The Top 4 Things You Can Learn From Expert Sexters

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If you’ve sent a text, chances are you’ve sent a sext. Er, at least a text that was on the edge of being a sext.

 

And c’mon. We know you liked it.

 

When you’re in a committed relationship (or at least dating someone and leading up to a committed relationship), sexting is healthy, exciting and super fun.

 

But we all weren’t born with the sexting gene …

 

In other words, some of us are better at the craft than others. Fortunately, those who excel at sexting (so say the recipients of their texty prose), are willing to divulge their secrets.

 

And all the better for us!

 

Here’s what you can learn from expert sexters.

 

#1. You gotta create a story.

 

Creating an amazing back-and-forth through sexting is like writing a book. You need to A) Set the scene and the characters (you two!), B) Pick the plot and C) Offer lots and lots of detail.

 

It’s all in the detail. Get creative.

 

#2 Keep things going. Never end a text without leaving it open for continuation.

 

Going along with the last one: Don’t close the storyline. This means you have to keep things going.

 

Have you ever heard people talk about improv comedy? The rule is to say “Yes. And …” to absolutely everything that your improv partner says.

 

You want to be able to go back and forth easily with your partner so that there’s never a dull moment or an awkward situation where one of you has to build things back up again from scratch.

 

This is exactly the same sort of thing you have to remember when it comes to sexting. Go with what they say and then add something of your own, and then leave something else open for the other person to react to.

 

#3 Don’t think too literally.

 

Remember when we said to Get creative. That’s easier said than done, right? We get it.

 

But for starters, just remember that the things you sext about may not be actual things you’ve done or even things that you plan on doing.

 

No, you don’t actually have to be wearing a pink thong to let on that you are. Yes, you can be in your PJs with unwashed hair and having the time of your life sexting.

 

#4 Put out feelers.

 

One of the biggest things that people worry about when sexting is what the other person will think of them if they say such-and-such. Usually, it’s something that’s a little bit out of their own comfort zone, and so they assume that the other person might be “freaked out” by it.

 

If you’re old enough to have seen the Seinfeld episode where Jerry starts dirty talking with one of his many girlfriends, you know what we’re talking about. In the episode, Jerry’s girlfriend wants to dirty talk with Jerry, but he’s nervous about what to say. Finally, he says something to try it out, and the woman is totally repulsed by it.

 

This is the fear.

 

But don’t let it freak you out too much. The truth of the matter is that if you have a good, loving relationship, you can’t freak your partner out too much. And if you do, you can always laugh it off.

 

But to avoid this altogether, start by putting out feelers.

 

For example, if you want to take the conversation in a certain direction, tap into the new topic just a little and see what you get in return. If they seem willing to go there, go for it! If not, change subjects to something more neutral.

 

Get Sexting Advice From the Pros

 

The above is naturally advice from people who have sexted a lot, and often, that’s not us. It can be hard to just jump into this game when you’ve never done it before. So if your partner is up for it, and you literally have no idea where to start, fortunately, you have options.

 

In a nutshell, you can ask the real sexting pros to, well … do it for you.

 

The Language of Desire Program is a complete relationship guide that can help you hone your communication skills (in and out of the bedroom) to make you the most desirable woman your man has ever laid eyes on.

 

Whoever it is that you want to seduce or woo or make fall for you will be swept off his feet when you use the special techniques taught through Language of Desire. It’s a serious win, and it’s got tons of programs, guides, techniques AND complete “done for you” texts that you won’t have to even think about. Just press send, and let him come to you …

 

However you go about seducing your man, don’t forget the power of texting and sexting. We live in the 21st century, and phones and texting aren’t going anywhere! Embrace sexting. Get good at it (with a little help). And see how it can work for you to help you get the man of your dreams—literally any man you desire.

 

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The 10 Second Text That Will Make Him Smile For Hours

The 10 Second Text That Will Make Him Smile For Hours

 

Whether you’ve got your eye on a man you still need to get to know better or you’re looking for ways to really spice things up with your boyfriend or husband today, texting is the way to a man’s heart. Yeah, seriously.

 

How do we know this?

