My Biggest Anxiety: Am I Really Satisfying Him When We’re in Bed Together?

My Biggest Anxiety: Am I Really Satisfying Him When We’re in Bed?

 

How to Know He’s Wildly Craving Only You

 

Whether you’ve got a husband, a long-term boyfriend, or you’re just dating, chances are good that some of your main relationship goals are to…

 

  • Be the best sex he’s ever had
  • Know for sure that you completely satisfy him in bed
  • Make him only pant with desire for you

 

But it’s hard, right? I mean, how can you ever know for sure?

 

We all wonder whether or not we’re truly satisfying our partners in the bedroom.

 

Even while we’re in the throes of what we think of as passionate sex, we’re wondering, “Is this really what he wants and needs?” “Am I really what he desperately desires in a woman?”

 

We want to be her — whoever she is in his mind.

 

Unfortunately, this anxiety…this constant nagging worry that comes in many forms…ends up being part of our downfall. It was for me…at first.

 

But then I started to break down the issue. Why was I so nervous about whether my partner was head-over-heels having sex with me? There had to be specific anxieties that my mind was coming up with.

 

I found these specific anxieties in myself…and in many other women I asked.

 

Here they are. Maybe you’ve been facing them too:

 

Anxiety #1 – I don’t have a good enough body.

 

Here’s a big male/female difference for you: Women are constantly thinking about how their bodies look during sex. Men…not so much.

 

As a result, women become immensely more self-conscious about every inch of themselves: their weight and shape, rolls, body hair, cellulite, stretch marks — and the way their vagina looks, feels and smells to their man.

 

As you can imagine, anyone who has all of this criteria rattling around in their brain during sex…will quickly get out of the mood. And this is the danger of dwelling so heavily on thoughts like:

 

  • “No way! This position gives me the worst tummy rolls.”
  • “My vagina looks so weird.
  • “Ugh, when I’m in this position, does he think my boobs look terrible?”

 

These aren’t exactly…sexy…thoughts.

 

So here’s what you do: you’ve got to squelch those thoughts and make yourself feel sexier. Try these ideas:

 

  • Buy yourself some hot lingerie that makes you feel beautiful
  • Put your focus on how you feel
  • Remind yourself that he isn’t having pity sex with you; he wants you…exactly the way you are
  • And finally, remember that confidence is sexy

 

Anxiety #2 – I’m just not good at sex.

 

Lack of confidence about your body can often coincide with lack of confidence about your skills in the bedroom.

 

  • “Was that a totally stupid position I just tried?”
  • “Ack! I think I just got ‘him’ with my teeth.”
  • “I hope this feels good for him.”

 

Let’s take a step back, however. You are busy reprimanding yourself for not being a goddess in bed. But what’s he doing? He’s enjoying having sex.

 

So do yourself a favor. Try to go with the flow more. Think about what you truly like, and do that. Then do what he likes (ask him what he likes). Then go back to what you like. If you try a position or move that doesn’t work, brush it off.

 

Also, accept imperfection. You will probably not have passionate sex akin to that of Kate and Leo in that car in the basement of the Titanic. That’s okay.

 

Anxiety #3 – He’s getting bored having sex with me.

 

Have I got news for you! You may think that married couples and long-term relationships end up creating two people who are essentially sick and tired of having sex with each other.

 

Not so. In fact, sexual satisfaction tends to go up over time with long-term committed relationships.

 

And if someone does start to get bored? It’s usually the woman, not your man. Fortunately, there are things you can do for this too. After all, you want to have sexual desire for yourself, and he certainly wants you to want him sexually.

 

This is where it’s important to try new things to spice things up:

 

  • Purchase some sex toys
  • Experiment with performing a striptease
  • Turn the heat up with some new positions (and locales)

 

 

So far, you know the basics — your anxieties, and a few tricks for loosening up and having more fun in bed…giving him more pleasure.

 

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How Men Are Like Cats When It Comes to Commitment

Love Advice From a Cat!?

 

 

If you’ve ever owned a cat or had a friend with a cat, let me ask you a question:

Let’s say you were to see that cat in the corner of the living room—facing away from you.

Now let’s say that you slowly—as quietly as possible—snuck up on the little guy.

He doesn’t notice (bravo, you’re amazingly stealthy in this scenario!).

And without a peep … when you got juuust close enough to touch him … you reached out to scoop him up like a fumbled football.

 

Alright. In this scenario, how does the cat react when you do this?

 

Here are the correct answers:

 

  • It takes off running and leaves you a scratched, bloody mess.

 

Yeah … that’s the only answer …

 

So why do cats instinctively do this any time someone sneaks up on them?

