How To Generate Surefire Attraction With The Opposite Sex

How To Generate Surefire Attraction With The Opposite Sex

by Mirabelle Summers

how to generate attraction

Have you ever worked with, or have friends who just seem programmed to be at ease with themselves but are drop-dead gorgeous at the same time? Has it blown your mind to think how EFFORTLESS it is for some women to be themselves while attracting men left and right??

Are they just blessed with dumb luck, or are they onto something you’re not?

Let’s tackle a few basic traits that generate surefire attraction with the opposite sex:

 

# 1: Treat yourself like a prize, and he’ll follow suit

An irresistible woman knows that she’s worthy enough of a man’s time, affection, and most of all, RESPECT. She never seeks out a man because she feels like a relationship will save her.

In fact, her life is so complete that she doesn’t need a guy to fix her or make her whole. A sassy woman is perfectly fine being single for the moment because she knows that Mr. Right will come along in due time.

There isn’t any need to go into a panic or lower your standards just to make room for a guy who won’t treat you the way you should be. More importantly, you don’t try attracting a man out of DESPERATION, because that isn’t exactly an endearing quality.

It’s absolutely essential to be a self-referenced woman who doesn’t seek a man out of social pressure. She allows a man into her life because he makes her happy and adds to her personal growth.

Her relationship doesn’t define her life, but rather enriches it. The problem with a lot of women is that they often date a man for the former reason and not the latter.

As a result, they’ll act needy and clingy because they’re deathly afraid of being alone, even if it means lowering their standards and putting up with any guy that comes along.

Acting out of FEAR is never the basis for a healthy, long-term relationship.

Simply put, self-respect is garnished by placing value on yourself, and that in turn will prompt a quality man to treat you in the same manner. Otherwise, an attractive woman has no problems showing him the door and moving on with her life.

 

# 2: Just say “NO” to mind games

The folly of manipulating a guy is that whatever happiness you’ll get out of toying with his mind will be SHORT-LIVED. Once you’ve dealt him your best cards and he’s given up chasing after you, then there won’t be much reason to stick around.

So don’t bother adhering to a bunch of stupid rules. There’s plenty of harmful advice floating out there which are usually created out of specific experiences that don’t apply to everyone. You might hear that you should NEVER kiss on a first date, or that you must go to bed with him on the third one.

Please, these so-called rules are made by bitter and jaded people who want to protect themselves from getting burned again. Following these will only result in game-playing, and that is just another word for “manipulation”.

As I’ve just said, deception has no place in a healthy relationship, and anything based on a lie is bound to crumble in the future. That’s why it’s more important to be a balanced woman instead. That means no playing “hard to get”, nor should you present him with absolutely no challenge at all.

An attractive woman is who she is partly because she knows how to strike the middle ground: she doesn’t mess with a man’s head, but neither is she easily won over.

 

# 3: Get your head out of the clouds

You know, a lot of relationship problems are caused by having unrealistic standards. When you get caught up in fantasizing about IMPOSSIBLE stereotypes, you’re keeping quality men out of your life.

That’s because NONE of them will be able to measure up to the ideal (read: ridiculously perfect) man living inside that fantasy world of yours! Seriously, you should learn to temper your expectations with a sense of practicality.

In a parallel universe, all of the men you’ll meet have big arms, ripped abs, stunning chiseled looks, and inexhaustible wealth. You might think that meeting ALL of those qualities are the ticket to a great relationship, but it’s so much more than that.

Ask yourself: will I be able to have a happy relationship if my man didn’t have (insert trait here)? If so, then you can either make your standards more realistic or cross out that specific item completely. If not, then keep it on your list and move on to your other standards.

Pare down your list and stick to the essentials. In twenty years from now, will a flawless physique still be important, as opposed to emotional maturity, faithfulness, or honesty? Think about that for a while.

You’re not living in a movie here – this is the real world you’re in. Don’t wait around for a valiant knight to come barging in and rescue you from the drudge of your daily life.

