To Be On Top or Not To Be On Top: Advantages and Disadvantages

To Be On Top or Not


You’ve heard about all those crazy Kama Sutra and Tantric sex moves. Sure, those can be fun to experiment with. Who doesn’t like a twisty move with lots of challenging maneuvers on a late night?


But okay, let’s be honest. How often are you pulling out all the stops with your sex moves? How many times are you really messing around with the one-leg-up-one-leg-down-halfway-on-the-bed-wheelbarrow-kneeling-position? How many times would you rather just go to town in the way that feels best? Good old-fashioned face-to-face, one on the top, one on the bottom sex.


That can be pretty darn exciting too, right? Most people go to this tried and true position on a regular basis. Because it works.


With that being said, this move still requires one important decision:


Who’s on top?


Obviously, there are pros and cons to both being on the top and being on the bottom, but how many times have you heard these particulars discussed?


If you’re a gal who has a sexual rendezvous coming up (or if you’re just interested in this topic), check out the pros and cons of being on top below. They may help you decide to give “on top” a try … or … they might remind you why you prefer missionary … Regardless, let’s go.


The Pros of “Being on Top”


  • You control the action.


If you’re someone who typically likes to take a leading role in life and in relationships, you may like the idea of being in control during sex. And without a doubt, the person on top has the most control. For women, this can be good.


Because women frequently have more trouble orgasming than men, this means that woman on top is most beneficial for her. It allows her to control the action and the movements so that she can get there more easily.


  • This position often feels the best anyway.


Regardless of how in control you are, for many women, being on top is just better physically because it positions things so that you get the most stimulation in the perfect places. Furthermore, if you need more stimulation—ahem—up front, your partner can help with this but allow you to do the rest of the work


  • You’re seen as more adventurous and sexy.


If you’re looking to add a little more spice to an otherwise missionary-centric sexual relationship, woman-on-top is the perfect gateway position. It allows you to get creative, show off your body in a sexy way and feel more confident.


The Cons of “Being on Top”


  • You’re in charge of the action.


So obviously … this one goes both ways. Above, it’s a pro because it can feel good to be on top and in control.


But also … it can be a lot of responsibility. Many women aren’t into the idea of taking the female superior position. In fact, lots of women would like their male partners to take control, and when you’re on the bottom, you can let him take charge.


  • It may not be the most flattering view of you.


Now when it comes to sex, if you have a great partner who cares about you (and you should!) everything you do will be flattering.


With that being said, if it’s a new relationship and you’re a little shy or perhaps nervous about your body at first, the woman on top position might unfortunately make you even more self-conscious. After all, you’re basically on display when you’re on top.


But when you’re on the bottom, you can lay back, and kind gravity will do its job at pulling everything back and away in a flattering light.


  • It can get tiring.


In other words, you can’t just lay back and relax when you’re up top. Being on the bottom means basically chilling out while the other person does all the work. As stated above, this may be annoying and boring at times, but it’s also quite a lot of work to be on top managing most of the physical movements.


The Factors at Play


Before closing, let’s revisit one thing: The fact that largely, who goes on top and who goes on bottom will depend on what type of person you are and where you are in your relationship with this guy.


Particularly, are you someone who doesn’t mind taking control in your relationship? Have you two tried lots of different positions already? Are you shy about your body? All these questions will influence whether or not you feel comfortable and confident being on top at this point in your relationship.


But there’s one piece of advice here. You may not be comfortable being on top right now, or perhaps you never like being up there … but do try to attempt new positions from time to time.


Because there’s more to rolling in the sheets than the missionary position. And even trying something as simple as switching the missionary roles can bring a whole new sort of fun to your sex life. That’s what it’s all about.


Men Say 97% of Partners Incompetent When It Comes to “Handy Work”

handy work


An employee at Digital Romance, Inc. recently conducted a survey of a large number of men. The topic concerned was something that every woman has experience with.


Hand jobs.


As a woman, you’ve done these too many times to count. Right?


And you know how to get it done.


Start with some light fingertip play. Move on to full hands. Go slow at first. Then faster and faster … Pretty soon … Success! Your man is as satisfied as he can be.


Well …


The information gleaned from this new survey may change your mind on that.


Actually, it will almost certainly change your mind.


TWO new shocking statistics were found.


First, there’s this: When asked, an amazing 89% of men said that they would rather masturbate than get a hand job from their significant other.


Next, when men did end up getting a hand job from their girlfriends or wives they said that 97% of their partners were incompetent.


Men are sexual beings.


We know this.


And as such, women as their partners need to be aware of the sexuality that they possess. Women need to understand men and understand their needs … just as women ask men to understand their own needs—their own desires to be loved and cared for.


But what these new shocking statistics reveal is that in actuality, women know pretty much close to nothing about what it means to be a loving, attentive, intuitive sex partner to their husbands and boyfriends.


Instead, women have been going along for decades thinking that they’ve been giving their men what they want … but have they? Have you?


Hand jobs are a huge part of sex.


Yes, really.


Obviously, there are more intense ways to get intimate, and maybe those parts of your love life are fine. But think about this:


How do you and your man start sex just about every time? You don’t just dive in. You start with the hands right?


And sometimes, finishing him with a hand job can be super sexy and intensely erotic.


But you have to do it right. The truth of the matter is that you likely haven’t been doing it right.


And if you’re saying: “No, I have! He loves it when I give him a hand job and he always says how amazing it makes him feel!” … Well, listen to this:


According to the survey, men also said that they would NEVER tell their wives and girlfriends that they were unsatisfied with the hand jobs they were getting.


