You may not think that men have an emotional temperature.
After all, they’re always tight lipped about their emotions. And they seem to truly not care about most other people’s emotions either.
The truth is, however … men are just as emotional as women.
Just like women, men get certain “vibes” from people that either turn them on … or off. They mull over complex problems in their lives. They dwell and stress about things they’ve said or done in the past, and they freak out about their futures. They’re just like us.
And when it comes to love, the truth is, how a man feels emotionally about a woman has little to nothing to do with how women look. OK, their animal instincts might be attracted to a woman’s looks. But emotionally … it’s something different altogether. A man is not going to be attracted or not attracted to a woman only based on her body, face, hair, clothes, etc.
But women don’t understand this. We think that the only way to a man’s heart is through his pants.
Men just process their emotions differently. They gather information about potential mates differently. And in this way, they are often highly misunderstood.
Men have an emotional gauge in them that tracks how responsive they are to certain women, and this gauge reacts to several different attributes that women may or may not have.
These are the things men want in a woman. These are the female traits that make a man’s emotional temperature sky rocket. And men can see these traits in you (or a lack of them) very keenly.
So what does this mean for you and the man you want to love you?
It means you have some work to do.
If you are in love with a man who you desperately want to pay more attention to you and love you back … You need to know how to conduct yourself around him.
Because how you act, what you do, and what you say is what can either make him turn you into his mental obsession, the love of his life or … just another girl he knows or maybe met one time.
Which one do you want to be?
The 5 Steps to Making Him Fall for You
Step 1: Do Your Research
Start by knowing this man. Understand him and try to see what his likes and dislikes are. Don’t act on this information (for instance, don’t go and buy a boat just because he likes sailing), but do get a better sense of what kind of a person he is, so that you can better understand his emotions.
Step 2: Just … Be There
This one is simple. You just need to put yourself in his path. Hopefully, you two see each other on a regular basis in some way. Maybe you attend the same religious services, run in the same circle of friends, or work at the same place. You want to establish yourself as someone he sees regularly.
Even if he works at a restaurant that you frequent, you want to strike up a consistent relationship with him by going there once a week, say, and giving him a smile every time you see him. It doesn’t have to be a deep relationship. Just consistent.
Step 3: Show Him You Care
He may not notice you yet if you two haven’t met, or if you know each other, maybe it’s just as an acquaintance. But now you need to take things up a notch. You need to show him that you are kind and thoughtful.
Recommend a book he might like based on what he’s liked in the past. Tell him with sincerity how much you appreciate his kind service or the knowledge he has in his field (i.e., give him a heartfelt compliment). Do anything that takes you from being just anyone to being someone who has shown a sign of kindness to him in particular.
Step 4: Let Him See You at Your Best
Now, when you see you shine. Make sure you are presenting your best physical self and your best emotional and intellectual self.
This means shine your shoes and comb your hair, but also bring new ideas and thoughts to the table. Be able to discuss current events, talk about your accomplishments (with humility), and show interest in new ideas and topics. If you have a knack for dressing nicely, put together a great outfit. If you excel at drawing or painting, enter a piece in a show he might see. Show off a bit!
Step 5: Be Relaxed and Say No to Drama
This is the step that says: Be yourself. You may think you are no good as yourself or that you need to improve. First, stop being so self-critical. Second, realize that people are really attracted to authentic individuals.
If you can be yourself, it won’t be the fact that you are A, B or C (for example, A=funny, B=sexy, or C=witty) that attracts others. It will be the fact that you are being yourself that attracts them. In other words, be anyone, but be yourself, and if you can do that, you’re headed in the right direction.
In addition, don’t be dramatic. For example, if you hang out in the same group of friends, steer clear of friend drama. That doesn’t look good on anyone.
Step 6: Talk. But Do It the Right Way.
Now comes the moment of truth. You’ve done just the thing that every great author says you must do to tell a story … you’ve shown yourself to him. Now it’s time to do the telling.
Why relate your desire for this man to a story? Isn’t it obvious? Remember those things called fairy tales? Ever seen a romantic comedy film?
These are stories written about the absolute best that love can be. And now you’re writing your own story.
When it comes time to speak to the man of your dreams, you need to be smart. What do you say exactly?
Well, one thing you can try is “I’ve never met anyone like you before.” This will tell him that A) He is special to you and B) He’s special.
This is what he wants to hear. He needs to make these connections.
For everything else you need to know about talking to this man and making him go absolutely crazy for you, you need Mesmerizing Phrases.
From here, once you’ve learned these key phrases and learned how to use them to win over your man … it’s smooth sailing. Your guy will finally understand what he has been missing with you. He’ll see all of you and instinctively feel unconditional love for you … and you only.