 

Answer: Because they actually hate sneakiness, despite being amazingly sneaky themselves.

 

Naturally, this is a hypothetical experiment. And its purpose is to demonstrate 3 things.

 

  • First, let’s get this out of the way: Don’t do this to a cat. We don’t want you to get hurt!

 

  • Second, you shouldn’t do it because one of the most important things to know about cats is that they DO NOT like sneakiness that isn’t their own sneakiness.

 

  • And finally, men aren’t cats butin this very particular way, they are very much like them in that they have radar for sneakiness … and they hate it.

 

So Why Are We Saying This?

 

Because a lot of women don’t understand it.

A lot of women try to get their man to commit like trying to snatch up a cat, and the rate of success is just about the same.

Here, let’s mention that this is definitely not your fault. In fact, in almost all cases, it’s never the woman’s fault because understanding the uniqueness of the male mind is an extremely complicated affair.

Naturally, that’s why we’re here, and we’ll be discussing this in depth later. But first, let’s take this cat idea from a different perspective to explore how cats (and men) do like to be approached.

 

The Correct Cat (Man) Approach

 

Alright, this time, we’re not on the hunt. We’re not stalking. We’re approaching the cat in the corner of the living room from the front. He knows we’re there. We move slowly. He sees us coming. What happens then?

Well, for the most part, this is a successful approach. For cats and men. Cats, like men, are visual creatures. Cats prefer to see things coming.

So do men.

By approaching a cat from the front, we can get into his personal space without making him hate us (yay!). This approach is 100% honest. It’s all on the up-and-up.

Additionally, after you accomplish the task of getting close to the cat while it sees you, you can gently pet it. And for most cats (and men), this is what they want—to be petted, respected, and adored.

 

The Cat Principle Explained

 

Well, this goes without saying but, newsflash! Men are bigger than cats. Oh, and human!

 

But it’s the principle here that counts.

 

That is … at the first hint of a woman trying to be sneaky, a man will immediately find ways to make himself scarce.

Perhaps they won’t make a beeline for beneath the sofa … but mark my words: they’ll find a way to flee.

 

Men’s Paranoia and Learning to Be Genuine

 

So, are men really so scared of being “snuck up on”?

 

Yep. You may not know it, but lots of men today are paranoid about hidden motives in their partners. This is something that men discuss frequently among themselves, and they mull over it a lot.

 

That’s because men are obsessed with having a genuine woman—one who doesn’t tell lies, play tricks, or do the bait-and-switch.

 

You probably don’t realize this because (even though any self-respecting woman is also looking for a genuine man) women are less miffed if a man plays a cute trick to get her attention or nab a date with her.

 

Think of all the romantic comedies that are about a man pretending to be someone else, making a bet, or doing some other form of trickery that ends up with the two leads falling in love. Then, when the trick is revealed and the woman runs away in short-lived upset, the rest of the film is about him convincing her to forgive him …

 

… and she always does.

 

For men, however, they’re not so ready to forget sneakiness. In fact, if it happens in a relationship that’s only just blooming … he’s basically out of there as soon as he senses any artfulness on the part of the woman.

 

As a woman, you don’t want to give him a good reason to call you sneaky. Actually, you don’t want to give him a good reason to even be on-guard. It’s got to be genuineness and honesty the whole way.

 

Are You Being “Sneaky” Without Even Realizing It?

 

Because women are not as predisposed to be repulsed by sneakiness as men are … we often don’t understand what makes us seem sneaky.

 

You may be a completely genuine woman who has no ulterior motives … but from a male’s point-of-view, you might be doing something that appears sneaky. Here are a few examples:

 

  • Wearing lots of makeup. You just want to look nice. He thinks that you’re hiding something.

 

  • Giggling and cooing. You see it as your best girlish flirting. He sees it as over-the-top and wonders “but what is she really like?”

 

  • Dressing provocatively. You think: “Men like this sort of thing, and I want to impress him.” (And yes, we can all agree that they do like this). But he wonders if you’re just trying to “nab him” with your sexual prowess.

 

  • Appearing at a place that he frequents (bar, restaurant, gym). You see it as ensuring you stay in touch. He feels stalked (like a cat).

 

It’s exceptionally important to note that doing the things listed above isn’t bad. These are things that most women are wont to do in order to impress their date or partner. If you’ve ever worn a lot of makeup on a date or “accidentally” bumped into your man at his local grocery store around the time he gets out of work … you’re not alone.

 

But unfortunately, just like the cat who feels he’s being stalked … men hate this.

 

Because men  love their freedom.

