No Regrets: Reconnecting With “The One That Got Away”

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by Brad Browning, Breakup Expert & Best-Selling Author

 

Here’s a fun fact:  in a recent survey, nearly 40% of adults said their single biggest regret in life was “breaking up with a past lover”.

 

Are you in the same boat?  Have you let ‘the one’ slip out of your life, only to realize later you’d made a huge mistake?

 

If so, here’s my advice:  stop wondering “what if” and do something about it.

 

Now is your chance.  In fact, now is a perfect time to act, because I’m about to tell you exactly what you need to do to undo your past mistakes and win back “the one that got away”.

 

Before I begin, let me address the skeptics:  yes, it is actually completely possible to re-unite with your ex!  That’s especially true if the breakup happened within the last couple of years.

 

As a breakup coach and best-selling author, I help my clients re-build a past romance, and I see them succeed all the time.  Trust me, it’s possible.

 

Here’s the basic formula:

 

First, you need to get your ex’s contact info…. a phone number is best but you can also break the ice and begin re-building a connection via Facebook or even by email.

 

Second, you need to think of something funny or meaningful that you can send to your ex in a text message (or FB msg, snap, email, etc) to generate some feelings of nostalgia and get back on their radar in a positive way.  This is critical.  You must break the ice with something that will make your ex smile, laugh, or remember a happy memory you shared together in the past.

 

Third, you need to be patient!  You can’t rush this… pushing ahead too quickly is just going to weird out your ex and scare them off for good.  At first, your encounters need to be really brief and sometimes may even need to seem “accidental”.  You’re just setting the stage in preparation for phase 2, which I call “re-kindling”.

 

Forth, it’s time to turn your playful texting into an in-person meeting.  You just want to meet up to ‘catch up over coffee’… nothing more. Don’t call this a “date”…. you don’t want to set off any alarm bells.  This quick meet-up has three purposes:  a) remind your ex what a fun and interesting person you are;  b) show them the ‘new you’ and how well your life is going nowadays; and  c) do some flirting to build sexual tension.

 

Fifth, you need to turn this one ‘coffee date’ into a second and a third meet-up (without coming on too strong and scaring them away).  This is what I call the “Re-attraction” phase… it’s where you use a few sneaky tricks to build sexual tension and establish a romantic connection without the other person even realizing what’s happening.  Learn about some sneaky psychological tactics you should use in this phase by clicking here to access to my latest how-to video (I cover this topic part way through, but you should watch the beginning too).

 

And finally, when you’ve followed the steps in my re-attraction phase and built enough of a connection with your ex, things tend to fall into place on their own.  You’ll definitely need to continue flirting like mad and ramp up the sexual connection…. and eventually things will just “click” and you’ll find yourself back in love.

 

So there you have it… that’s the basic formula for re-connecting with “the one that got away”.

 

Yes, I know what’s going on in your head at this point…  “It all sounds too easy, Brad,” you’re thinking.  “What if they’re dating someone new?  What if you live 500 miles apart?”

 

Sadly, both those questions are among the many excellent scenarios that I don’t have space to address in this article.  The best place to get more in-depth answers to those questions, and many others, is in this video that I just made public (watch it ASAP, because I’m going to put it back in the ‘members only’ section soon).

 

OK, now there’s just one more thing I have to tell you… and pay close attention, because my last tip is the most important one by far….

 

Don’t go through life wondering “what if”!  Put aside your fears, and chase after true love, because you may never find someone like that again.  There’s no excuse, because I’ve given you the blueprint…. all you have to do is use it.

How to get your ex boyfriend back and make him ready to commit

Get your ex boyfriend back and ready to commit…

by avoiding these three mistakes

By: Brad Browning

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So let’s get the bad out of the way first (I swear the good news is coming) – your boyfriend dumped you and it feels awful. You miss him. You call him and text him all the time, but he doesn’t seem interested in talking to you. Or worse, he simply ignores you.

 

If only you could show him how much you love him, he’d come sprinting back into your arms, eager to spend a lifetime with you and only you.  Admit it, you’re thinking it, right?

 

Thing is, if you really want your ex boyfriend back, it isn’t about showing him how much you love him. It isn’t about confessing to him how much he means to you. And it isn’t about how much you beg, plead, and promise to change.

 

Believe it or not, if you want to win your ex boyfriend back (and have him ready to commit to you for the long haul), you need to do the opposite of all of the above.  I’ll get into that juicy stuff in just a minute…

 

But first, I need to tell you about three brutal mistakes that most women make that ruin any chance of getting back together with their ex boyfriend…

 

Mistake #1 – Showing too much interest in getting back together.

 

When you’re feeling desperate to get your relationship back, you tend to act in ways you never thought possible. But never, ever put all your cards out on the table by telling him how much you want him back.

 

Remember, men don’t just want a challenge – they NEED a challenge. They thrive on it.

 

Even if you’re in a committed relationship right now, boredom will kill interest faster than you can say, “Men are so weird.” In order for you to re-attract the man of your dreams, you need to show him that there’s so much more to you than meets his eye. You need to show him that he is losing out by dumping you.

