How to Finally Nail Down the Bad Boy and Make Yourself His One and Only

We all know the reasons we love the bad boy.

 

 

They’re tough, smooth, and they’re usually hotter than sin. While other men struggle to think of the right words to say, he just knows. And what he says makes you feel like your heart’s going to thump right out of your chest.

Where other guys are fumbling about where to take you on a date — asking you where you want to go (hello!?) … the bad boy already knows.

Whether you like it or not. Um, hot?

Yeah, well of course he knows. Cause he’s got a secret spot out on the dunes, or at the lake, or overlooking the city … where you’ll watch the sunset. And he’ll grab beers at the liquor store on his way to pick you up ON HIS MOTORCYCLE.

And at that perfect moment, he’ll kiss you. And then …  he’ll know just what to say to make you completely oozy and goozy inside.

And he’ll take you back to your place, and end the night with a passionate kiss, and you’ll be sure he’ll be going home not able to think about anything but you … just like it’s LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE for you to think of anything but him

And then …

He won’t call.

He’ll returns your text like … 2 days later.

And then … he’ll FLAKE … on your next planned date.

This is … The Bad Boy.

  

Taming of the Bad Boy: A How-To Guide

 

So close, yet so far away.

So how do we nail this guy down? You want him bad. But can you do the impossible!? Can you really get this drifter / greaser / super-hot   [ insert occupation here … (who even cares what he does!?) ]   … to love only you!?

You want it to be possible so bad. Well, the good news is … it is possible. Maybe.

Ok, it’s a tough one.

But anyway, below is your best shot.

So here goes.

 

Step #1: First, you gotta make yourself a hot commodity.

 

Okay, there are three main things that make a woman hot:

  • Effort in appearance:

 

Yes. Hair, makeup, cleavage, the whole nine yards. You cannot avoid this with the Bad Boy because he is obsessed with appearance. That’s why he’s the Bad Boy.

It’s all about creating a look. Now, if you want … your look can be au natural. But going with done-up glam is sort of a safer bet. Plus, it’ll give you confidence, and you’ll need it.

You don’t have to be Cindy Crawford, but put your best foot forward. Get some assistance from some savvy sales representatives at the makeup counter and in the women’s clothing department if necessary.

 

  • Wit and intelligence:

Learn to be snappy and witty. Practice with a close friend who you trust, and work on being natural and calm while you “deliver your lines.” Dead pan humor, and snarkiness are go-tos. This stuff can be learned.

The goal is to get away from your tendency to laugh nervously at everything and be a little more cool and aloof. You may not know it, but these are the qualities that you’re responding to in him, and he will respond to them in you too.

 

  • Not needing him for 23 hours … then needing him desperately for 1.

 

In other words, most of the times, be capable.

Be capable of handling yourself, your career, your friends, your home, your life.

 Then … show him that you need him in one area (with your car, for example). And after he helps you? Drop it. Say “thanks” and “seeya.”

 

 Step #2: DRAG EVERYTHING OUT.

 

When you go on dates, he’s so dreamy, right?

 We get it. You’re in love with him.

But you’ve gotta keep your lust in check. In other words, don’t let him have everything he wants.

For example, he wants to kiss you. Nope. Not yet.

He wants to hold your hand while you walk a whole three blocks on your way to the restaurant. Eh, how bout one block. Then you take your hand away.

And sex? Ha!

Out of the question at this point.

Bad Boy’s gotta earn that.

Now, play his game.

 

 Step #3: He’s not monogamous yet? No problem. Neither are you.

 

In other words, we’re talkin: Date. Other. People.

It’s tough. All you want is him, we know, we know, we get it.

But you gotta.

Date the guys who ask you, or start asking out guys yourself. And don’t feel bad about this. You’re just dating … just the way the guy you’re on a date with is.

The Bad Boy may be who you got your eye on, but you’ve got a right to continue living your life.