 

Direct from men themselves! Well, one man in particular and not just any man: Michael Fiore.

 

Michael Fiore is a texting and relationship expert who has been head-hunted by some of the biggest names in television and media. Most recently, Michael was on the Rachel Ray Show, talking about a program he’s created to help any woman get any man she wants. But more on that later.

 

For now, we’re talking about one text, that will literally make your guy have a perma-grin on his face for hours and be unable to hold himself back from you when he finally gets to see you.

 

It may sound too good to be true, but seriously, it’s not. This thing works, and it’s worked for hundreds of women and their partners (or now partners because they were able to snag the guy of their dreams with this one text!).

 

So without further ado, we give you the ultimate guide for making any man become instantaneously obsessed with you and only you … (oh, and exactly what you need to say will be near the end).

 

Guide to Writing the Hottest “C&A” Text

 

“C&A”?

 

According to Michael Fiore, C and A stands for Curiosity and Attention. These are the two most vital things you need to have in order to capture the twinkle in your man’s eye. Oh and a cell phone. Michael is quick to tell you not to forget that for this to work, your man needs to have a cell that they text with all the time. These days, that’s probably easy. Men are addicted to their phones, and if you send him a text, no matter where he is, he’s going to see it.

 

In this way, texting is the perfect medium for connecting with your guy. It’s the best way to both get his attention and capture his curiosity … his imagination. Because ultimately, you want to get in his head.

 

The Irresistible Whisper …

 

You’ll love this. Michael Fiore’s first piece of advice when creating the Curiosity and Attention text for your man is to not grab his attention with a ridiculous SHOUT as so many women foolishly do (and this usually ends terribly) but to use an irresistible whisper.

 

Be gentle, calm and seductive instead of loud, abrasive and needy.

 

Next, Michael says to bait the hook with curiosity. Make him feel that he can’t NOT respond to your text in order to learn more about the intriguing things you’re talking about. He says that by creating an “Alternate World” for you and your guy, you’re going to allow for bigger and more intimate feelings to bubble up. You’ll be able to feel connected and close with one another. Passion will erupt in this world … Even when you’re at home taking care of the kids or driving to work and even when he’s stuck at the office or in a business meeting … you’ll both be able to be connected to this world.

 

As a man, creating this world and leaving this blinking cursor space for him to fill will also make him feel more confident, more powerful and appreciated. This is what every man wants to feel. They don’t want ego killers.

 

What’s an “ego killer? It’s like a distraction, says Michael. For example, it might be a reminder of a heavy day of work at his job or traffic on the way home. You want to get him on Cloud 9 and keep him there.

 

Alright. Want to know the first thing you should send?

 

“I can’t stop thinking about …”

 

It’s super easy, but this phrase (trust in Michael here) is powerful. Why? First of all, it makes you seem like you’re almost in pain about something … that has to do with him. Here, we meet the curiosity factor: He will not be able to last the day let alone a few hours before texting back: “About what?”

 

He’s got to know.

 

Now keep in mind that Michael Fiore recommends not to text anything in between. Have faith that he is going to respond. Just send that first text … and you should definitely get a response.

 

Now, if he does text back “About what?” or something like that, you’ve got to know what to do. And you don’t get a response at all … you’ve got to know what to do too.

 

No worries. Michael has you covered with his program, Text the Romance Back. In this program, you’ll be able to secretly access the most intensely emotional part of your man’s brain. You’ll be able to unleash his romantic side and bate him into hunting you and pursuing you just like you want to be. After all, to men and women, romance is different. For men, it’s like a game. And for them, if you play the game wrong as a woman … you could lose.

 

Men want to chase you and give you all the romance you deserve and want. So why not let them? Let them make you swoon.

 

But you’ve got to attract him and make him insanely curious first. And to do that you need the text above as well as the others that Michael Fiore will show you in his program.

 

Set loose the romantic beast in your man … check out Text the Romance Back right now.

 

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Why Texting Is the New Talking and How to Flirt Text the Right Way

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If you grew up in a time when waiting by the phone for your boyfriend or girlfriend to call was the norm, texting may be a little weird for you. Even if you’re used to texting now, you may not be exactly sure how to use it to your advantage in a romantic relationship. How the heck do you use texting to flirt?

