Is He Really Marriage Material? How to Know for Sure

Is he marriage material?

 

He loves me …

He loves me not …

 

Okay hopefully by now you know whether your man loves you or not.

 

But the question remains: Is it true love? As in forever love. As in … is he actually marriage material?

 

Here are 9 signs he’s definitely The One.  Check ‘em out and see if your man fits the profile.

 

He’s proud of you.

 

Everyone wants to feel like they’re with the greatest guy/gal in the world and that everyone else must envy them because of how amazing their partner is. Similarly, everyone also wants to feel like they’re the greatest guy/gal in the world … in their partner’s eyes.

 

Your guy should make you feel like that. Maybe you catch wind that he was bragging to your mutual friends about your awesome cooking skills or your promotion at work. Or maybe he just goes gaga directly to you about whatever it is that you do great. It’s the fact that he’s truly proud to have you as his partner that counts.

 

He doesn’t leave you just because … well, you suck sometimes.

 

Hey, we all suck at times. There’s no getting around it. It’s easy to have a terrible day and then just turn up at home pretty terrible yourself.

 

But he doesn’t leave you because of this. He doesn’t get fired up and mad either. Instead, he knows that he can be pretty terrible sometimes too. And he either accepts you when you’re in one of these moods and gives you your space OR tries his best to make you feel better (see #7).

 

He’s “good” at fighting.

 

No, not mixed martial arts.

You-two fighting. As in:

Yes. I. Am. Sure. That I told you that we were going out to eat with my parents on the SIXTH.

And then him: “Noooo, you said the TWENTY-sixth. So that is why I got basketball tickets for the SIXTH.”

 And then you go … okay you get the picture.

 

Every couple fights. That’s normal and actually good. But only those who fight fair will last. This means keeping voices at a normal decibel, not calling names, and not bringing up that one thing from three years ago.

 

Even when it’s sooo pertinent right now.

If he can do all that, he just might be a pretty good egg.

 

He doesn’t change when he’s around other people.

 

Some men act differently when they’re around their buddies. The sweet demeanor he usually has when it’s just you and him suddenly turns into him showing off and throwing you under the bus.

 

If he’s the first to make fun of you in front of others (especially for something that’s sensitive to you), then it’s perfectly within your rights as a girlfriend to tell him you’re not cool with that. Call him out because that crap is definitely not marriage material.

 

He makes an effort with your family and friends.

 

Whether he loves them (or even likes them) is another story.

 

But it’s the fact that he’s making the effort that counts. When there’s a get-together, he shouts small talk with your great-uncle Todd so he can hear. And he takes the time to ask your sister about her quilting class. Even though he doesn’t care.

 

He would drop everything to get you out of a serious jam.

 

This one’s a real test that you can imagine in your mind.

 

Consider a scenario where you get a flat tire on a random road outside of town. Really imagine the situation. You’re standing there on the side of the road.

 

Could you call your man?

 

If you did, would he come?

 

If you’re even slightly uncertain that he might pretend not to get your call or tell you he’s sorry but he’s really busy at work and won’t be able to help you for a while … you gotta rethink this relationship. This is a serious situation where you need him, and hopping-to should be a priority.

 

He knows how to make you feel better.

 

You’re feeling blue because of a bad work review. Perhaps you’ve recently lost a loved one. Or it could be just one of those bad days.

 

What does he do?

 

First of all, he knows. He senses it. Then, without asking, he does something to make you feel better. Maybe he makes you cocoa and sets you up a little nest on the couch and puts your favorite movie in. Or maybe he simply takes over dinner plans so you don’t have to worry about it. In other words, he’s got you covered.

 

He sees your flaws, and it’s okay.

 

You’re a terrible dishwasher loader. You snore sometimes. Your hair is … everywhere in your house. Even sometimes in the food you make him.

 

He knows it. He sees it. And, it’s not an issue for him. He might make fun of you a little, but he doesn’t seriously criticize your faults or act disgusted. He knows your flaws and loves you despite them or even because of them.

 

You just know.

