Is He Really Marriage Material? How to Know for Sure

Is he marriage material?


He loves me …

He loves me not …


Okay hopefully by now you know whether your man loves you or not.


But the question remains: Is it true love? As in forever love. As in … is he actually marriage material?


Here are 9 signs he’s definitely The One.  Check ‘em out and see if your man fits the profile.


He’s proud of you.


Everyone wants to feel like they’re with the greatest guy/gal in the world and that everyone else must envy them because of how amazing their partner is. Similarly, everyone also wants to feel like they’re the greatest guy/gal in the world … in their partner’s eyes.


Your guy should make you feel like that. Maybe you catch wind that he was bragging to your mutual friends about your awesome cooking skills or your promotion at work. Or maybe he just goes gaga directly to you about whatever it is that you do great. It’s the fact that he’s truly proud to have you as his partner that counts.


He doesn’t leave you just because … well, you suck sometimes.


Hey, we all suck at times. There’s no getting around it. It’s easy to have a terrible day and then just turn up at home pretty terrible yourself.


But he doesn’t leave you because of this. He doesn’t get fired up and mad either. Instead, he knows that he can be pretty terrible sometimes too. And he either accepts you when you’re in one of these moods and gives you your space OR tries his best to make you feel better (see #7).


He’s “good” at fighting.


No, not mixed martial arts.

You-two fighting. As in:

Yes. I. Am. Sure. That I told you that we were going out to eat with my parents on the SIXTH.

And then him: “Noooo, you said the TWENTY-sixth. So that is why I got basketball tickets for the SIXTH.”

 And then you go … okay you get the picture.


Every couple fights. That’s normal and actually good. But only those who fight fair will last. This means keeping voices at a normal decibel, not calling names, and not bringing up that one thing from three years ago.


Even when it’s sooo pertinent right now.

If he can do all that, he just might be a pretty good egg.


He doesn’t change when he’s around other people.


Some men act differently when they’re around their buddies. The sweet demeanor he usually has when it’s just you and him suddenly turns into him showing off and throwing you under the bus.


If he’s the first to make fun of you in front of others (especially for something that’s sensitive to you), then it’s perfectly within your rights as a girlfriend to tell him you’re not cool with that. Call him out because that crap is definitely not marriage material.


He makes an effort with your family and friends.


Whether he loves them (or even likes them) is another story.


But it’s the fact that he’s making the effort that counts. When there’s a get-together, he shouts small talk with your great-uncle Todd so he can hear. And he takes the time to ask your sister about her quilting class. Even though he doesn’t care.


He would drop everything to get you out of a serious jam.


This one’s a real test that you can imagine in your mind.


Consider a scenario where you get a flat tire on a random road outside of town. Really imagine the situation. You’re standing there on the side of the road.


Could you call your man?


If you did, would he come?


If you’re even slightly uncertain that he might pretend not to get your call or tell you he’s sorry but he’s really busy at work and won’t be able to help you for a while … you gotta rethink this relationship. This is a serious situation where you need him, and hopping-to should be a priority.


He knows how to make you feel better.


You’re feeling blue because of a bad work review. Perhaps you’ve recently lost a loved one. Or it could be just one of those bad days.


What does he do?


First of all, he knows. He senses it. Then, without asking, he does something to make you feel better. Maybe he makes you cocoa and sets you up a little nest on the couch and puts your favorite movie in. Or maybe he simply takes over dinner plans so you don’t have to worry about it. In other words, he’s got you covered.


He sees your flaws, and it’s okay.


You’re a terrible dishwasher loader. You snore sometimes. Your hair is … everywhere in your house. Even sometimes in the food you make him.


He knows it. He sees it. And, it’s not an issue for him. He might make fun of you a little, but he doesn’t seriously criticize your faults or act disgusted. He knows your flaws and loves you despite them or even because of them.


You just know.


Lastly, don’t mean to sound corny here but … sometimes, the way that you know that he’s marriage material is … you just know.


Maybe it’s that moment when he makes you crack up uncontrollably. Maybe it’s opening that gift he gives you for your anniversary that you’d wanted forever but never thought to buy for yourself. Maybe it’s cleaning up after you when you’re sick.


But there are just some moments that make you feel an overwhelming rush of love for this man. And it’s not infatuation love. It’s not lust. It’s heart-felt, true-connection, we go great together love. I-truly-want-the-best-for-you and I-know-you-want-the-best-for-me-too love. Sometimes you just know.


If you can find a man who makes you feel that, he’s a keeper.


How to Finally Nail Down the Bad Boy and Make Yourself His One and Only

We all know the reasons we love the bad boy.



