Are You Always Falling For Men That Are Wrong For You?

Are You Always Falling For Men That Are Wrong For You?

by Claire Casey

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So you went out with that crazy guy because he had a loud motorcycle and the sexiest jeans (okay, it wasn’t really the jeans) that you ever laid eyes – and other parts of yourself – on. And it was, predictably, a disaster.

He was abusive, or addicted, a moocher, or a cheater. Not really a new story there. But before it was a disaster, it was a giant pile of delicious, coated in wild, and topped with fun.

It wasn’t that you chose all that… Or did you? Because you certainly did willingly donate 8 months of your life to that insanity. If you didn’t choose it, you at least accepted it.

Okay, Beautiful. It just may be time for a re-set… Just toss your stuff in my Jeep and let’s motor down to the beach and get a drink together, shall we?

 

Hi Claire,

I am 40 yrs old and single. I have lived alone with my children most of my adult life. I have had a few men in my life but two of them were with someone else (didn’t know until it was too late and I was hooked). One was a drug addict and abusive, and one cheated on me the entire year we were together. I seem to attract the wrong men.

When what I would bet is a good one comes along, they are such goofy and nerdy-looking men that I’m not attracted to them. I’m really not shallow, I’ve tried giving it a chance in hopes that they would grow on me but I’ve yet to succeed.

I purchased your online series Capture His Heart, but I work so much that when I get the chance to sit down and start to get into it, I fall asleep. I need help. Is there a “all in a nutshell” version? I am at a loss. ~ Candace

Hey there Candice, thanks for writing in. I’m going to talk to you just like I would if we were sharing a margarita on the beach.

 

Here’s what I see right off the top of my head:

 

1. Did you both agree to be exclusive, and not date other people?

You mentioned that two of the men “in your life” (I can’t tell what that means – dating, living together, or what) were “with someone else.”

My question is whether you had an explicit agreement between you to be exclusive. Maybe you did, or maybe you didn’t, but it isn’t cheating unless you’ve drawn very clear boundaries first. I only say this because so many women choose to date only one guy at a time and ASSUME (usually wrongly) that guys will choose the same.

Make your agreements and expectations clear, AND…

 

2. It’s never “too late.”

If you had both agreed to be exclusive, and your man cheated, that doesn’t mean it’s “too late” for anything. In fact, it’s exactly the right time to either:

a. Raise the issue with him and solve the problem or

b. Dump that guy.

Which brings me to my next point…

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How To Know If A Man Really Loves You

How To Know If A Man Really Loves You

Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want, it doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all their being. ~ Gabriel Garcia Marquez

Love.  Is there a more basic yet complex emotion in the lives of human beings? It can change our very existence, make our lives worth living, send us into the depths of sorrow, and everything in between. Perhaps it is so complex because love means different things to different people, which can leave us perplexed as to whether the feelings of the people we love are mutual. Or maybe, we just don’t have the tools to understand how others love us.

how to know if a man really loves you

So, how do you know if your man really loves you?

Sometimes it’s hard to tell, especially if you don’t know what signs to look for. His behavior may be confusing to you but bear in mind that he may also be confused about his emotions, or he may know exactly how he feels but his feelings may not be coming through clearly to you if you and your partner show love a little (or a lot) differently.   He also just may not feel the same way you do.  But how can you really know?

Yesterday, I was watching a fantastic video presentation by Michael Fiore (renowned relationship expert) on this very subject with a ton of great, useful information, and couldn’t wait to share it with you as well. I was impressed by the utter volume of amazing information in the video and in his program. He touches on many questions he’s been asked by women and provides the answers based on a survey he did of 50,000 men asking them what they really want in a woman, and so much more. Questions like:

Why does he look at other women?
Why do men lie?
Is he cheating on me?
Why doesn’t he open up to me?
Why does he get so quiet?

And, of course, the question that he says is by far the most asked by women: Does he really love me?

He also talks about how to empower yourself in your relationships by addressing topics such as:

The fundamental mistake women make which makes it impossible to ever have a truly happy relationship with a man. (Hint: One of the reasons is because far too many women choose men who don’t deserve them)

How to have a relationship where you feel truly loved and adored the way you’re supposed to with a man who really gets you, loves you, keeps you safe, and celebrates you.

How to tell the difference between a man who just wants a warm body beside him as opposed to a man who is truly in love with you.

What toxic thing you’re doing that is killing his feelings for you.

How love means something different for men and women.

Michael also goes through a 7 question quiz in the video that will help you tell how he really feels. Questions include:

Does he make you a priority?
Does he care about your pleasure in bed?
Does he respect and encourage you in life?

I’ll stop writing about the video and program here or else this post is going to get extremely long (so much to say!), so I’ll just leave it to Michael to enlighten everyone with his wisdom.

Watch Michael’s video by clicking here or on the image below.

Michael Fiore

Please be aware that Michael has built an entire program around his findings which he’ll tell you about in the presentation as well but you do not by any means have to buy it. I hope you simply enjoy the video on its own and if you feel that you could benefit from his program, please do sign up. I have both spoken to Michael and looked through his program personally, and can say with all certainty that I think it’s FANTASTIC and empowering.

Please do enjoy and I hope the video provides you with tools that you can take away with you to use to make your relationships so much better! ~ Gia