Is He Really Marriage Material? How to Know for Sure

Is he marriage material?

 

He loves me …

He loves me not …

 

Okay hopefully by now you know whether your man loves you or not.

 

But the question remains: Is it true love? As in forever love. As in … is he actually marriage material?

 

Here are 9 signs he’s definitely The One.  Check ‘em out and see if your man fits the profile.

 

He’s proud of you.

 

Everyone wants to feel like they’re with the greatest guy/gal in the world and that everyone else must envy them because of how amazing their partner is. Similarly, everyone also wants to feel like they’re the greatest guy/gal in the world … in their partner’s eyes.

 

Your guy should make you feel like that. Maybe you catch wind that he was bragging to your mutual friends about your awesome cooking skills or your promotion at work. Or maybe he just goes gaga directly to you about whatever it is that you do great. It’s the fact that he’s truly proud to have you as his partner that counts.

 

He doesn’t leave you just because … well, you suck sometimes.

 

Hey, we all suck at times. There’s no getting around it. It’s easy to have a terrible day and then just turn up at home pretty terrible yourself.

 

But he doesn’t leave you because of this. He doesn’t get fired up and mad either. Instead, he knows that he can be pretty terrible sometimes too. And he either accepts you when you’re in one of these moods and gives you your space OR tries his best to make you feel better (see #7).

 

He’s “good” at fighting.

 

No, not mixed martial arts.

You-two fighting. As in:

Yes. I. Am. Sure. That I told you that we were going out to eat with my parents on the SIXTH.

And then him: “Noooo, you said the TWENTY-sixth. So that is why I got basketball tickets for the SIXTH.”

 And then you go … okay you get the picture.

 

Every couple fights. That’s normal and actually good. But only those who fight fair will last. This means keeping voices at a normal decibel, not calling names, and not bringing up that one thing from three years ago.

 

Even when it’s sooo pertinent right now.

If he can do all that, he just might be a pretty good egg.

 

He doesn’t change when he’s around other people.

 

Some men act differently when they’re around their buddies. The sweet demeanor he usually has when it’s just you and him suddenly turns into him showing off and throwing you under the bus.

 

If he’s the first to make fun of you in front of others (especially for something that’s sensitive to you), then it’s perfectly within your rights as a girlfriend to tell him you’re not cool with that. Call him out because that crap is definitely not marriage material.

 

He makes an effort with your family and friends.

 

Whether he loves them (or even likes them) is another story.

 

But it’s the fact that he’s making the effort that counts. When there’s a get-together, he shouts small talk with your great-uncle Todd so he can hear. And he takes the time to ask your sister about her quilting class. Even though he doesn’t care.

 

He would drop everything to get you out of a serious jam.

 

This one’s a real test that you can imagine in your mind.

 

Consider a scenario where you get a flat tire on a random road outside of town. Really imagine the situation. You’re standing there on the side of the road.

 

Could you call your man?

 

If you did, would he come?

 

If you’re even slightly uncertain that he might pretend not to get your call or tell you he’s sorry but he’s really busy at work and won’t be able to help you for a while … you gotta rethink this relationship. This is a serious situation where you need him, and hopping-to should be a priority.

 

He knows how to make you feel better.

 

You’re feeling blue because of a bad work review. Perhaps you’ve recently lost a loved one. Or it could be just one of those bad days.

 

What does he do?

 

First of all, he knows. He senses it. Then, without asking, he does something to make you feel better. Maybe he makes you cocoa and sets you up a little nest on the couch and puts your favorite movie in. Or maybe he simply takes over dinner plans so you don’t have to worry about it. In other words, he’s got you covered.

 

He sees your flaws, and it’s okay.

 

You’re a terrible dishwasher loader. You snore sometimes. Your hair is … everywhere in your house. Even sometimes in the food you make him.

