9 Ways To Be AWESOME In Bed

9 Ways To Be AWESOME In Bed

by Rick Wall

9 ways to be awesome in bed

 

It can be somewhat of a touchy subject, but this is definitely a subject worth addressing. How you and your mate perform in the bedroom is going to have a remarkable impact on your relationship, one way or the other.

 

Finding ways to raise the level of your performance in the bedroom will definitely increase the excitement in other areas of your relationship. The truth is that there are some simple steps that you can take that will definitely make you more awesome in the bedroom.
 
Are you ready to get started? Let’s go!

 

Avoid Being Judgemental

Being judgemental or critical of your partner’s desires or suggestions may serve to make them clam up and become cold. This is definitely not what you are looking for in the bedroom.

It is important to understand that you and your partner are different, and it is only normal that their desires and ideas for what takes place in the bedroom may differ somewhat from yours. Be willing to be open to what they want without compromising your own limits (more on limits below).

 

Be Adaptable

It is often stated that variety is the spice of life, and the same applies to your sex life. Doing the same thing over and over will drain the excitement and fire out of your lovemaking. Be willing to adapt to new positions, places, times and tones. If you are naturally aggressive, be willing to take it slow and gentle sometimes, and vice versa.

 

Make Your Partner’s Needs an Equal Priority

One thing that can totally destroy your bedroom magic is selfishness. Make sure that you give a high level of priority to meeting your partner’s needs. There are very few things that will excite your partner more than the knowledge that you are willing to go the extra mile to ensure that they are satisfied.

 

Be Open to Pushing Your Boundaries

You will be surprised by what you will find just outside the limits of your current boundaries. Be willing to explore the unknown levels of ecstasy that sit right outside of your boundaries. Live to explore and your sex life will never become boring.

 

Lock Your Insecurities Up in a Drawer

The bedroom is not a place to undress your insecurity about yourself. It is a place of acceptance, and attempting to cover or protect those insecurities that you have will constrict your engagement, and rob you and your partner of the complete impact of what should be an awesome experience. Simply let go.   You’ll both be happy you did!

 

Don’t Be Afraid to Get Loud

Don’t suppress the ecstasy that you are experiencing with your partner. Don’t be afraid to be loud. It is a turn on, and it tells your partner that you are not only enjoying it, but you have opened up to them completely.

 

Be Spontaneous

Spontaneity can be extremely sexy. Not every moment of your sex life needs to be scheduled or planned. Sometimes you simply need to allow your instincts and urges to take over. When you feel it, act on it. That will take the fire that is produced in your sex life to an entirely different level.

 

Bring Your Sense of Humor with You

Sex is to be enjoyed, so every moment is not about being serious. In fact, it is about letting go and enjoying the moment. It is about being able to play and entertain one another. Being able to laugh and create laughter in the bedroom brings a completely new element to your sex life.

 

Build Bonds Outside of the Bedroom

Don’t designate your bedroom as your sex haven. Although you definitely want to associate sex with your bedroom, you don’t want to develop a mindset that the bedroom is the only place to intimately engage your partner. Take the time to build emotional and physical bonds in other areas of the home and in other places outside of the house.
 
These simple steps have the ability to take your sex life to an entirely different level. Now go get your sexy on!

 

If you really want to blow his mind, and leave absolutely no doubt that YOU are the most amazing sex goddess he’ll ever have the pleasure of knowing, you need to have a toolkit brimming with sexy and naughty tricks.

And I don’t mean silly magazine fluff or cartoons of the position-of-the-month. But tricks that reach right into the heart of his sexuality. That speak directly, and specifically, to how he sees himself as a man.

If you are ready to take the next step, click here to watch this video (Warning: NOT Safe for Work!) I share my own personal story of discovery and learn why Michael Fiore calls me the “Indiana Jones of the Male Mind”.

Here is the link to that video again: Language of Desire 

 

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3 Ways to Talk Dirty for Shy Ladies

3 Ways to Talk Dirty for Shy Ladies

by Felicity Keith

3 Ways to Talk Dirty for Shy Ladies

 
 
Please help me, Felicity! My boyfriend has told me that he would be so turned on if I talked dirty to him. He’s even commanded that I do it while we are having sex. But the one time I tried, my cheeks turned beet red and I just couldn’t even say anything and started kissing him to basically change the subject so to speak. I want to do this for my man but I’m too afraid and too embarrassed to actually do it. I am a grown woman with a very healthy sex drive…why is talking dirty so difficult for me? Any advice?

 

You are not alone! Talking dirty is difficult for many women. It’s one of the most common topics I get asked about. In fact, I was once tongue-tied and embarrassed, too (you can listen to my personal story here)!
 
One important thing to understand is why he is pushing you, his shy girlfriend, to talk dirty.
When you are ladylike and demure outside of the bedroom yet you say explicit words just for his ears, it makes him feel like a total stud.
 
That contrast is HUGE and totally hot. Think of the fantasy of the prim librarian who turns into a lusty sex goddess behind closed doors. You talking dirty is the same type of excitement for him.
 
 
Now, how can you get to that place where you feel comfortable actually saying explicit words? I have three tips that will get you on your way!
 

1. Start with texting

It is much easier to say sexy things from the safety-zone behind the screen of your phone. The first place I tell women to start is by just planting a naughty image in his mind.
 
And you can do this without even saying anything particularly dirty.
 
My go-to advice is to choose a time when you aren’t together, ideally when he’s at work or otherwise engaged in some activity.
 
Out of the blue, send him a text that says this…
 
“I just got out of the shower and I’m massaging that scented lotion you love over every inch of my body.”
His response might be something like “Oh really? :)” to “That sounds really nice” or if he’s bold, he might launch into a naughty narrative.
 
