Crazy About Someone You Don’t Exactly Know?

How to Know He’s a Potential Mr Right

 

Maybe it’s the guy who delivers your UPS packages, or the barista at your favorite coffee shop.

 

It could be your friend’s brother-in-law.

 

Or a guy who works in your office with whom you’ve never shared so much as a “Hi.”

 

We all develop feelings for people who we don’t “technically” know.

 

A lot of the time, this is actually where the best relationships sprout.

 

And sometimes, you might know this person a little. Maybe you’ve shared pleasantries or smiled while walking past each other. Maybe you even know each other’s names through mutual friends but have never actually had a conversation.

 

The point is, you’ve watched him from afar, and you like what you see.

 

But now what do you do?

 

Here are some useful strategies for getting to know this person better and maybe even snagging a date.

 

How to Get to Know the Mystery Man

 

  1. Be there or be square

 

The first thing to do is be there … where they’re going to see you. If you see this person at the gym, keep going! If you see them at the coffee shop, be there. Being around is the best way to make yourself noticeable and later, get to know him better.

 

  1. Put in the work: Recon

 

Recon, short for reconnaissance. You can do this if you have a mutual friend or possibly know their name. This isn’t stalking, so don’t worry. Since the beginning of romantic relationship time … men and women have been asking the equivalent of “Who is that sexy man/woman over there?” When you want something, it’s ok to put in the effort! Find out hobbies, interests, jobs if you can. Just don’t go too far. FYI: House drive-bys are too far.

 

  1. Consult mutual friends

 

In terms of recon, mutual friends are the best. If you can, however, keep it on the down low that you’re really interested in this person romantically unless you’re sure your friend won’t blab. You want to control the situation.

 

  1. Chat ‘em up

 

Ok, time to make a move. You’re seeing this person regularly. Is there any way to strike up a conversation? Perhaps an, “I really like your gym bag,” or “Do you know what fun things there are to do around here?” Anything to get some chatter going.

 

  1. Have a “chance” meeting

 

Ok, again, do not stalk them, but if you’re seriously into this guy, you have to find a way to get closer to him, so if you know they work as a salesman, and you just so happened to be in charge of purchasing at your office (or whatever), why not make a trip to his store? That sort of thing.

 

  1. Just do it

 

If there’s no way to strike up small talk or prepare a “chance” meeting and no mutual friends, there’s always the “just do it approach.” In other words, walk up to him when you see him … and ask him out. It’s bold, it’s risky, but it just might work!

 

  1. Be desirable

 

Last but not least, you have to be desirable to this man you’re crazy about. He has to want you. We knew you were waiting for this one: Be desirable enough to him, and he’ll seek you out.

 

Easier said than done, right? Well, actually, it is pretty easy if you know what you’re doing.

 

The key to being desirable to any man you are attracted to—to truly present to him what he wants and needs in the woman of his dreams—is to first, unlock his guarded heart, and then, reach him on his deepest emotional level as not just a potential mate, but as a man.

 

Women don’t understand that men process attraction, dating and love completely differently. For example, did you know that men think of creating a romantic relationship in terms of winning and losing? It’s like a sport to them—not in a trivial manner—but in the way they process how it’s going. In other words, they love the action, and they want to see the back and forth as the sport goes on. As you can imagine, as they get closer and closer to their goal, they get more and more excited and aroused by the thought of having you.

 

If you want to learn more about this concept and how it works, it’s outlined in great detail in The Soul Mate Switch, which—while we’re at it—is the only guide you need if you want to attract this guy and make him immediately ask you out.

 

The program has worked for hundreds of women who have had feelings for a man they sort of knew, but who they wanted to get closer to. Check it out if you’re ready to start making progress with this guy you have your eye on, and don’t forget the other tips too. There’s no magic potion here, just hard work and some keen information to land the man of your dreams—You really can do it!

 

Wondering Why Men Keep Disappearing? Here’s What You Can Do About It

Wondering Why Men Keep Disappearing?

Here’s What You Can Do About It

by Nadine Piat

wondering why men keep disappearing

If you’re in your 30s or older and looking for love, you may have noticed something: dating’s changed. And it’s largely due to the Internet.