You’ll have to do that for yourself. That takes us to the next irresistible trait, which is to…

 

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9 Reasons He Avoids Commitment

9 Reasons He Avoids Commitment

 
9 Reasons He Avoids Commitment
 

Have you ever been with a guy who seems afraid to commit?  Maybe you’ve dated a guy for years and he just never seems to want to take things to the next level.

Or perhaps you’re married, and while he wears the ring on his finger … His heart just hasn’t made that commitment yet and you feel your marriage isn’t on solid ground.

Well, I’m going to try my best to shed some light on how the male mind works and why some men are not ready for or downright scared of commitment.

There are 9 main reasons why your man may not want to commit to you. Some of these have nothing to do with you, it’s just where he is at in his life. Others are things that you are doing, so make sure you pay close attention:

 

1) You’re hinting too aggressively

Men need to feel like commitment is their idea, even if pressuring them into committing to you works (some women hint very aggressively until they get engaged), this may lead to resentment and lack of REAL commitment and faithfulness long term.

I’ve seen some guys date girls for 3+ years, only to get engaged to the next one who comes along even though they’ve only been dating for 6 months.

Often the next one who comes along is seen as less ‘suffocating’ due to less commitment pressure. Or it’s simply due to the fact that they are now ready for commmitment when in the past they were not.

Hinting or talking about commitment once isn’t a bad thing, but if you find yourself doing it week in, week out, it’s likely to be doing more harm than good. You may simply be with the wrong person if you feel a need for more commitment right now.

If he wants to commit to you, then allow him to get to that stage on his own.

 

2) You don’t support his ambitions and/or don’t make him feel appreciated enough

Men need their egos stroked, and for him to feel like you are ‘the one’ it will help a lot if you can notice all the good things he does (and his body if you like it, etc).

It is also incredibly important that you don’t try to change him too much, support him in his dreams, whatever they may be (starting his own company, travelling the world, etc).

It sounds obvious, but there are a lot of women out there who try to mould their man into the man they wished they were, rather than supporting them in being the best version of themselves that they can be.

 

3) He hasn’t grown up enough yet.

Men can take a little longer to grow up than women.

It takes a certain amount of maturity to get to the point of commitment, and he may not be quite there yet. An immature man can rarely consider the wants and needs of others above his own.

 

4) The sex isn’t good enough

If he has had a partner before with whom with the sex was better, or more frequent, this can make him nervous about committing to you forever.

If you feel that sex isn’t important, then that attitude could well be a reason for lack of long term commitment.

 

5)  There’s someone else.

Hopefully this isn’t the case, but it is possible he has someone else on his mind, leaving him confused about what kind of future he wants for you and him.

It is also possible he is not over his ex partner, or doesn’t see you as better than them (men want to commit to the best they’ve ever had).

 

6)  He has other priorities.

He balances out everything- work, family, and friends.

If he feels he’s got other areas in his life that require more attention, then that will come first and he will think of you later.

 

7) His close friends haven’t committed yet.

The majority of men will want to commit eventually. But  he may not have wanted to be the first one out of his group of friends, feeling like he misses out on anything with his single friends.

 

8) Loss of free time.

He likes time to himself and to do his own thing. Serious relationships take up an enormous amount of time and energy and he doesn’t want that kind of pressure.

 

9) His history.

When you learn about his past relationships, and his childhood ones, then you may understand why he can’t commit to you.

He could be swearing off new relationships because of pain that was caused by a previous breakup. He may need a little extra time until he feels safe in his new relationship with you.

 

I hope you found great value in these 9 points!  Yes, some may hurt but it’s better to know the truth than to be left in the dark.  Having said that, you can’t be sure of what the real reasons are for him shying away from commitment if he isn’t being up front with you.

Are you still stumped and need more in-depth insights as to why  you’re always the one getting dumped, especially with no explanation?  Ever wondered what you did wrong or what he really wanted?

You’re about to be given THE blueprint to how the male mind works:

Make sure you watch the video below as soon as possible:

==> Video – Why Men Lose Interest

I’m not sure how long this will be online and it’s a must watch short video that shows you why men pull away and how to be the woman that he’ll fall in love with forever.

