A Secret Way to Spark His Passion

A Secret Way to Spark His Passion

The third in an exclusive three-part series on seduction by Felicity Keith

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In the first two articles of this three-part seduction series, we covered making out like teenagers and bringing back the thrill of the chase. Now I’m going to cover a secret way to spark passion in your relationship.

 

It has to do with brain chemistry. Specifically, dopamine.

You may have heard about dopamine, it’s the neurochemical that gets quite a bit of press. Dopamine is a feel-good chemical that gets released during certain activities. It relates to great things like love, lust, desire, sex, food. And some not so great things like drugs, gambling, and other addictions.

And it can get activated from doing the activity itself (sex, drugs, eating chocolate). It also gets released simply by seeing (or hearing) triggers because it’s about the predicted reward as much as the actual reward (more on that in a sec).

When a human falls in love, dopamine levels soar. And when you fall in love, the by-product of that can be lots of sex, which puts your dopamine levels on overdrive. But only for a period of time.

The bummer news is that after awhile, dopamine doesn’t skyrocket anymore. Part of this is because you’ve gotten used to your partner and sex may become somewhat predictable.

You can combat this natural state of affairs by incorporating the element of surprise into your sex life.

Now of course you could take that literally and jump out of a cake naked on his birthday. SURPRISE! But there are easier (and less public) ways to surprise your lover and bring passion roaring to life.

 

Surprise 1: The Text Thunderbolt

I hope you are already using your smartphone regularly to send sexy little messages to your lover. And if you aren’t, you can have over 200 done-for-you-texts at your fingertips in my program The Language of Desire.

Even if you already flirt via text, making a calculated tweak to your messages will send delicious shivers down his spine.

The best way to do this is to send an unabashedly explicit text when he least expects it.

In the middle of a quiet midweek afternoon, fire off a message that tells him exactly how bad you want him. Be as bold and raunchy as you dare.

A simple “I can’t stop thinking about…” followed by a message like “you naked” or “the way you satisfied me last night” or “how bad I want you right now” are ways to get started.

 

Surprise 2: Unpredictable Place

Change up the scenery unexpectedly for a swift jolt of dopamine.

Most couples end up making love in bed. Hey, there is nothing wrong with that (it is comfy and convenient). But a simple decision to get busy in a different place can provide a flood of the feel-good chemical.

I think the more unexpected the better. So consider rooms like the kitchen, laundry room, or bathroom. You can also get it on outdoors, in your parked car, or schedule a tryst at a local hotel.

Make a point to regularly switch it up for a quick dose of dopamine!

 

Surprise 3: Attack of the Sex Kitten

Another easy way to surprise him is to play the role of aggressor. This is particularly effective if your man is the one who usually initiates the nookie.

Some easy ideas…

When he’s in the shower, undress and hop in for a quickie. When he arrives home from work, greet him at the door in lingerie. If you are watching a movie on the couch, straddle him and pounce.

By proactively being the aggressor once in awhile, you not only send his dopamine levels sky high, you also satisfy his inner rockstar sex god.

 

Ready for advanced techniques?

You can become a master of whipping your man into a frenzy of passion by getting your hot little hands on my best-selling program The Language of Desire.

Check out this video I created that explains why Michael Fiore dubbed me the “Indiana Jones of the Male Mind”.

Warning: Men have been known to become helplessly addicted to the women who learn these techniques!

 

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Why You SHOULD Keep The Lights On When You Get It On

Why You SHOULD Keep The Lights On When You Get It On

by Felicity Keith

Why You Should Keep the Lights On for Nookie

If you are the type to turn off the lights before getting busy with your man, read up!

With all of the messages we receive daily about our appearance, it’s no wonder that so many of us are critical of ourselves. And when you feel insecure about something, your natural inclination is to hide it. Not put it all out there on display!

But that’s exactly what I’m encouraging you to do.

I want you to “do it” in broad daylight…

With the lights on…

Letting him devour your body with his eyes…

Why you might ask?

It’s because men are highly VISUAL creatures. Adding in the ability for him to see how much pleasure he’s giving you sends his brain into sexual overdrive.

Here’s just a few reasons why:

1. Giving him permission to adore and pleasure your body feeds his ego.

Did you know the number one thing that turns a man on is your enthusiasm for sex and how much you enjoy his prowess? Yep, number one. Not how flat your tummy is or the lack of cellulite on your booty.

