Are You Just a Stop Along the Way or Is He in Love? Here’s How to Tell

A lot of women think that if a guy does the following, he’s in love with you:


  • He texts and calls you.
  • He takes you out and gives you things.
  • He compliments you.
  • You catch him staring at you lovingly.
  • He makes you promises about your future together.


The Bonding Code


Well, we’re sorry to break it to you … but him doing all of these things does not mean he’s in love with you.


Sure, it could happen in the future. What you’re seeing above are some of the first phases of what could blossom into a true and deep love, so you’ve got potential there …


But it’s not everything. True love is obvious. It’s big, it’s bold, and it looks completely different than a guy just giving you a text every few days and taking you out for dinner before sex on a Friday night.


If you really want your man to be truly in love with you (and you should), a relationship of only passion won’t do it. A relationship of only convenience won’t do it. This “love” won’t last. It’s fleeting.


To help you see things more clearly, below, you’ll find a list of key signs that you should look out for. If you notice your boyfriend, fiancé or husband doing any of the following, you definitely need to consider that he may not actually be fully in love with you.


Warning Signs That It’s Not True Love


  1. He Doesn’t Return Your Texts or Calls Right Away


This is a big one. Men in love want to be with or talk to their women all the time. They won’t wait to call or text you back.


And if you’re thinking he might be acting distant just because it’s a new relationship and he doesn’t want to appear “too eager,” well, think again. That’s just not how men who are truly in love think.  


  1. It Seems Like He’s Looking for Fights


You might find yourself thinking Did we always fight this much? It seems like you have fights about everything: Movies, politics, who takes out the garbage, how your friends treat him, your phone’s ringtone. Anything … and everything.


  1. He Randomly Gives You the Silent Treatment


Women are usually the ones saying “I’m fine” and not meaning it when there’s something really going on. But guys can do it too. They clam up and won’t tell you why.


Generally, women will get super worried at this stage and start divulging all their feelings. Sadly, this only pushes him further away.


  1. He Doesn’t Hold Your Hand


Think about it. Holding hands is something that only two people in love do. It serves little purpose really. It’s not a kiss or sex. It’s just holding hands in public to show you care.


So watch: If you’re walking together and he doesn’t grab your hand, that’s a red flag. If you grab his hand, and he lets it go nonchalantly a few minutes later … another red flag.


  1. He’s Always on His Phone


Not the computer, his phone. And he’s not scrolling through something casually or randomly looking up sports stats or weather forecasts. He’s intent. He’s tapping away with his thumbs. He jumps on it when it rings or dings with a text.


You probably ask, “Hey, what are you doing over there?” And he answers, “Oh nothing.” Or he might say: “Just checking sports” or “Just work stuff.”


  1. He Seems to Be Gone a Lot


Maybe he’s out with his friends. Maybe he really does have to work late like he told you. Maybe he’s just cruising around because he doesn’t want to be with anyone … even you.


It’s hard to hear, we know, but when your man seems to be gone or busy a lot, something is clearly wrong in your relationship. Men in love want to be with their partners come Hell or high water almost all the time.


  1. Sex Is … Just Sex


Maybe you’re not having sex at all. But you might be. After all, men are physical, and even when they’re not in love, they’re still interested in the passionate side of things. But think about it: Is the sex you’re having loving?


One of the reasons why a healthy sex life is great for two people who are in love is that this act bonds them. If you don’t feel genuinely loved and adored during or after sex, the bond is not there.


What to Do if You’ve Concluded He’s Out of Love With You


Did you just read the above text and decide your man is not in love with you? Are you fairly certain?


We know this can be a hard realization to take in. It’s not easy to look at the man who you love and realize he does not love you back.


But don’t panic.


First, take a deep breath. You two aren’t over yet. Don’t start planning a break up speech or filing papers for divorce, and if you’ve just started dating, don’t give up on him.


Why not?


This whole scenario … it happens a lot. A lot more than you know. Women all over the country are dealing with this very problem: Their man used to love them or has the potential to love them. But there’s something in the way.


If you are in this situation, you can fix this. You can bring the love back in. How?