Instead, they said that they just tolerated these awful hand jobs to be nice. And later … they would masturbate to porn.


This is a nice gesture on the part of men … but seriously, do you want to be getting pity sex for him?


Probably not. Instead, make him love the hand jobs that you give. Make him beg for them. Make him never want to watch another porn again.


If you want to give better hand jobs, you can.


Here are some tips to get you started, and we’ll tell you exactly what you need to do at the end.


  1. Don’t Be Rough.


Men might be a little more rough with their own … parts. But that’s not your prerogative. As his woman, your man wants you to be soft and gentle. And only a little extra excited at specific times.


  1. Always Use Two Hands.


Simple: Why use one when you have two? More is better when it comes to hands.


  1. Vary Your Speed


Not varying speed is something that drives men nuts. Yes, they want it to build up from slow to faster … and faster. But in between there, add variation. Otherwise, it’s just a boring ride where everyone already knows what’s going to happen before it does.


  1. Use Stroke of Genius Techniques.


The above list contains some of the basics for giving decent hand jobs. But who wants to give just a “decent” hand job? Don’t you want to be the best?


If so … Stroke of Genius is the video that you absolutely must watch. This video is insane in the information that it gives. More than just telling you every point that you are doing wrong and why he is hating the techniques that you probably think are your best work … Stroke of Genius tells you how to fix these problems.


And the information comes straight from men. So, you know you’re getting information that is accurate and honest. These men didn’t know who they were telling when they elaborated every detail about how they feel about women’s hand jobs.


They were just being honest.


And as a woman, this information is gold.


Go to the video now and watch it. Then try just a fraction of what you’ve learned the next time you two get frisky.


Trust us, he’ll be on his knees begging you to give him more. He’ll even be telling his friends about your amazing-ness.


And the next time you do give him more, you can show him even more of what you’ve learned: Perhaps “The Tip Swirl” or “The Kiss of the Fingernails.” Men love these. And that’s just the beginning …


Hey, why wait? Check it out now and use these amazing tips tonight. Your man doesn’t know what’s waiting for him!


3 Ways to Make “The Big O” Even Better While Also Amplifying Intimacy



Sex with your partner should be as good as possible the whole way through, but let’s face it … we’re all headed somewhere. And that somewhere starts with a big, fat O.




Ok, so that’s a given. But did you know that if you want to intensify your orgasms and make them even better, it’s actually not about the moment of the “Big O” itself?


Nope, it’s all about the other stuff.


More specifically, it’s about prolonging foreplay. How do you do this? Easy. Below, you’re going to find the best three ways to turn that usual dinky ‘o’ into a big ‘ole ‘O’ that will be extremely difficult to forget.


Not only will these strategies help you feel amazing, they’ll bring your lovemaking to a whole new level and make you and your honey even closer.


Let’s get started!


  1. Make foreplay last … and make it fun.


You need your foreplay to last for both of you. Forget that old saying that women love long foreplay and men don’t. Men can love it too, but you two just have to know what you’re doing.


Why is prolonged foreplay so vital to achieving an amazing orgasm? Think about it. It’s all about stretching out the anticipation. For example, if you consider what’s so exciting about some big event happening … the exciting part is the part leading up to the event. And when there’s lots of buildup and anticipation, things can get pretty intense!


So how to build things up? How to stretch them out?


Start by going slow. This might seem simple, but it’s actually hard—especially when you’re really turned on and ready to go.


You’ve got to learn how to play with your partner. And do some exploring too.


For example, try going down on them. And when you do, give them slow kisses as you move. Use your hands all over their body. Move in different positions. Use your mouth.


  1. Get creative with your techniques … and locations … at the same time.


Ok, obviously getting into a new position or trying a new technique is a great way to jazz things up. But you should also try to combine these new techniques and positions with new locations. In fact, it’s all about the combining. Really, think of how many more combinations of moves and positions you can do if you also change up locations, outfits, mood, time of day, etc.


One example of this might be heading outside for the day. Ever had sex outside? We didn’t think so.


But why not? All you have to do is pack a picnic lunch and go somewhere private. Then start getting into it. The excitement of being somewhere new and maybe even the possibility of someone seeing could be extremely useful for getting you two turned on.


  1. Put your game face on.


If you’re not already playing games with your partner, you should be! Remember, you have to stay creative and always be thinking about new ways to spice things up within your sex life. This is vital to maintaining a solid relationship.


Naturally, the same old routine gets old, and bringing new ideas to the table is no one else’s job but yours. Both of you! So it’s important to consider implementing some alluring and fun sex games—as long as you’re both comfortable with them and they’re tasteful.


These games will seriously intensify the length and quality of your orgasms. One of the best things about sex games is that it automatically makes foreplay longer. Think about it: As you talk about which game to play, decide on “rules” and discuss how you’re going to go about things … you naturally start getting turned on.


Sex games are also awesome because they help you get out of your comfort zone. If you are usually just trying to think of new positions and games by yourself … you might feel intimidated or nervous about trying something new. With a game that has rules, you can rest assured you’ll feel comfortable because you’ll just be doing what the game tells you to.


Some games may use a pair of dice, a deck of cards, or even some props (your bodies can also be the props…!). And all and all, it’s just a great way to get the juices flowing and prolong the great big O.


So. Are you ready? If you feel prepared to plunge in head first and begin making that foreplay longer and more intense … you’re already well on your way to some amazing O sensations. Trust us.


But, there’s something else you need to know.


Playing games, using creative locations and techniques, and stretching out the foreplay can help make your big O great … That’s for sure. But there’s another thing you need to know: It’s a natural method that can also do wonders for you.  And when we say wonders we mean wonders …


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