 

He knows it. He sees it. And, it’s not an issue for him. He might make fun of you a little, but he doesn’t seriously criticize your faults or act disgusted. He knows your flaws and loves you despite them or even because of them.

 

You just know.

 

Lastly, don’t mean to sound corny here but … sometimes, the way that you know that he’s marriage material is … you just know.

 

Maybe it’s that moment when he makes you crack up uncontrollably. Maybe it’s opening that gift he gives you for your anniversary that you’d wanted forever but never thought to buy for yourself. Maybe it’s cleaning up after you when you’re sick.

 

But there are just some moments that make you feel an overwhelming rush of love for this man. And it’s not infatuation love. It’s not lust. It’s heart-felt, true-connection, we go great together love. I-truly-want-the-best-for-you and I-know-you-want-the-best-for-me-too love. Sometimes you just know.

 

If you can find a man who makes you feel that, he’s a keeper.

 

How to Finally Nail Down the Bad Boy and Make Yourself His One and Only

We all know the reasons we love the bad boy.

 

 

They’re tough, smooth, and they’re usually hotter than sin. While other men struggle to think of the right words to say, he just knows. And what he says makes you feel like your heart’s going to thump right out of your chest.

Where other guys are fumbling about where to take you on a date — asking you where you want to go (hello!?) … the bad boy already knows.

Whether you like it or not. Um, hot?

Yeah, well of course he knows. Cause he’s got a secret spot out on the dunes, or at the lake, or overlooking the city … where you’ll watch the sunset. And he’ll grab beers at the liquor store on his way to pick you up ON HIS MOTORCYCLE.

And at that perfect moment, he’ll kiss you. And then …  he’ll know just what to say to make you completely oozy and goozy inside.

And he’ll take you back to your place, and end the night with a passionate kiss, and you’ll be sure he’ll be going home not able to think about anything but you … just like it’s LITERALLY IMPOSSIBLE for you to think of anything but him

And then …

He won’t call.

He’ll returns your text like … 2 days later.

And then … he’ll FLAKE … on your next planned date.

This is … The Bad Boy.

  

Taming of the Bad Boy: A How-To Guide

 

So close, yet so far away.

So how do we nail this guy down? You want him bad. But can you do the impossible!? Can you really get this drifter / greaser / super-hot   [ insert occupation here … (who even cares what he does!?) ]   … to love only you!?

You want it to be possible so bad. Well, the good news is … it is possible. Maybe.

Ok, it’s a tough one.

But anyway, below is your best shot.

So here goes.

 

Step #1: First, you gotta make yourself a hot commodity.

 

Okay, there are three main things that make a woman hot:

  • Effort in appearance:

 

Yes. Hair, makeup, cleavage, the whole nine yards. You cannot avoid this with the Bad Boy because he is obsessed with appearance. That’s why he’s the Bad Boy.

It’s all about creating a look. Now, if you want … your look can be au natural. But going with done-up glam is sort of a safer bet. Plus, it’ll give you confidence, and you’ll need it.

You don’t have to be Cindy Crawford, but put your best foot forward. Get some assistance from some savvy sales representatives at the makeup counter and in the women’s clothing department if necessary.

 

  • Wit and intelligence:

Learn to be snappy and witty. Practice with a close friend who you trust, and work on being natural and calm while you “deliver your lines.” Dead pan humor, and snarkiness are go-tos. This stuff can be learned.

The goal is to get away from your tendency to laugh nervously at everything and be a little more cool and aloof. You may not know it, but these are the qualities that you’re responding to in him, and he will respond to them in you too.

 

  • Not needing him for 23 hours … then needing him desperately for 1.

 

In other words, most of the times, be capable.

Be capable of handling yourself, your career, your friends, your home, your life.

 Then … show him that you need him in one area (with your car, for example). And after he helps you? Drop it. Say “thanks” and “seeya.”

 

 Step #2: DRAG EVERYTHING OUT.

 

When you go on dates, he’s so dreamy, right?