They’re tough, smooth, and they’re usually hotter than sin. While other men struggle to think of the right words to say, he just knows. And what he says makes you feel like your heart’s going to thump right out of your chest.

Where other guys are fumbling about where to take you on a date — asking you where you want to go (hello!?) … the bad boy already knows.

Whether you like it or not. Um, hot?

Yeah, well of course he knows. Cause he’s got a secret spot out on the dunes, or at the lake, or overlooking the city … where you’ll watch the sunset. And he’ll grab beers at the liquor store on his way to pick you up ON HIS MOTORCYCLE.

And at that perfect moment, he’ll kiss you. And then …  he’ll know just what to say to make you completely oozy and goozy inside.

And he’ll take you back to your place, and end the night with a passionate kiss, and you’ll be sure he’ll be going home not able to think about anything but you … just like it’s LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE for you to think of anything but him

And then …

He won’t call.

He’ll returns your text like … 2 days later.

And then … he’ll FLAKE … on your next planned date.

This is … The Bad Boy.


Taming of the Bad Boy: A How-To Guide


So close, yet so far away.

So how do we nail this guy down? You want him bad. But can you do the impossible!? Can you really get this drifter / greaser / super-hot   [ insert occupation here … (who even cares what he does!?) ]   … to love only you!?

You want it to be possible so bad. Well, the good news is … it is possible. Maybe.

Ok, it’s a tough one.

But anyway, below is your best shot.

So here goes.


Step #1: First, you gotta make yourself a hot commodity.


Okay, there are three main things that make a woman hot:

  • Effort in appearance:


Yes. Hair, makeup, cleavage, the whole nine yards. You cannot avoid this with the Bad Boy because he is obsessed with appearance. That’s why he’s the Bad Boy.

It’s all about creating a look. Now, if you want … your look can be au natural. But going with done-up glam is sort of a safer bet. Plus, it’ll give you confidence, and you’ll need it.

You don’t have to be Cindy Crawford, but put your best foot forward. Get some assistance from some savvy sales representatives at the makeup counter and in the women’s clothing department if necessary.


  • Wit and intelligence:

Learn to be snappy and witty. Practice with a close friend who you trust, and work on being natural and calm while you “deliver your lines.” Dead pan humor, and snarkiness are go-tos. This stuff can be learned.

The goal is to get away from your tendency to laugh nervously at everything and be a little more cool and aloof. You may not know it, but these are the qualities that you’re responding to in him, and he will respond to them in you too.


  • Not needing him for 23 hours … then needing him desperately for 1.


In other words, most of the times, be capable.

Be capable of handling yourself, your career, your friends, your home, your life.

 Then … show him that you need him in one area (with your car, for example). And after he helps you? Drop it. Say “thanks” and “seeya.”




When you go on dates, he’s so dreamy, right?

 We get it. You’re in love with him.

But you’ve gotta keep your lust in check. In other words, don’t let him have everything he wants.

For example, he wants to kiss you. Nope. Not yet.

He wants to hold your hand while you walk a whole three blocks on your way to the restaurant. Eh, how bout one block. Then you take your hand away.

And sex? Ha!

Out of the question at this point.

Bad Boy’s gotta earn that.

Now, play his game.


 Step #3: He’s not monogamous yet? No problem. Neither are you.


In other words, we’re talkin: Date. Other. People.

It’s tough. All you want is him, we know, we know, we get it.

But you gotta.

Date the guys who ask you, or start asking out guys yourself. And don’t feel bad about this. You’re just dating … just the way the guy you’re on a date with is.

The Bad Boy may be who you got your eye on, but you’ve got a right to continue living your life.

Just make sure to keep things casual and never string anyone along or try to “wield” some innocent fella in a way that makes Bad Boy jealous. That’s unkind.


Step #4: “Hello? Who Dis?”


Step four is act aloof. Your bad boy wants to be a bad boy. That super-cool persona that you identify him with? He’s trying for that. He wants you to think of him like that.

So, you gotta turn the tides on him. When he calls, don’t answer. Let it go to voicemail, then get back to him by text two days later.

Now normally, this would not be a good dating suggestion. If you really care about someone, you shouldn’t be playing games with them.

But The Bad Boy is a wild one. He’s not like normal guys, and as such, he warrants unusual handling.

By not responding directly to his texts and calls, you’re making him feel insecure (again, not usually what you want your guy to feel like). But this is good for The Bad Boy because remember: he’s cultivating this “who cares” attitude, and you need to rattle that cage a bit.


Step #5: See If It Works


These steps can help the Bad Boy fall in love with you. So now … you wait.



