    6. Put his needs repeatedly ahead of hers, often times disregarding her needs completely.
    7. Become a Drama King, stir up trouble constantly, whine about everything, make public scenes, create problems, chaos, and drama where none exist.
    8. Place ALL the blame on every woman he dated/married, for everything that went wrong, rather than “man up” and take personal responsibility.
    9. Expect women to cater to him, wait on him, service his needs, be supportive of him physically/emotionally/financially, while he gives very little crumbs in return.
    10. Ignore his woman for days/weeks as a power play to break her down and hurt her.
    11. While dating or in a relationship, expect her to pay her half, pay for the gas, meet him at the venue, split the costs, while he buys himself new cars and clothes.
    12. Have a legion of female friends surrounding him (former girlfriends, dates, exes, women who have a crush on him) to hang out with regularly, on speed dial, who “protect” him and his feelings, look out for him…i.e. keeping his options open.
    13. Create distance in order to avoid intimacy, commitment, true love.
    14. Be a serial dater, jump from relationship to relationship, get bored quickly, move on to the next one, get bored, wash, rinse, repeat.
    15. Demand respect without earning it, and without respecting and loving the woman in return.
    16. Play games–answer questions with questions, be vague, mysterious, disappear with no explanation, not call or text for days, blow hot and cold, return her text in the middle of the night, not be open and honest, hide the family from her, and then accuse her of being “insecure” and “needy.”
    17. Slowly and artfully attempt to isolate her from all her friends, family, colleagues, and then back away.
    18. Use her as an ego boost, stepping stone, placeholder, arm candy, someone to help “class” up and social climb.
    19. Never attempt to fix serious character flaws such as violent temper, jealousy, insecurity, low self-esteem, phony, projecting everything that’s wrong with him onto her, narcissism, selfishness, immaturity, multiple chips on shoulder, negativity, depression, deep hatred/disrespect of women, blaming others for everything, refusing to evolve and become a better human/partner/father.
    20. Enter a new relationship without healing from the last one(s), without healing from the divorce, still pine for the “one(s) that got away.”
    20(a) Enter a new relationship with massive emotional/financial/physical baggage, expecting the new woman to help fix it, such as high debt, worsening character flaws, strained family relations, depression, hoarding/slovenly living style, disorganization, lack of direction in life, using fear tactics to get what he wants, unemployment/underemployment, unresolved health problems, unresolved anger/jaded/bitterness from past relationships/marriage. No woman wants to be a grown man’s “nurse or a purse.”
    21. Making it all about him, what he wants/needs, his friends, only go where he wants to go, what he wants to do, where/how he wants to live, how he wants the future to be, rarely compromising, not considering her needs/wants, and making himself the “prize.”

    Ladies, watch your backs because these parasites are everywhere. If enough of us stay away from them, hopefully they will no longer be able to reproduce and will weed themselves out of the gene pool, and only the good men will survive.

    1. @ Scarlett

      So youre saying you have a problem with men who exhibit the very same traits that you possess, even champion.

      And you wonder why we good men steer clear of you.

      Wow.

      1. Can you read?

        “WE good men?” Truly *good men* don’t troll web sites and attack women they don’t know. They support and protect women from parasites I described above. You clearly are NOT a good man. Good men don’t talk this way to women at all, ever. Only cowards, abusers, and bullies attack women (verbally and/or physically).

        And you appear to be another example of a woman-hating/sexist/misogynist bully. Glad you posted what you did. It shows women that parasites/players/bullies/abusers pretend to be “good men.” Ladies, RUN from men like this!

        Why don’t you MAN UP and do some good in the world, rather than troll websites and bully women.