He wants to feel like he is taking you to the heights of bliss. And if you are too caught up in keeping covered, you can’t possibly surrender to the pleasurable sensations happening. If you refuse certain positions out of insecurity, that definitely affects how he interprets your enthusiasm.

2. Letting him watch himself have sex with you is literally intoxicating.

Two of his senses (three if you are talking dirty and moaning) are involved. Not only does he get to physically feel how amazing the sex is, he gets to watch how amazing it is, too. It’s a double-shot of hot for him. And his brain goes on overdrive releasing all of the amazing feel-good pleasure chemicals that frankly feel insanely incredible.

Plus, with the lights on, it’s like his own personal naughty movie.

Especially in positions like doggie style where he has a front row view of all the action. Or if you strategically place a mirror where he can take in the show. Yowza!

Okay, I get that the idea of putting it all on display sounds scary to some of you reading this. But here is what I want you to remember:
He’s not judging you NEARLY as much as you are.

He’s way more focused on enjoying the hot view of sex with you than on counting how many stretch marks you have. Because, hello! Naked woman having sex with him!

Also, if he tells you that you are beautiful…BELIEVE HIM. Don’t list out your flaws or put yourself down. Let him know that his appreciation is well-received.

In my program The Language of Desire , I give you tons of ways to not only feel your sexiest but also to empower you to know exactly how to blow his mind through dirty talk and specific techniques that reach right into his primal sexual brain. 

If you’d like more information about what goes through your man’s brain when it comes to sex as well as in depth information about how to use sexual fantasies to spice up your intimate connection, make sure to check out The Language of Desire. Click here for the article version (without sound) or here for the video version (with sound). Please just be aware that these are NOT safe for work or if you have little ones nearby.

Go check it out, you’ll BOTH be happy you did!

Felicity

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What Does it Mean When He Closes His Eyes During Nookie?

What Does it Mean When He Closes His Eyes During Nookie?

by Felicity Keith

 has his eyes closed during nookie

You are in bed together…

Passionately in the moment…

Feeling so intimately connected…

And then…

He closes his eyes in order to get to the “finish line”.

What exactly does that mean?

If you are like a lot of women, you might wonder if he’s retreating into a vivid fantasy world. Wondering, is he thinking about another woman?

I’m happy to tell you that his closing his eyes really has nothing to do with escaping from the moment with you and everything to do with actually enjoying the intense sensations happening.

For most guys, they put a certain amount of mental effort toward holding BACK on climaxing during sex. They want to last longer, to please you more, and not race to the finish. So when they actually do shift gears into allowing their orgasm to happen, the physical sensations are powerful. Closing his eyes allows him to fully tune in to what is happening pleasure-wise in his body.

It was explained to me in this way: When you take away one of the five senses, it makes the other senses and sensations stronger and more vivid.

When I surveyed my Man Panel when writing The Language of Desire (and the sexy secondary product, The Sensual Tsunami) about what male orgasm feels like, they set me straight. One man told me: “It’s like a slow-building rollercoaster that takes a very sharp incline almost straight up before you rocket straight back down. And you get this amazing feeling in your stomach right before you climax and then for the next 10-15 seconds the floor drops out and you are drifting in bliss. Then you come back to reality.”

With that kind of intensity, he isn’t even keeping track of what his eyes are doing!

You can also think about it like kissing. We close our eyes when we kiss not because we want to disconnect from the moment but because it actually draws our awareness closer to what is taking place physically. Except when it comes to orgasm, it’s about a million times more physical fireworks.

Could he be thinking about another woman when he closes his eyes?

Sure, it’s possible he’s mentally fantasizing about making love to a Victoria’s Secret model while he’s in bed with you. Just like sometimes you might close your eyes and think about Brad Pitt or Denzel Washington…or whoever floats the little man in your boat. Fantasizing in that manner isn’t a bad thing. It’s totally normal and most people (both men and women) do it on occasion. And it doesn’t damage your relationship when it’s something that happens once in awhile, especially when the fantasy includes a celebrity or someone you aren’t ever actually going to even meet…let alone get naked with.

If you’d like more information about what goes through your man’s brain when it comes to sex as well as in depth information about how to use sexual fantasies to spice up your intimate connection, make sure to check out The Language of Desire.  Click here for the article version (without sound) or here for the video version (with sound).  Please just be aware that these are NOT safe for work or if you have little ones nearby. 

Enjoy!

Felicity

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