Just make sure to keep things casual and never string anyone along or try to “wield” some innocent fella in a way that makes Bad Boy jealous. That’s unkind.

 

Step #4: “Hello? Who Dis?”

 

Step four is act aloof. Your bad boy wants to be a bad boy. That super-cool persona that you identify him with? He’s trying for that. He wants you to think of him like that.

So, you gotta turn the tides on him. When he calls, don’t answer. Let it go to voicemail, then get back to him by text two days later.

Now normally, this would not be a good dating suggestion. If you really care about someone, you shouldn’t be playing games with them.

But The Bad Boy is a wild one. He’s not like normal guys, and as such, he warrants unusual handling.

By not responding directly to his texts and calls, you’re making him feel insecure (again, not usually what you want your guy to feel like). But this is good for The Bad Boy because remember: he’s cultivating this “who cares” attitude, and you need to rattle that cage a bit.

 

Step #5: See If It Works

 

These steps can help the Bad Boy fall in love with you. So now … you wait.

 

 

Cutting Your Losses: When It Doesn’t Work

 

They say that insanity can be defined as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

If this “plan” doesn’t work, try your hardest to forget the Bad Boy and move on because perusing him is only going to give you pain.

In fact, these relationships don’t have a good success rate. Ultimately, you want to nab this guy, then hopefully have him morph into a more dedicated, chill guy … or you just want to have some fun for a few months, and that can be okay too.

Just remember to prepare your heart for it. Because Bad Boys can be dangerous.

Unfortunately … that’s why we love ‘em.

 

Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever

Are You Always Falling For Men That Are Wrong For You?

Are You Always Falling For Men That Are Wrong For You?

by Claire Casey

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So you went out with that crazy guy because he had a loud motorcycle and the sexiest jeans (okay, it wasn’t really the jeans) that you ever laid eyes – and other parts of yourself – on. And it was, predictably, a disaster.

He was abusive, or addicted, a moocher, or a cheater. Not really a new story there. But before it was a disaster, it was a giant pile of delicious, coated in wild, and topped with fun.

It wasn’t that you chose all that… Or did you? Because you certainly did willingly donate 8 months of your life to that insanity. If you didn’t choose it, you at least accepted it.

Okay, Beautiful. It just may be time for a re-set… Just toss your stuff in my Jeep and let’s motor down to the beach and get a drink together, shall we?

 

Hi Claire,

I am 40 yrs old and single. I have lived alone with my children most of my adult life. I have had a few men in my life but two of them were with someone else (didn’t know until it was too late and I was hooked). One was a drug addict and abusive, and one cheated on me the entire year we were together. I seem to attract the wrong men.

When what I would bet is a good one comes along, they are such goofy and nerdy-looking men that I’m not attracted to them. I’m really not shallow, I’ve tried giving it a chance in hopes that they would grow on me but I’ve yet to succeed.

I purchased your online series Capture His Heart, but I work so much that when I get the chance to sit down and start to get into it, I fall asleep. I need help. Is there a “all in a nutshell” version? I am at a loss. ~ Candace

Hey there Candice, thanks for writing in. I’m going to talk to you just like I would if we were sharing a margarita on the beach.

 

Here’s what I see right off the top of my head:

 

1. Did you both agree to be exclusive, and not date other people?

You mentioned that two of the men “in your life” (I can’t tell what that means – dating, living together, or what) were “with someone else.”

My question is whether you had an explicit agreement between you to be exclusive. Maybe you did, or maybe you didn’t, but it isn’t cheating unless you’ve drawn very clear boundaries first. I only say this because so many women choose to date only one guy at a time and ASSUME (usually wrongly) that guys will choose the same.

Make your agreements and expectations clear, AND…

 

2. It’s never “too late.”

If you had both agreed to be exclusive, and your man cheated, that doesn’t mean it’s “too late” for anything. In fact, it’s exactly the right time to either:

a. Raise the issue with him and solve the problem or

b. Dump that guy.

Which brings me to my next point…

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