 

Men’s Quest for Freedom

 

To a man, being free and being alive are one and the same. The threat of losing his freedom is even scarier to a man than cliff diving, public speaking, earthquakes, or romantic comedy movie marathons.

 

To put it simply: if you want to lose a man as quickly as possible, grab onto him as tightly as possible. He’ll slip out of your grasp like an eel and put an ocean of distance between the two of you in one fluid motion.

 

To a man, the thought of getting locked down to the wrong woman is the same thing as being house-bound—never able to leave. They want their freedom.

 

And a woman who is sneaky is a red flag.

 

What does this mean for you?

 

  • It means that you cannot use stealth or sneakiness to make sure that your man falls head over heals in love with you.

 

  • It means that he’ll instinctively sense when you’re not being genuine … and

 

  • It means that the old tricks won’t work.

 

Fortunately, there are approaches that do work.

 

Here, you might be saying: “What approaches!? I thought you just said we can’t use tricks?

 

That’s true. But these aren’t tricks.

 

I call them approaches because they are … tactics, if you will, that allow you to engage men so tightly they’ll never want to let you go while at the same time, allowing you to be completely your own genuine self.

 

The Genuine Way to a Man’s Heart (No Sneakiness Involved)

 

  • Nail your look. This is tough, but you’ve got to marry sexy, girlish, and elegant. Good rule of thumb: Pick one makeup/hair accent and one “sexy accent.” For example, wear red lips, but tone down the eye makeup or vice versa. Same for clothes: Show a little leg … or show a little cleavage. Not both.

 

  • Defy him. Your first instinct is to have him think that you like, love, hate … all the same things as him. This is entirely wrong. If he starts going on about this amazing movie you don’t like, tell him you’re not a fan. Trust me, he’ll take notice. He wants you to be Not his mini-me.

 

  • Turn your mind off. Huh? You read it right: stop thinking about what to say next, how your hair looks, whether he’s looking at another woman or if he’s having a good time. Just hang out like you would with your best friend.

 

  • Use subtle commands that are genuine, deep-down expressions of how you feel. For women in the know, we call these “Love Commands”, which you can learn more about here. In short, a “Love Command” is a psychological message that helps men to feel close to you. These aren’t made-up quotes that are some form of trickery. Remember, that’s not what you want (think of the cat).

 

These are quotes that tell any man how you truly feel, and there are certain moments when you should use them for the greatest effect. It’s all in the link if you’re interested.

 

As a result of using these techniques, you’ll see a huge change in the way men react to you. It’s kind of frightening, because it’s immediate! I was sort of freaked out at first (but of course it’s an amazing skillset to possess).

 

If you’ve been struggling with men seeming to be all-in for you one moment … and halfway down the street the next … know that you’re not alone, girl! It’s happened to us all. But do consider trying these techniques and see how they work for you. I think you’ll really be happy with how the tides change in your favor.

 

Oh, and don’t forget those love quotes; I love those, and they’re essential (they’re actually what made my man finally seal the deal—yes, a ring! —so I credit them with my happiness!)

 

Good luck!

Use These Provocative Little Phrases to Instantly Tantalize Him

Provocative phrases

 

Words vs. Looks

 

Who do you think will win?

 

Most women assume that you must be gorgeous in order to get a good man. That you have to have a great face and legs to catch someone’s attention.

 

Forget how you talk to him, right?

 

And sure. Having a killer figure, a clear complexion, great hair and a head-turning smile is a great way to catch a man’s attention.

 

But that’s just it … It only goes so far: Gets their attention.

 

What happens after that?

 

The thing about words … The thing about language … is that it supersedes looks. In fact, if you know how to use your words in a witty, provocative, intelligent way … It supersedes everything. You can literally get any man you desire. And this has been proven time and again.

 

A Sexy Bod: It Doesn’t Actually Do Much, Ladies

 

We’ve all known that woman who has it all in the looks department: She’s gorgeous, sexy, alluring and movie star-like in all the best ways. Next to her, you feel like a teenager who just hit puberty. Standing by her, everything about you is awkward. You become increasingly aware that your skin is far from perfect, that you’re too short, too chubby, too unfashionable.

 

But the weird thing that you might notice about this woman is that she doesn’t always get the guy.  Sure, sometimes women like this can have any guy they want. They definitely attract them. But where a solid relationship with an amazing man is concerned … it’s hit or miss. Some women look the part. But when it comes down to reeling in the catch, they fail miserably.

 

What’s unique about having a mastery of language and words and what makes this so different from just having great looks is that it works 100 % of the time. So, to answer the question above (Words vs. Looks)?

