I don’t want someone who promises me the moon and stars. I want someone who promises to lay on the grass and watch them with me.
So many promises made are empty these days that people have a hard time trusting anything that anyone says anymore. This seems especially true in love relationships where so many times it seems that promises are made one day and broken the next. When we are high on love, we often can’t seem to see the bigger picture as we have a hard time seeing or accepting the negative characteristics of the person we are in love with and/or the relationship itself. We can’t imagine how anything could possibly go wrong in a relationship with a person that we have literally made larger than life in our minds. I mean, what could possibly go wrong with Mr. or Ms. Perfect, right? So, many times, based on those feelings, we make promises that we cannot keep long term. We come off that initial love high and start seeing the person we are with and the relationship much more clearly and logically, giving us the ability to evaluate if this person really does fit into our lives and our future. More often than not, they do not and if we have made promises prematurely, we end up breaking them, and feelings are hurt to say the least.
If we are mature and responsible enough to learn from our mistakes, we learn to not offer up promises lightly, particularly when they are grandiose. We constantly hear of future plans and dreams being shattered simply because one member of a love relationship could not keep their word to the other. Truth is that when we make a promise to someone who loves us, a promise that affects their lives, we hold their hopes and dreams in our hands. That is a major responsibility that cannot be taken lightly, not even if we think that we are making our partner happy by telling them what they want to hear. So before we promise someone the stars, the sun and the moon, we need to take the time to lay on the grass and watch them together first. We need to build and grow together until we are sure that we can make major promises that we can actually keep. Most people don’t actually need the moon and the stars to be happy anyway. When someone loves you, they just need YOU to be by their side without faltering. Keep it simple with the people you love and just be there. They will need and appreciate that more than anything else you promise to give. ~Gia