He Has Shut Me Out of Our Relationship
It’s been a year that I have been in a relationship with my bf, we live just one 35 minute plane ride away from each other. I had him in my community for 1 month, then he finally went home, and suddenly after a couple of days, he shut me out and he won’t tell me the reason why. I kept asking him what the reasons are, he said distance was one of them, and he wouldn’t tell me the other reasons. I gave him many chances to be with me, but I’ve got only very few chances from him. Is he worth the wait? Will he open up to me and everything’s back to the way it was? It’s been almost two weeks now that he has shut me out.
I’m a young woman and I have been having much trouble with love.
A friend of LSI has written to us asking for some advice. She’s young and feeling frustrated with her love life. Let’s help her out by posting replies to her message below! Here is her letter to us:
Hello. I’m a young woman and I have been having much trouble with love or relationships, period. It’s as if no matter how hard I try, I can never find someone. I always end up alone with my heart broken. I’m the only one out of my friends who has never dated. I know I have my whole life ahead of me and love is a silly thing at this age, but I always wonder how it feels. I just need something to give me hope. ~ Anonymous
Are you or have you ever been in a relationship where you have a nagging feeling that your man doesn’t seem to be pleased with your successes? If so, it’s very likely that he is intimidated by you, particularly if you are a strong, self-confident, driven, successful woman.
Romantic couples of the twenty first century certainly have a different face than those of the decades of old. When we think about love relationships of the 1950s, for example, many of us (especially women) scoff at how limited women’s roles in
society were back then. Most women were defined by their domestic roles – wife, mother, daughter, domestic engineer. In the decades that followed, particularly during the major wave of the feminist movement in the 1970s, 80s, and 90s, women began to assert their independence en masse by re-defining or adding to those list of traditional roles, primarily by entering the workforce in droves. This enabled women to break into what was traditionally seen as male-centered roles, most significantly of which was that of “breadwinner”.
So why would men be intimidated by women’s independence and success?