Kind regards!

Should I Be Jealous Of His Ex?

Should I Be Jealous Of His Ex?

by Claire Casey

Should I Be Jealous Of His Ex

Every time you see her it makes you sick at your stomach. You’d like to get your hands around her scrawny little neck and… Wait. She doesn’t have him any more; you do. So why do you still feel like a can of hairspray in a campfire every time you think of her?

Jealousy can be like a bottle of Diet Coke and Mentos with a splash of strychnine; explosive and deadly all at the same time. You don’t feel in control of it; even YOU are shocked every time you look down and see a bubbling rage cocktail in your hand. Don’t you wish you could stop your feelings from being yanked around this way?

Guess what? You can.

Do an honest evaluation of your current relationship.

Your jealousy radar goes off because it’s telling you that there’s something wrong; your job is to figure out where the “wrong” is coming from so that you can make a decision about how to fix it. Sometimes the issue is with him; sometimes it’s with you.

Take an honest look at your fears and suspicions. Is there secretive behavior going on that makes you think he may still be with her even though he said he was exclusively committed to you? Has he recently been through some dramatic behavior changes (ie, losing weight, discovering new tastes and preferences, fresh appearance) that you can’t find an explanation for? Has there been a radical change in your sexual relationship? If so, you may need to consider whether he’s cheating with his ex. In that case, say “thank you” to your jealousy radar and start dealing directly with the bigger issue.

Alternatively, are you consistently one of his top priorities? Does he build you up, value your opinion, and want what’s best for you? Does he keep his promises? Do you feel awesome when you’re with him? If so, it’s definitely worth taking the time to figure out how to get this jealous monkey off your back. Keep reading…

Tell him how it makes you feel (and remind him of what he has in you).

Frequently you experience jealousy because he mentions her in conversations, even though he’s promised you that it’s over between them. This usually just requires a non-dramatic conversation.

Start by telling him how important he is to you, and how much you value your relationship. Then explain that it’s also a bit painful to hear about his ex every time the two of you are together. Tell him you understand how that relationship blew up in his face, and that he’s still trying to deal with the fallout, but that it’s more important than ever to let the past be the past, because he has an amazing, sexy, and brilliant woman sitting right in his lap (heh heh) and you hope he will pay full attention to you.

That works pretty well. 🙂

 

Reduce your self-doubt

MOST jealousy is about self-doubt, so the very best way to defeat it is to work on your own self-esteem; you gotta really start to love and value yourself. Your man has an incredible catch in you! It’s a wonder you were willing to stop dating all those other boys so that just one man could enjoy all that you have to offer…

Don’t compare yourself to her; cultivate a sense of your own worth and beauty. Focus on your own accomplishments and uniqueness. Follow your passions and take care of yourself. The more you love and are secure in yourself, the easier it will be for you to identify and let him know when he’s out of line.

 

Set boundaries

Every woman is different. How much contact (texting, calling, working with, etc.) with an ex is too much? If you’re recovering from an affair, you may want a “no contact” rule. But if you’re simply dealing with the women he dated before he found you, you may want to be more flexible. If you can find a very specific contact-related guideline that would help calm your feelings of jealousy, communicate that with him! He may not even be aware that simply pulling her out of his Google + circles would make you feel better.

 

Give him time to win your trust

Take into consideration how long the two of you have been together, because you do need enough time with your man in order to start to feel safe and trust him. And what HE does has an impact on that, of course! Let him work to win your trust, and give him time to do it.

 

Do you ever feel suspicious that the man in your life is lying or cheating? Do you wish you knew what he was thinking? Visit WhyHeLies to find out why men lie and how to read the signals he gives.

 

Sending love and my very best to you,

Claire

 

Claire is the author of the amazing best-selling online program “Capture His Heart and Make Him Love You Forever.”

She blogs at Ask Claire Casey and devotes her writing to helping you attract the kind of man who will treasure and protect your heart like the rare and beautiful gem it is. You can take Claire’s Love Number Quiz (it’s free) and make this YOUR year for love! 

Source: Digital Romance, Inc.