 

20 or even 10 years ago, if you knew a couple that had met online, it was rare. Today, everyone seems to be hopping on the net to meet their dream mate.

 

And online dating can work! There’s no doubt about it. It’s great for people who live in remote areas or those who have recently moved to a new city. Let’s face it: bumping into the love of your life at the grocery store is probably not going to happen in this day and age. We need a way to meet people that fits the 21st century.

 

Serious Relationships Can Come From Online Dating

 

So far, statistics have shown that dating in today’s tech world isn’t just for flings. Dating sites and apps are leading to an increasing number of serious relationships and marriages. A recent Pew Research Center study  showed that 5 percent of committed relationships and marriages in the U.S. started online. Another study by eHarmony, cited in USA Today, found that 1 in 3 marriages in the U.S. begin online.

 

So why then are so many men and women still single and desperately looking to meet a mate?

 

In many ways, technology may be to blame. Funny how that works, isn’t it?

 

Sure, there are amazing upsides to technology. It connects people and forms new relationships even across great distances. It also keeps people who are already in relationships connected: you can stay in contact all day through phone, video chat, text, email, Facebook, and other technological pathways.

 

But the downsides to technology can also hurt your possibilities of finding a mate.

 

In this age of online dating and “swiping” for love on apps like Tinder, have you noticed that every man you think you could have a connection with ends up being just like the rest? What’s the deal? Where’s the one?

 

There are three big reasons why finding love seems to be getting harder these days. Learn to deal with these issues, and you’ll be able to avoid that consistent heartbreak you’ve been facing.

 

 

First, we’ve got too many choices.

 

Yes, we have more opportunities to meet men, but that leads to boatloads of choices.

 

Oftentimes, when you have too many options, you start to become increasingly critical. If you’ve been single and looking for years and then finally meet a man who’s grounded, kind and has your sense of humor, don’t ditch him because he wears pleated pants or likes a band you hate. No one’s perfect.

 

Now, don’t get us wrong: it’s good to be particular to a point when looking for a mate. Don’t just pick the first guy who IM’s you and stay with him no matter what. But conversely, don’t let the many choices paralyze you. If you do that, you might never connect with anyone.

 

 

Second, there’s a lot of competition out there.

 

You might not like this one, but it’s true. Just as there are more opportunities for you to meet more men, there are also more opportunities for those men to meet more women. You’ve got some competition.

 

Where this becomes a problem is with initial contact. Many women feel that their profile pictures must be absolutely glamorous shots to attract attention. Similarly, some women end up lying in their profiles in order to be at “the head of the pack” so to speak.

 

While it’s tempting to bend the truth in order to rule out competition, perhaps the simple reminder that you will eventually need to meet the men you are texting and IM-ing online in person will snap you back to reality. You shouldn’t flat out lie just to be “better” than the rest of the single gals out there. Let your own personality and beauty shine through so that you’ll find someone who’s a true match.

 

 

Lastly, we’re largely living in a fantasy world.

 

Many of the women who are in the online dating pool have ultra high expectations. Hey, that’s not a bad thing! But you can’t form your expectations around fantasies. That is, you’re not going to end up like Meg Ryan in You’ve Got Mail. You are not Elizabeth Bennet from Pride & Prejudice. Sorry, hun.

 

But don’t let that ruin your fun. Listen, the perfection of that muscular, super-tanned, Italian hunk (or whatever your fantasy is) is flat out unattainable. What you’re looking for should be a partner, a real human being you can live with, have fun with, and share a life with. That person is out there, and he’s not a fantasy.

 

Unfortunately, the numerous choices and tough competition out there can feed on these fantasies and cause us to pass on good men in favor of someone who seems too good to be true (they probably are).

 

And this is a delusion that can keep you from love, but fortunately…

 

You can break this crazy cycle with this secret. You’ll also want to check out the following tips.

 

More Tips for Navigating the Online Dating Environment:

 

Get to know yourself better.

 

Before you can have a quality relationship with someone else, you’ve got to have a quality relationship with yourself. Get to know the real you: what activities you like, what makes you smile, and what makes you laugh.

 

When you have a solid stance on yourself, you’ll be much more able to pick through the masses of men online and find the ones who match your style. You’ll also be more competent on your own and therefore more attractive to men.

 

Don’t give up easily.