It’s simple really. It’s called The Bonding Code, and it’s an amazingly engineered system that breaks down the 5 emotional phases of men falling in love. Throughout the Bonding Code process, each step is critical, and what you do as the woman in the relationship is also critical. You’re the solution.


The program was created and honed to perfection by licensed relationship expert, Bob Grant, who spent years working with women who were in the same spot as you right now.


Imagine your man not being able to take his eyes off you …


Not being able to keep his hands off you …


Not seeing any other woman in the room … except you.


If you’re sick of being on the sidelines of what could be a beautiful relationship full of lasting love, then see what The Bonding Code can do for you.


How Do I Know If He Is Really In Love With Me?

9 Ways He’s Trying to Tell You that He’s in Love with You

By Rick Wallace

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A common question asked by women all around the world is: How do I know if he is really in love with me?

The truth is that men are not that hard to figure out. They are designed to express their state of mind and emotional state through their actions. They are not always the best at verbal expression, and many times they are judged a little too harshly for this.

The best way to evaluate and assess if your man really and truly loves you is to observe his actions and behavior.

Following are nine signs that are indicative of authentic love. When you experience this behavior in your relationship, you have found someone worth building with and fighting for.


  1. He Respects You


This is extremely important, and as a woman you may be able to understand this from a superficial perspective; however, it is much deeper and more powerful than it seems when you initially read it.

You see, men value respect above all else, including love. While conducting research for her book, Shaunti Feldhahn, the author of “Inner Lives of Men,” posed a question to male participants of her study: “If you had to choose, would you rather feel alone an unloved in the world, or would you rather feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone?” A whopping 74 percent said that they would rather feel alone and unloved than be disrespected. So, a man who respects you is honoring you in the greatest manner possible from his perspective.  


  1. His Actions Match His Words


This speaks to his intentions and his character. A man who does what he says is a man who can be trusted, and it lets you know that if he is saying it and doing it, then he actually means it.  


  1. He Takes Interest in Your Life


Love has a way of draining selfish inclinations for the soul of a person. It has the capacity to drive a person to be concerned about more than their self-interests. When a man takes an interest in you, it is a reflection of concern in knowing and understanding what makes you happy.


  1. He is There for You


Having someone there when you need them is an essential element in a relationship. It provides the security and confidence that is vital to creating stability that provides peace-of-mind, even when peace may be elusive.  


  1. He Fully Involves You in His Life


Men are not generally inclusive, so when they completely involve you in their lives, the motive is relevant. Men who compartmentalize their relationship with you, have not completely opened their heart to, but when a man invites you into his life completely, he is saying, through his actions, that you belong there.  


  1. You Don’t Have To Chase Him


Never chase a man. First of all, it is not appealing to him. Secondly, when you have his heart, you will not have to chase him. He will naturally make himself available to you. Men have the ability to be emotionally detached, until they actually reach the point of love, and then there will be no mistake that they want to be with you.  


  1. He Consistently Speaks of Your Future Together


A man who speaks consistently of your relationship in the future tense, or he often mentions future plans that include you, has allowed you into his heart, and he loves you. This means he sees you as more than a present fling or event. He sees you as a significant part of his future.  


  1. He Compromises


Compromise is another component of a relationship that is expressive of a heart that is no longer selfish. When he is willing to compromise, he is saying that you matter enough to him to inspire him to be willing to give up something in order to ensure to happiness.  


  1. He Values Your Opinion


That point at which a man gives significant gravity to your opinion is the moment that he begins to trust you, and he considers you. It means that he is not functioning within the vacuum of narcissism, and he believes you have his best interest at heart. Additionally, he also feels that what you think matters.


A man’s actions will always be the greatest indicator of whether he actually loves you or not. This actually makes him very easy to read. Start reading your man’s actions immediately!


If you have ever looked at a man you were dating or were even married to – a man you’ve given your heart to 100% – and found yourself anxiously, desperately wondering . .

“Does he really love me?”


If you have (and I know you have), you need to watch the special video my friend and colleague put together for you that teaches you 7 Simple Questions to reveal if a man REALLY loves you right now before it’s too late.