As for your reply, I recommend stopping the conversation leaving him wanting more…which amps up the anticipation and sexual tension.
 
Say “Enjoy that visual, now get back to work” or “Can’t wait to feel your hands on me. Hurry home!”
 
This little erotic interlude gets both of your motors running. And it’s an easy way to introduce dirty talking even if it makes you blush a little bit.
 
 

2. Admire his body

 
One thing I talk a lot about in Language of Desire is how seldom men get objectified by their women. One of the psychological reasons that men ogle us is because they actually want the same in return. Weird, huh?
 
Now you can take this to a very graphic place with your words by mentioning specific body parts. But again, it’s possible to say dirty things without actually using coarse language.
 
The easiest thing to do is substitute the words “you” and “me” for those specific body parts.
 
Example:
 
“I love how you feel…
…when we make love”
…when you are on top of me”
…when you are deep inside me”
 
See? No bleeped-out words but still very specific.
 
You can say this via text or a whisper in his ear…and eventually as you are making love.
 
 

3. Boldly give directions

 
Now that you’ve tried your hand at texting and objectifying your man, it’s time to go one step further.
A core focus of talking dirty is saying what you want him to do (or what you want to do to him). Basically, describing the action.
 
The reason for this is that tying in an auditory component with the physical act amplifies the sensations happening.
 
Start with action words like harder, faster, slower, deeper, right there, don’t stop.
 
The next step is to describe what is happening, just like a sports play by play. This can certainly be done via text or with phone sex (and I have TONS of scripts and creative ideas on that) but it’s surprisingly easy to do in person.
 
 

Tell him you love how he feels.
 
Tell him to move to a certain position.
 
Tell him what you want him to do for you (or what you are about to do for him).

 
 
You can be as explicit as you want…and even if you don’t use graphic words, just the fact that you are talking about the sex you are having, it will turn him on.

 
 
Ready for more?

 

Check out my video where I share my personal story and why Michael Fiore calls me the “Indiana Jones of the male mind”. I have so many more advanced tips to share that will amaze you at just how sexy you can be!

Felicity xo

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Do THIS and He Will Say YOU are His “Best Ever”

Do THIS and He Will Say YOU are His “Best Ever”

by Felicity Keith

do this and he will say you are his best ever

 

Admit it, unless you’ve only ever slept with one person, you’ve mentally ranked your past lovers. It’s normal and something everyone does. Ideally, your current partner ranks at the top of your list. But have you ever wondered where you rank on his list?

What if I told you there is a way to know for sure you rank at the top…without even having to ask him (because let’s face it, talking about past lovers can be slightly awkward for everyone)…

Sure there are countless sexy tips and naughty tricks that can send him over the edge, squirming with pleasure and looking at you with eye hungry with passion (more on that in a minute). But what I have to share with you is actually much simpler.

In fact, it’s so simple you might even think “No WAY, Felicity. It can’t be that easy.”

But it is.

I promise.

The very simple thing you need to do that will make him think he’s won the big prize in the Sexual Lottery is to be enthusiastic about sex.

See? I told you it sounded impossibly easy.

Here’s the thing…it sounds deceptively easy. So easy that it can be forgotten.

Look, I know what it’s like to be busy and pulled in a million directions and have body insecurities and to mentally wander off in the middle of sex.

It makes you disconnected to the present moment. Which translates into less enthusiasm for what is happening right then and there.

And the more time you are in a monogamous relationship, the more this disconnect can happen. The thought of sex might barely get a half-hearted “Yay.” from your inner cheerleader.

When one (or both) of you aren’t feeling enthusiastic about sex, it feels like a chore. It certainly doesn’t make either partner feel desirable, sexy, or passionate. And the core of what makes one lover “better” than another is about how adored and aroused they make you feel.

Think about it…when your lover lavishes attention on you and makes you feel like the sexiest woman on the planet, it has a big influence on your arousal. And the more aroused you are, typically the better the sex becomes.

I have a two-step process that will have you both so excited you’ll be doing naked cartwheels over how amazing your sex life is.

 

1. Focus on the moment

Let’s take a moment and think back to that first time you slept together. The anticipation you felt in every cell of your being as his fingers made their first exploratory trips across your body. How you were focused on every sensation, eager to finally know how his body would feel.

You were laser-focused on what was happening each glorious minute, right? Getting that laser-focus is the foundation of enthusiasm.

Next time you make love, take a moment to shake off the stress of the day. Let go of everything that you are mentally juggling and only focus on your body, his body, and how it FEELS.

 

2. Express yourself

Now, tell your man how much you like what he’s doing. Talk dirty. Moan. Scream his name! In other words, make sure there is zero doubt in his mind exactly how great of a time you are having with him.

The neighbors might also know how great of a time you are having too 😉

Also, take charge of the action. Let him know what position you need to feel him from. Give him feedback on what you want – harder, faster, slower, deeper. And show your enthusiasm by proactively making sure he feels good. Rub, massage, or kiss him in the places he loves, too.

 

Ready to take the next step?

If you really want to blow his mind, and leave absolutely no doubt that YOU are the most amazing sex goddess he’ll ever have the pleasure of knowing, you need to have a toolkit brimming with sexy and naughty tricks.

And I don’t mean silly magazine fluff or cartoons of the position-of-the-month. But tricks that reach right into the heart of his sexuality. That speak directly, and specifically, to how he sees himself as a man.

If you are ready to take the next step, click here to watch this video (Warning: NOT Safe for Work!) I share my own personal story of discovery and learn why Michael Fiore calls me the “Indiana Jones of the Male Mind”.

Here is the link to that video again: Language of Desire 

Felicity

 

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