 

Online dating is difficult. You’re going to have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find the one. But make sure you don’t give up, and this is key. You might feel frustrated by a terrible date or acquire a bruised ego after a rejection from someone you really liked. Don’t let this hold you back.

 

Having a quality relationship with a man can be a great improvement on your life. Just remember, dating is like looking for a job. No one’s going to knock on your door and offer you a job, right? You have to go out and find one for yourself. You might drop off hundreds of resumes and have tons of interviews. That’s the breaks.

 

Similarly, Prince Charming won’t be knocking on your door to offer you a lifetime of love and happiness either; you’ve got to go out and work for it.

 

Engage in real life.

 

Online dating is great, but don’t forget that it is possible to meet someone in “real life” with initial face-to-face contact. That’s the “old fashioned” way!

 

And yes, even video chats won’t give you the same connection that sitting in-person with someone can. Often with online dating, the IM-ing, video chatting, and emailing is where the connection is made, and once you meet in person, it’s like a light went out and there’s … nothin’. Meeting people directly in real life to begin with just eliminates the middleman. You’ll know right away.

 

Don’t be afraid to approach men first.

 

Unfortunately, women are still being held back by social conventions that have no place in the 21st century. Yes, you can ask a man out first. If he’s got a problem with it, do you really want to be with him anyway?

 

Besides, why do you want to wait for your partner to come to you? Be bold! Push aside fears and your old views about dating. Men are often thankful when a woman is the first to approach them. It gives them confidence that you’re interested.

 

Finally, Have a Little Faith

 

The last thing to remember is that faith can go a long way. Dating won’t be easy whether you do it online or in person, but you can find a wonderful relationship if you have faith.

 

Don’t get discouraged, and stop comparing yourself to others. Maybe that other couple is lucky in love but unlucky elsewhere in their lives. Or maybe the people who you think have the “perfect relationships” actually have a lot of trouble of their own. Sometimes, a woman appears to have met the man of her dreams so very quickly, but that’s because they took the first guy who came along. You don’t want that. Hold out for a great match, and he’ll be there.

 

The woman who finds the love she wants stays open to love, even when it feels difficult to do so.

 

Want to know how to get the lasting attention and affection from the man you desire? Have a look at this:

 

Attract deep lasting love the easy way with this powerful secret.

 

 

The #1 Thing Awesome Men Love In A Woman (the one they want to commit to)

The #1 Thing Awesome Men Love In A Woman

(the one they want to commit to)

by Nadine Piat

what awesome men love in a woman

Men love a multitude of things about women: their personality, their smile, bodies, feminine features and grace, the way they dress, their hair, the smoothness of their skin, and many, many more things…

 

As much as these are all great attributes that make us uniquely feminine…there is one thing that women often overlook and sometimes even fear, and is the very thing that will attract and keep the best men interested.

 

The best men; men who are ready for love and commitment look for a certain trait in a woman. Of course not all men are exactly the same, since we all have different personalities and desires, but there is one specific characteristic that the best men have in common that gets the relationship ready man, hooked.

 

A man who’s ready to commit to a healthy loving relationship is a man who knows who he is, he’s confident and astute and he’s not scared of his feelings, and these are exactly the character traits he values in a woman.

 

So, no matter how different a man’s taste in women is compared to another, and no matter if he’s English, Irish, American, Australian, Canadian, German or Chinese – they all love…

… A SASSY WOMAN!

 

A man who’s insecure, controlling, unsure of himself, narcissistic and lacks self-worth may be scared of a woman like this. That’s okay. Because the type of man who’s ready to hold you and stand by you through thick and thin will love it.

 

So why do the best men love a sassy woman?

 

Because a healthy man loves a woman who makes him a better man. A healthy man respects a woman who has healthy boundaries. A healthy man will find your confidence and clarity a turn-on.

 

He will go crazy for this side of you.

 

But here’s the bad news, which is actually not news at all: a lot of women are afraid of letting their sassy side shine through. Insecurity is one major reason for this fear, another is the fear of being “too much” or being difficult, or they pay too much attention to the outside, to their appearance.

 

Now, overcoming your insecurities takes time but it’s time well spent. Just remember you are attractive just the way you are, you are smart, beautiful and you deserve the best man. Believe it because it is the truth.

