7 Steps to Help Mend Your Marriage
By: Brad Browning
It can be one of the most difficult things to ever go through — a rocky, loveless marriage can tear you up your insides. It can make you feel depressed, angry, and maybe even unloved.
But it isn’t your fault. A marriage needs two functioning people to work — it’s a “for-life” partnership that needs effort from both parties. However, when times get tough, the littlest marital problems can turn into massive arguments — or silence that can last for days.
All is not lost, however. There are ways you can fix your marriage.
There are ways to make your husband love you again — unconditionally. Just like it was meant to be. But to make this a reality, you BOTH need to commit to doing your part to reconnecting with each other in a healthy way again. You also both need to avoid doing things that will make your marriage even worse.
So without further ado, here are some tips that you can implement on your end to help improve your marriage so that you can do your part while he is doing his.
1.) Listen to him. If you want to begin improving your marriage on your own, then try to understand where his concerns lie. The more you know about him and his problems, the better-equipped you’ll be to address them. I know, I know — you have your own set of problems too. But in order for your needs to be met, you need to address his needs too.
2.) Appreciate him. Now is the time to take a step back and realize all the good things your husband does for you. If you’ve been married to him long enough, you might start taking him for granted. So thank you husband the next time he cooks, cleans something, or does something for you — even if it’s something small.
3.) Don’t cause conflict. Sometimes you just want to scream and yell at him, but for now, hold it in. It can be the hardest thing in the world to do for some people, but avoiding conflict when your marriage is on the rocks is not only prudent, but it’s the ONLY way you’ll be able to improve your marriage right now.
4.) Woo him. Think about what his wants are, and do them. Not all men are into cheesy chick flicks or romantic dinners — so think outside the box! Does he like playing video games? Then join him for some PlayStation multiplayer action. Does he like watching his favorite TV shows? Give them a shot! Maybe you’ll like them. Does he like following sports? Now is the time to cheer for his favorite team.
5.) Initiate sex with him. Men need to have sex with their wives in order to feel loved, dominant, and confident. Without it, your man will feel impotent and insecure, and he may feel ill-equipped to fulfill your needs inside and outside the bedroom. It can be difficult to initiate sex if your marriage hasn’t been in tip-top condition, but do your best to try and get into the mood.
6.) Don’t be too much of a pushover. While you shouldn’t cause conflict with your husband, you shouldn’t let him treat you poorly. Some women are so afraid of their husbands leaving or cheating that they’ll allow themselves to be a doormat. This is considered a huge turn off and will only ensure that your husband leaves you even faster. There are ways to stick up for yourself without escalating a conflict into an all-out war.
7.) Seek help! If you find yourself between a rock and a hard place, then consider checking out my free video presentation on my website. In it, I go over the three most brutal “Marriage Murdering Mistakes” that almost everyone makes — and what you can do to fix them. I’ll also go over some covert, psychological tactics that will make your husband yearn so deeply for you that he’ll regret ever mistreating you (or leaving you). Again, to watch this free presentation, simply CLICK HERE. It’s only a few minutes long and it might change the way your husband sees you forever.