 

If you become too readily available for him, the less he’ll respect you…and the less he’ll want a romantic relationship with you ever again.

 

Mistake #2 – Trying to talk it out with their exes.

 

Women think that if they could only talk things out with their ex boyfriends that eventually they’ll come running back to them.

 

Dead wrong.

 

Often times, trying to convince your ex boyfriend with words will drive him further and further away…

 

See, when you try and use logic to win your ex boyfriend back, you’re only speaking to the rational side of his brain (the left side of his brain). In order to remind him of how it felt to feel passion and emotion for you, you need to speak directly to the emotional side of his brain (the right side of his brain). I’ll tell you how to do this in just a second.

 

Mistake #3 –  “Online stalking” their ex boyfriends.

 

Admit it. You’ve been on his Facebook or Instagram since you’ve broken up… too. Many. Times. Not only will visiting your ex boyfriend’s social media make you feel WORSE about yourself, but you’re putting him on a “mental pedestal”. You fool yourself into thinking that he’s better than you when HE ISN’T. You trick yourself into believing that his “new girl” is better than you. If you really want to win back your ex boyfriend, then you need to stop thinking that you aren’t good enough – because you are good enough.

 

Now that we have those mistakes out of the way, here’s something you CAN do to get your ex boyfriend to drop everything, rethink ever breaking up with you, and take the step to open up dialogue between the two of you to work it out and get back together again…

 

Ready to Take The Next Step?

 

If you really want to get your ex boyfriend back and make him ready to commit to you again like never before, then you need to watch this free video I made for you.

 

I’ve been a breakup expert for the last decade and I know exactly what makes men “tick”.

 

Even if he’s cold to you, doesn’t want to talk to you, and swore on his life he’d never get back together with you, then you need to click here to watch this video.

 

In this video, I’ll reveal my three step process that will ensure you get the man of your dreams back into your arms (and I’ll teach you how to keep it that way, too).

 

I’ll also share with you a story that might sound quite similar to yours…
Just click here to watch this free video presentation.

 

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5 Ways Back to a Healthy Relationship with Your Ex

5 Ways Back to a Healthy Relationship with Your Ex

by Rick Wallace

5 ways back to a healthy relationship with your ex

 

There is an old adage that says, “Your ex is your ex for a reason,” implying that a person should never seek to rekindle a relationship from their past; however, life is far from being that simple.

There are many factors that impact whether a person is a good match for you or not, and just because a person is not a good match at one point does not mean that they will never be a good match.

For example, one of the most prevalent factors that can cause a relationship to fizzle, and yet be rekindled later is immaturity. Sometimes people simply need time to grow.

Other times, people simply break up prematurely, which can be the result of intolerance based on previous relationships.

There are definitely times in which it is not a good idea for a person to seek a relationship with an ex, especially in instances in which there was any type of abuse; however, there are other times in which it may actually be a good idea.

Following, are five ways that you can work your way back to a healthy relationship with your ex.

 

1. Put it All on the Table

Whether you are starting from scratch or rebuilding a relationship, communication and transparency are essential. This is the time to evaluate the entire situation.

It can be easy to only see or remember  what’s good about your ex when you are lonely, but before moving back into the relationship, it is very important to put all of the cards on the table.

Be honest about the concerns that you have, and discuss conflict resolution.

 

2. Own Up to Any Mistakes You Made

You would be surprised how hard it can be for people to admit that they were wrong about something, but it is absolutely necessary if you want to build a healthy relationship with your ex.

Your honesty builds trust and credibility with your ex. It also allows you to develop a solid foundation on which you can engage future conflicts.

 

3. Avoid Rehashing the Past

This may seem a little confusing when considering the previous two steps, but there is a difference between pointing out concerns and pointing fingers.

Leave the hostility and the blame game in the past. Although the two of you know each other, this is the chance for a fresh start and you don’t want to blow it with rehashing old problems.

 

4. Tap Into that Old Loving Feeling

This is where reconnecting with your ex is cool. With the average relationship, you have to take the time to get to know a person, so there is a learning curve.

When you reconnect with your ex, you two will have that old loving feeling to call on, and the understanding of what makes the other happy. Make sure you plug into those good memories and old behaviors that drove you crazy about one another.

 

5. Create New Memories

Just as important as it is to tap into those old situations that make you smile, it is equally important to create new memories and find other interests to share with one another.

This is one of the most effective ways to rekindle that old fire, and it is also one of the best ways to bond with one another.

Obviously, there are some challenges when reconnecting with your ex. You are aware of their imperfections, and if you are not careful, that can create contempt; however, leaving the past behind and embracing all that is good about your partner is conducive to a fresh  new start. The built-in warmth that already exists gives you a distinct advantage over a new relationship.

 

Of course knowing that you have a CHANCE for you to get a healthy relationship back doesn’t tell you exactly HOW to get your ex back  . . .

Which is why I want you to go watch this awesome video . . .

Text Your Ex Back

It shows you how to use tiny little text messages to “bait” your ex into begging to have you back . . .

Text Your Ex Back

This is powerful stuff and you should be really careful to only use it if you ACTUALLY want your ex back… and actually make it work this time!