 

Lastly, don’t mean to sound corny here but … sometimes, the way that you know that he’s marriage material is … you just know.

 

Maybe it’s that moment when he makes you crack up uncontrollably. Maybe it’s opening that gift he gives you for your anniversary that you’d wanted forever but never thought to buy for yourself. Maybe it’s cleaning up after you when you’re sick.

 

But there are just some moments that make you feel an overwhelming rush of love for this man. And it’s not infatuation love. It’s not lust. It’s heart-felt, true-connection, we go great together love. I-truly-want-the-best-for-you and I-know-you-want-the-best-for-me-too love. Sometimes you just know.

 

If you can find a man who makes you feel that, he’s a keeper.

 

How to Make Your Husband Obsess Over You Again (And Save Your Marriage)

7 Steps to Help Mend Your Marriage

By: Brad Browning

 

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It can be one of the most difficult things to ever go through — a rocky, loveless marriage can tear you up your insides. It can make you feel depressed, angry, and maybe even unloved.

 

But it isn’t your fault. A marriage needs two functioning people to work — it’s a “for-life” partnership that needs effort from both parties. However, when times get tough, the littlest marital problems can turn into massive arguments — or silence that can last for days.

 

All is not lost, however. There are ways you can fix your marriage.

 

There are ways to make your husband love you again — unconditionally. Just like it was meant to be. But to make this a reality, you BOTH need to commit to doing your part to reconnecting with each other in a healthy way again.  You also both need to avoid doing things that will make your marriage even worse.

 

So without further ado, here are some tips that you can implement on your end to help improve your marriage so that you can do your part while he is doing his.

 

1.) Listen to him. If you want to begin improving your marriage on your own, then try to understand where his concerns lie. The more you know about him and his problems, the better-equipped you’ll be to address them. I know, I know — you have your own set of problems too. But in order for your needs to be met, you need to address his needs too.

 

2.) Appreciate him. Now is the time to take a step back and realize all the good things your husband does for you. If you’ve been married to him long enough, you might start taking him for granted. So thank you husband the next time he cooks, cleans something, or does something for you — even if it’s something small.

 

3.) Don’t cause conflict. Sometimes you just want to scream and yell at him, but for now, hold it in. It can be the hardest thing in the world to do for some people, but avoiding conflict when your marriage is on the rocks is not only prudent, but it’s the ONLY way you’ll be able to improve your marriage right now.

 

4.) Woo him. Think about what his wants are, and do them. Not all men are into cheesy chick flicks or romantic dinners — so think outside the box! Does he like playing video games? Then join him for some PlayStation multiplayer action. Does he like watching his favorite TV shows? Give them a shot! Maybe you’ll like them. Does he like following sports? Now is the time to cheer for his favorite team.

 

5.) Initiate sex with him. Men need to have sex with their wives in order to feel loved, dominant, and confident. Without it, your man will feel impotent and insecure, and he may feel ill-equipped to fulfill your needs inside and outside the bedroom. It can be difficult to initiate sex if your marriage hasn’t been in tip-top condition, but do your best to try and get into the mood.

 

6.) Don’t be too much of a pushover. While you shouldn’t cause conflict with your husband, you shouldn’t let him treat you poorly. Some women are so afraid of their husbands leaving or cheating that they’ll allow themselves to be a doormat. This is considered a huge turn off and will only ensure that your husband leaves you even faster. There are ways to stick up for yourself without escalating a conflict into an all-out war.

 

7.) Seek help! If you find yourself between a rock and a hard place, then consider checking out my free video presentation on my website. In it, I go over the three most brutal “Marriage Murdering Mistakes” that almost everyone makes — and what you can do to fix them. I’ll also go over some covert, psychological tactics that will make your husband yearn so deeply for you that he’ll regret ever mistreating you (or leaving you). Again, to watch this free presentation, simply CLICK HERE. It’s only a few minutes long and it might change the way your husband sees you forever.

 

Mend your marriage

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Making Your Marriage and Relationship Work

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Marriage has no guarantees.
Marriage has no guarantees.

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