 

How about paying too much attention to appearances? That’s a very common mistake because we all naturally want to look our best for our current or future partner, right? Yet, this perfect appearance we spend so much time and efforts pursuing, is not the most important thing. What’s underneath this appearance is what really matters.

 

You know why? Because the glossy, perfect-looking girls are not taken seriously unless there is some substance under the so-called “perfect look”.

 

The problem is that we often mask our insecurities by trying to look perfect. We forget that the source of sexiness is inside us, not in the makeup kit or the closet. Your personality and your sassy and savvy character traits, make you truly sexy and magnetic.

 

So how do you cultivate your sassiness? How do you shake off this wrong assumption that looking impeccably sexy is the same as being sassy? I’ll start by telling you what sassiness is and is not.

 

1. Sassiness comes from the heart – The sassy woman is fearless and stands tall. She is grounded and heart felt. She may be small in stature or tall, either way, she is noticed by all. She has spunk and a passionate edge.

 

2. A sassy woman will attract men and scare men – A sassy woman attracts men like honey to a bee. Yet she can also repel men just as fast. It’s not because they don’t like the sassiness, in fact it’s quite the opposite.

 

A sassy woman will rattle the core of a man and only the best men are ready for her. At times she will feel confused and wonder what happened, why did he disappear? Well, what happened is that she scared some insecure guy that wasn’t ready for her. She needs to remain strong and sure of herself because the men left standing are just as spectacular as her.

 

3. She is beautifully bold – A sassy woman is direct without being aggressive or demanding. She is not bitchy, though she will at times tell you how she sees something, even when it may be hard to hear. She will be tasteful in her approach and delicate when needed.

 

Personality alone does not define sassiness. You might be somewhat demure or introverted, or you might be as outgoing social butterfly, this does not determine your sassiness. Your authenticity and delivery does. Bitchy women are not sassy, they are mean and largely insecure. You can be cheeky and witty, just do it in an empowering way – this is sassy.

 

Now, here are some tips to cultivate this important quality. It’s really not hard and it’s GOOD for you!

 

1. The Past Is The Past – Dwelling on past mistakes in your romantic life, or even other parts of your life, holds you back, fuels your insecurities, and takes away from your core essence. You can’t let your sassiness bloom when you allow the past to eat away at you, when you doubt yourself, or when you don’t believe that you deserve a loving and connected relationship.

 

A sassy woman wouldn’t settle for some mediocre compromise, nor does she give into unhealthy ways of thinking or let her past define her. When you make peace with your past and realize that you too are deserving of the best that life can give, you organically ignite your sassiness, you’re able to dance and play with life. And hey, there is no such thing as mistakes anyway, so make your past and the “mistakes” work for you, not against you.

 

2. Celebrate Your Body – Feeling comfortable in your own body is a major feature of the sassy woman. I’m sure you’ve seen such women who, regardless of their size or shape, just radiate happiness and the feeling that they are comfortable just as they are. They look really sexy, have you noticed? A sassy woman embraces her full self and also looks after it – she treats her body with love and kindness and a good dose of appreciation and honesty.

 

3. Honor YOU – It all boils down to this, after all. Look after your body and your mind alike. Stay healthy, pamper yourself every once in a while, dress in a way that looks good on you, instead of simply following the latest fad, and stay fit. Try to keep your stress levels manageable, don’t overdo the care-taking, and try to worry less. And smile, smile, smile, any chance you get. A smiling woman is a sassy woman. A sassy woman does not entertain men who are not good for her – she knows what she values and lives by these values. A sassy woman does not go against herself – she honors herself.

 

After reading the above points, can you see the magnetic attributes of the sassy woman? A man who truly wants a partner in life yearns for a woman who has a lovely mix of warmth and gentleness, matched with a good sprinkle of authenticity and edge. He wants a life companion, a woman he can grow and evolve with, not a wallflower or a damsel in distress.

 

Be sassy and delighted with yourself, and you won’t believe how easy it will become to attract the right kind of man.

 

P.S. I’ll actually let you in on a little secret: there are four traits that keep the best men interested. Sassiness is one of them – do you want to know the other three?

 

=> Find out what they are by following THIS LINK. xo