Cutting Your Losses: When It Doesn’t Work


They say that insanity can be defined as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

If this “plan” doesn’t work, try your hardest to forget the Bad Boy and move on because perusing him is only going to give you pain.

In fact, these relationships don’t have a good success rate. Ultimately, you want to nab this guy, then hopefully have him morph into a more dedicated, chill guy … or you just want to have some fun for a few months, and that can be okay too.

Just remember to prepare your heart for it. Because Bad Boys can be dangerous.

Unfortunately … that’s why we love ‘em.


Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever

Crazy Good Play Dates for Lovemaking Connoisseurs

Erotic playdate


In the absence of pressure, spontaneity arises.

Crazy good sex doesn’t happen by chance. It’s a couples project. Like any other high-priority project, it requires time and energy to make it happen. You might like the idea of having a beautiful vegetable garden, but if you spend all your free time on other pursuits, the garden will remain a nice idea. The same is true with your sex life. You may like the idea of having rockin’ good sex into your 50s, 60s, 70s, and beyond, but it will remain a dream unless you put in the time.

Here’s how EASY it is to schedule a hot sex date. So EASY that even the most checked out lover will be enthusiastic about it.

The daily demands on your time and attention easily fall into half a dozen categories: work obligations, family activities, social engagements (cyber and otherwise), those favorite distractions you’re not about to give up, the “me-time” activities that give you a needed break, the self-care habits that keep you healthy. And that’s just the short list. You also have your hair appointments, your doctor visits, your mani-pedis, your errands, and your zoned-out binges on your favorite Netflix series. It’s enough to make even the most savvy time-manager go round the bend.

Something as crucial to your happiness as a satisfying sex life should not be left up to the shifting sands of your daily schedule. You simply cannot do what most couples do: leave lovemaking in the “whenever we feel like it” category. You need to put it on your calendar.

You have to ensure that “We’re just too busy” is no longer an acceptable excuse. Your busy life requires you to become a bad-ass when it comes to making time for the things that mean the most. And when it comes to your relationship, crazy good sex means everything. You have to plan for success. That’s why you absolutely must schedule sex dates. Better yet, put a sex date on your calendar at least once a week.



At first, this may seem counter-intuitive. Schedule a sex date? How very unromantic. What about spontaneity? Isn’t that what generates the intensity of a highly erotic encounter? Yes, spontaneity is a major element of ecstatic sex. But the place to find the kind of spontaneity that leads to complete abandon is within a safe and intentional context, what I like to call Erotic Playdates. There are no shifting sands here; this is special time you set aside for adult play.

An Erotic Playdate develops your sexual skills as a couple. There is a delicious anticipation to an Erotic Playdate when you know you are going to practice a new sexual technique. Treat it like a dinner date. Instead of Googling around and looking at different restaurants, checking out the menu, the prices, the daily specials, Google around and find a new technique you’d like to try. You can do this together just as you might if you were choosing a place to eat, or you might decide to take turns selecting something new and delectable to try on your date. (You can download amazing variety of menu options for free here.)



The key to a successful Erotic Playdate is that the focus is on having fun together. Most of the time, we approach lovemaking with a focus on intercourse. But women generally don’t want to commit to intercourse until they’re turned on. The name of the game in a Sandbox Date is fun, not fucking. In the absence of pressure for sex, spontaneity naturally arises.

You might have an Erotic Playdate that’s all about finding her G-spot, or giving each other an erotic massage, or improving your oral sex skills. On an Erotic Playdate, you are encouraged to give each other feedback. Often, there’s no room for, or agreement about, giving each other feedback during lovemaking. People are either afraid to ask for what they want, or they have no idea what they want. They only know that what they are experiencing isn’t it. Typically, they don’t have the freedom or permission to give their lover feedback.

The context on an Erotic Playdate, on the other hand, is all about feedback: we’re here to learn, try new things, experiment and discover what makes each other feel crazy good. You learn to escalate your passion by working together.

Scratch that. You learn to escalate your passion by playing together.

If both of you adopt this “begin as a beginner” attitude together, the terrain you can explore is literally endless. Imagine having a connection with your lover that starts fresh… every time. Lovemaking is different and exciting… every time. Something delicious and beautiful happens between you that has never happened before… every time. No more ordering off the same old menu. You’re lovemaking connoisseurs.



So think about getting your hands on the 21 Erotic Play Dates to start learning one simple new technique or practice today. Will you try the Clock Method? The Start/Stop Game? Or will you learn the Touch for Rapture? Now, put a date on the calendar and you’ll have something sensual to anticipate.



Susan S. Bratton
CEO, Personal Life Media
“Trusted Hot Sex Advisor To Millions”