 We get it. You’re in love with him.

But you’ve gotta keep your lust in check. In other words, don’t let him have everything he wants.

For example, he wants to kiss you. Nope. Not yet.

He wants to hold your hand while you walk a whole three blocks on your way to the restaurant. Eh, how bout one block. Then you take your hand away.

And sex? Ha!

Out of the question at this point.

Bad Boy’s gotta earn that.

Now, play his game.

 

 Step #3: He’s not monogamous yet? No problem. Neither are you.

 

In other words, we’re talkin: Date. Other. People.

It’s tough. All you want is him, we know, we know, we get it.

But you gotta.

Date the guys who ask you, or start asking out guys yourself. And don’t feel bad about this. You’re just dating … just the way the guy you’re on a date with is.

The Bad Boy may be who you got your eye on, but you’ve got a right to continue living your life.

Just make sure to keep things casual and never string anyone along or try to “wield” some innocent fella in a way that makes Bad Boy jealous. That’s unkind.

 

Step #4: “Hello? Who Dis?”

 

Step four is act aloof. Your bad boy wants to be a bad boy. That super-cool persona that you identify him with? He’s trying for that. He wants you to think of him like that.

So, you gotta turn the tides on him. When he calls, don’t answer. Let it go to voicemail, then get back to him by text two days later.

Now normally, this would not be a good dating suggestion. If you really care about someone, you shouldn’t be playing games with them.

But The Bad Boy is a wild one. He’s not like normal guys, and as such, he warrants unusual handling.

By not responding directly to his texts and calls, you’re making him feel insecure (again, not usually what you want your guy to feel like). But this is good for The Bad Boy because remember: he’s cultivating this “who cares” attitude, and you need to rattle that cage a bit.

 

Step #5: See If It Works

 

These steps can help the Bad Boy fall in love with you. So now … you wait.

 

 

Cutting Your Losses: When It Doesn’t Work

 

They say that insanity can be defined as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

If this “plan” doesn’t work, try your hardest to forget the Bad Boy and move on because perusing him is only going to give you pain.

In fact, these relationships don’t have a good success rate. Ultimately, you want to nab this guy, then hopefully have him morph into a more dedicated, chill guy … or you just want to have some fun for a few months, and that can be okay too.

Just remember to prepare your heart for it. Because Bad Boys can be dangerous.

Unfortunately … that’s why we love ‘em.

 

Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever

What It Means If He’s a Bad Kisser

bad kisser

 

Picture this: You’re currently in the throes of flirtation with an amazing guy.

 

– You’ve been on a few dates

– You’ve had a few moments of contact

Lots of heavy flirting talk and bedroom eye glances

– He’s the last thing you think of before drifting off to sleep and the first thing you think of every morning

 

So, you’ve known each other a while, but recently, things have been heating up even more.

 

Thing is … you haven’t actually “made contact” yet.

 

In other words, you two are still kissing virgins.

 

But the build-up is oh-so-good. You dream of that day when things will change. And you know it’s gotta be coming up. Things have been progressing toward that point for a while now … so it’s only a matter of time.

 

Then finally. It happens.

 

You stumble out of a restaurant together, laughing, and you grasp his arm, look in his eyes. He walks you home and brings you to your doorstep …

 

You stare at each other again. It’s happening, it’s happening …

 

You lean in, feel his breath on your lips, smell his close scent, annnnd …

 

Clunk.

 

His lips feel … sorta dry and sticky on yours, the mechanics are … awkward

 

There’s no “melting into each other” or “sinking against him.” It’s just … bad.

 

You say goodnight, and he leaves.

 

How on earth could everything have been leading up to this point!? It was terrible.

 

Furthermore, what does it mean!? What does it mean that you don’t even feel like you can move on with him anymore? How is he that bad of a kisser?

 

At this point, things aren’t looking good. But here’s the truth:

 

a) You don’t have much more time to fix things. He’s likely going to think it was a terrible kiss as well.

b) You have to remember there are two parties involved when you’re kissing.