 

Well, if you don’t know, you need to find out. For one, texting can be extremely useful in flirting. It’s easy once you know what to do and it’s super effective.

 

In fact, one of the ways that texting can come in extremely handy for a relationship is when you want to reignite that spark between you two and learn how to flirt again even if it’s been many years since you were at that stage of your relationship.

But before we get into exactly how to flirt text, let’s talk about something you’re just going to have to accept: texting is the new talking. Instead of chatting someone up at a bar or getting flirty with someone in the corner booth, couples are texting.

 

Yes, yes, we know, we know: How horrible!

 

Well, there are many sides to this. Let’s explore:

 

The Good

 

Okay. Texting is not that bad. We know that you want to keep the real conversation going in your relationship, and that is great! But that doesn’t mean that texting can’t supplement that conversation.

 

Texting can keep you in touch if you’re in a long-distance relationship. And you can keep in touch throughout the day. It’s also a great format for talking when you two are fighting or going through a rough patch … and it’s just too hard to talk face-to-face right away.

 

The Bad

 

The bad part of the new situation with texting and relationships is that people don’t know the right way to do it. They usually either text too much or too little.

 

Have you ever sent someone a message that was super kind and sweet and had at least a few sentences with a friendly exclamation point at the end … only to get a “K” in return?

 

Yeah. That’s too little.

 

But have you ever had someone bombard you with long messages throughout the day, bugging you to respond? “Hey, are you there?” 5 minutes later “I said are you there???”

 

That’s too much. And annoying.

 

The Ugly

 

Finally, the ugly. This is the thing that most people talk about when they talk about how horrible texting is these days. It’s the fact that some couples are texting more than they’re actually talking. In other words, their heads are into their phones constantly, and they don’t even have time to look up and actually converse with your partner. This is bad obviously. No one’s arguing that.

 

What we’re saying is that texting can be a good supplement to your relationship. It can create passion like you never thought possible. And it can keep you connected even when you’re seemingly falling apart. Here’s how.

 

How to Use Texting to Bring Sex and Passion Back Into Your Relationship

 

Okay, you’ve seen the good, the bad, and the ugly of the new way that couples are text messaging these days.

 

Now, let’s talk about exactly how to use flirtatious text messaging to bring passion back into your relationship. Here are three key things you need to know.

 

Give Them an Opening

 

For starters, remember not to dominate the conversation too much, but also … be the leader. Sound confusing? It’s actually not.

 

You just need to keep in mind that your partner hasn’t started this text conversation, so they may not be sure how to keep up or where it’s headed. You need to guide them in the right direction and give them space to say exactly what you’re looking for. Which leads us to the next tip …

 

Be Mysterious

 

Don’t be super obvious. Don’t bombard them with huge amounts of long texts and go into great detail with everyone. That’s just too much. You need to be a little mysterious and make them wonder who this new you us.

 

Use ellipses (…) at the ends of your sentences to convey mystery and intrigue. Ask questions that are easy for them to answer in a sexy or cute way. Say things that lead into even sexier topics … Then …

 

Say This Thing That They Want You to Say …

 

You need to remember that there are certain things this person is desperately wanting you to say.  For example, they might want you to be visual. So if you want something to happen between the two of you, you need to set up the picture.

 

Make them imagine it so that they want you more. On the other hand, some people want you to explain what might happen between the two of you, say, tonight in the bedroom, and in that case, you need to know what to say of course.

 

To figure out what your partner wants you to say and how to say whatever this is … you need a skill set. This can be difficult to deal with if you’re just starting out with flirtatious texting, so here’s some advice. Check out Text the Romance Back. Michael Fiore, renowned relationship expert, created Text the Romance Back to help couples reignite that spark between them and bring intimacy and romantic back into the relationship. Check it out here and see what you think.

 

In the end, if you come away with anything from this article, it should be that you need to put effort into the texts that you send to your partner. Whether your relationship is on the rocks or you’re just looking for a new way to spice things up, text messaging is the new “talking,” so use it to your advantage. You won’t be sorry!