All in all, dating is something that can be so exciting and fun!
And it can be the bane of your existence.
It’s both, that’s it.
In your 20s, it’s mostly a game. You’re relaxed, not worried about finding The One so soon. “You have plenty of time to find your soul mate!” Plus, you have So. Many. Options.
In your 30s, things get a little more serious for many people. Maybe you decide to start online dating because you’re “really serious about settling down” or you do get into a long term relationship or two.
In your 40s, let’s be frank: Dating to find your soul mate can definitely be more of a challenge. It’s a time when many people have settled into who they are, and the dating pool is just smaller. This presents a few upsets for 40-something-daters, but finding love in this decade also comes with its advantages.
Namely, you know who you are AND you know what you’re looking for. These are two extremely important pieces of knowledge that 20 and 30-somethings definitively lack.
With that being said, getting out there and being active about looking for love can be somewhat of an art form. So we’re offering a few tips and tricks that any 40-something can use to make sure they find their true soul mate in good time.
#1 See This Journey to a Soul Mate as an Adventure.
In other words: Go out into the world every day. Be positive. Don’t be timid or scared or afraid to try new things. Take risks. Don’t turn back when things get hard. Be patient. Have fun.
Because it is a pretty epic journey. So why not be excited about it and make it adventure? You’re heading into the unknown, quite literally. That’s okay, though. When it comes to “adventures,” this one’s pretty safe, and fortunately, it can also be thrilling.
Just don’t give up when you go through a rough patch. And know that there will be rough patches.
To combat that … have a sense of humor.
You’re going to kiss some frogs along the way. You’re going to have awful dates, and you’re going to mess up stuff. It’s all part of the game. Be enthusiastic and passionate, but don’t take anything too seriously. When you finally take the pressure off yourself and just have fun …that’s when you bump into Mr. or Ms. Right when you least expect it.
#2 Write Down Who You Want … and Become That Person.
Many men and women in their 40s are looking for someone successful, responsible, kind, loving, fun, attractive and ready to commit. Seriously, you wouldn’t say “no” to any of those traits, right? They’re all good ones.
With that being said, they might put themselves out there with no regard for these basic traits. Let’s take “fun” and “kind,” for example.
Let’s say you want someone fun and kind, but you are shy.
That’s fine. But keep in mind that no one is going to know that you’re fun and kind if you don’t talk or make eye contact because of your shyness.
You’ve got to personify who you would want to date.
But you might say: “When they get to know me, they’ll see that I’m fun and kind!”
Well … that’s not how it works, and we’re sure you know that. Don’t assume potential dates are psychic. You’ve got limited time to show off.
Take attractiveness as another example. You might think before a date or event: “Screw that, I’m not getting all dolled up! Take me as I am!”
But don’t you want to date someone who is attractive?
Listen, you don’t have to have washboard abs and long flowing blonde locks. Just take care of yourself. Become a person you would want to date. (Yes, of the opposite sex. You get it.)
Try it. It works.
#3 Lacking Confidence? Go to the Professionals.
Have you ever wished you were someone else when it came to trying to attract a mate? Do you always end up being “the friend”? Are you confused about what the opposite sex is actually looking for in your sex?
These issues really come down to confidence.
Confidence is absolutely necessary when it comes to finding love in your 40s. You need it in order to hold yourself properly, show your true intentions (that you’re looking for a mate, not just casual sex or a friendship), and seduce the object of your attention with authentic conversation, an empowering attitude and an attractive presence.
But just trying to be more confident won’t cut it. In order to attract your mate, you must learn the Art of Seduction from a professional, quality source. Women can learn this with The Ultimate Attraction Transformation.
The Ultimate Attraction Transformation is a comprehensive course on understanding and attracting your ideal mate. It’s worked for thousands of women already, and you could be next on the list. The program starts you from the beginning no matter where you are in your journey toward love.
So. Do you already have your eye on someone? Are you right now in danger of the person you know is your soul mate slipping away? Or are you completely brand new to the dating-in-your-40s-game? This is the program you need.
Remember: Your soul mate is out there. That’s a sure thing. You just have to go and find them! With these tools and resources, you’ll be armed with the best possible tools to do so. Good luck on your road to a life a love!