 

And what could be very possible is that …. it’s not him who’s the bad kisser …

 

It could be you.

 

But before you freak out and start worrying your lovely little head, there’s good news here too.

 

It’s fixable.

 

The fact of the matter is that kissing is indeed essential to attraction and romance. It’s one of our most primal mating instincts. And if you don’t know the keys to a sensuous and wonderful kiss … even if he’s attracted to you initially … the spark and attraction simply won’t be there. And that might end things flat out.

 

But just because he’s a bad kisser … or you’re a bad kisser … or you’re both “bad kissers,” that doesn’t mean that you can’t make things better.

 

Anyone can learn how to be a good kisser.

 

The 4 Things You’ve Never Learned About Kissing

 

Want to be a better kisser? Here’s what you need to know.

 

  1. It’s more about what’s in your head than the physical.

 

You might think that kissing is all mechanics. Put one hand here, the other hand here. Cock your head this way and use X amount of pressure.

 

Sure, these little tips can help your technique a lot, but the physical is not what kissing is all about. In fact, it’s about more than this … a lot more.

 

Kissing is about connecting with someone on an emotional level. If you can do that, you’re gold. The trick is to think and feel connected with your guy while you’re kissing him. He’ll pick up on it, guaranteed.

 

  1. Gentle is always better in the beginning.

 

Women have the false idea that men desire aggressive, kinky women who are willing to try all these new techniques and be super sexual.

 

And while a relationship that’s been going on for two or more years might definitely dive into some different, more kinky, intense techniques for sex, at the beginning, it’s all about being gentle and sweet.

 

That’s what men want, and it makes you appear like more of a prize than someone who’s overly eager to jump in the sack. Men want to win you over. So, let them.

 

  1. It’s about slowing down … not speeding up.

 

A lot of women falsely assume that once kissing starts (even that first little peck), everything should just fast-forward to sex right away.

 

Not so.

 

This is what gets women in hot water half the time, and it’s what makes their partners lose interest. Not only do you lose your flirtatious sex appeal once a single kiss leads to immediate making out or even immediate sex, but the relationship becomes much more boring for both parties.

 

You have to learn to slow things down. There’s a great passage about this in a program called How to Kiss a Man to Make Him Fall in Love. This program by renowned relationship expert Michael Fiore explains exactly how to slow things down when you kiss so that any man will simultaneously be kissing you and falling in love with you.

 

  1. You need to learn Kissing Empathy.

 

How to Kiss a Man to Make Him Fall in Love has another excellent section about Kissing Empathy.

 

Most women aren’t aware of the importance of empathy when kissing. And men aren’t either!

 

It’s not uncommon for one or both parties to simply “go through the motions.” This is 100 percent wrong. A kiss that you give to your man shouldn’t be like any other that you’ve ever given because it’s with this man. He’s different, so your kissing style should be different too.

 

And to harness that, you’ve got to connect with him emotionally. This is empathy. It’s almost like pretending in your mind that you’re him. See the two of you kissing “from above,” and figure out your next move. What does he want? Are you connecting?

 

Again, How to Kiss a Man to Make Him Fall in Love has an entire section on how to do this, and a number of other amazing techniques for getting the man of your dreams to not only notice you and chase after you … but to also fall head over heels for you even before you’ve kissed.

 

Once your lips do finally meet … he’ll never be the same again.

 

Oh, and if you’re in the scenario that we described at the beginning of this article? If you’ve already kissed, and He. Was. Horrible.  Remember you still have a limited amount of time to try again, fix your own kissing mistakes, and teach him to be better as well.

 

But don’t try again before using this advice … and do check out How to Kiss a Man to Make Him Fall in Love for specific points that will make you the best kisser he’s ever had.

 

Trust hundreds of other women who have taken this advice and used it … he won’t ever want to let you go.

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