 

Words. Words, darling.

 

Oh, and another thing: The wonderful thing about having the right knowledge about what to say, when to say it and how to say it is that it literally doesn’t matter what look like. Seriously, if you know what you’re doing, if you use the right provocative phrases, you can get literally any man want.

 

Even if they don’t even know you.

Even if they’ve flat out rejected you.

Even if they’ve dated you once and left you …

 

You can make them not only fall in love with you … but you can make them crave you … need you. Day and night, they’ll be pining away for YOU.

 

Commitment-phobic?

“Not ready for marriage?”

“Got a new girlfriend?”

 

The right words work.

 

So …  then the question is, what exactly are you supposed to say?

 

Well, there’s a wealth of information on this topic, but let’s just cut to the chase, yeah?

 

Below, we’ve listed five examples of the most provocative little phrases that will instantly tantalize any man you desire.

 

  1. “I’ve been thinking about you.”

 

Hey, flattery works. How do you feel when someone says they’ve been thinking about you? Pretty darn good, right? This is how men feel too.

 

Surprisingly (extremely surprisingly actually) beautiful women avoid saying stuff like this. No, it’s true. Women who are only beautiful and basically nothing else think that they don’t have to flatter men, and this is where they get everything completely wrong. Men literally become uninterested in them because of this.

 

  1. “Sorry, I’m busy.”

 

Being unavailable is one of the most underrated techniques for getting the man of your dreams on the planet. Again, just enlist your own feelings around this theory: How do you feel if you invite someone to do something and they say they’re busy?

 

Most of the time, you feel like they have a life and you don’t. You’re trying to get them to join in on what you’re doing, but they’ve already got a whole thing going on … a whole world of social arrangements, friends, hobbies and interests that DON’T involve you.

 

Therefore … tell a man who asks you to hang out with him or get together for an impromptu work outing, for example, that you’re busy. Yep, even if you’re not. You got your own life, hun. And he’s not involved with it.

 

This intrigues men. They don’t want you to have your own life. They want to know what you’re doing!

 

On the other hand, if you were to follow them around like a puppy dog, they’d already know what it is you do. And what you do is pretty lame: You follow them around.

 

Don’t be a puppy dog. Tell him your busy. And wait for the call.

 

  1. “I’ve never met anyone like you before.”

 

Again, flattery wins the day. In this case, flattery is used to make this man feel unique and special—different from the herd.

 

This is a feeling that everyone wants to feel. Everyone wants to feel like they are exceptional, irreplaceable. And when you point this out, it makes men feel even more excited about themselves, and they link this feeling with you.

 

  1. “I love your ________.”

 

Ok, when we say that men want to be flattered, we mean it. But, hey doesn’t everyone? Furthermore, this is a different type of flattery: It makes him feel unique in a way that can literally be pinpointed.

 

Naturally, you need to fill in the blank with this phrase. So, pick out something that you truly do love or appreciate about him. But here’s the key: Try to make it something other than his looks. You might tell them that you love the way he speaks about a passion of his or the way he listens to other or how kind or calm he is.

 

Then, say it with feeling. Don’t mention it flippantly. Instead, took in his eyes and tell him what it is that you truly love about him.

 

  1. “I can’t wait to see you …”

 

Finally, if things have gotten to a more advanced level and you’re getting ready for a date or even just a get-together, tell him how excited you like to see him. Not only will this fire him up and get him excited for the coming meeting, but it will reassure him that you truly appreciate and like him as a person. Surprisingly, this is simply not done enough by women, who often tend to think that men don’t need reassurance. This is not true, and it’s a mistake that many women make.

 

Oh, and this phrase? It’s great for texts and emails especially. A little note that will remind him of you and make him feel good.

 

Need more phrases like these?

 

These phrases work. Which means they’ll go fast … you can’t go around reusing them and reusing ad nauseam, after all. They just don’t pack the same punch the second and third time around. Which means you’ll need more … so here’s a secret tip about where you can get additional phrases of the exact same kind (some, even better … and hotter!):

 

Head to Love Traction Lines.

 

Love Traction Lines is a program that offers you a highly-coveted list of proven to work detailed phrases. These lines and phrases are backed by proper scientific research to get him completely hooked on you. They’ll get stuck in your head and make him start thinking about you ever moment of every day.

 

Remember, looks are great to an extent. But looks fade. And they don’t do enough to attract real men—those who desire women who can tantalize and literally torment them with amazing phraseology and wit. Use the phrases listed above. And go to Love Traction Lines. With these two sources of dialogue, you will make whatever man you want fall madly in love with you.

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