Why You SHOULD Keep The Lights On When You Get It On

Why You SHOULD Keep The Lights On When You Get It On

by Felicity Keith

Why You Should Keep the Lights On for Nookie

If you are the type to turn off the lights before getting busy with your man, read up!

With all of the messages we receive daily about our appearance, it’s no wonder that so many of us are critical of ourselves. And when you feel insecure about something, your natural inclination is to hide it. Not put it all out there on display!

But that’s exactly what I’m encouraging you to do.

I want you to “do it” in broad daylight…

With the lights on…

Letting him devour your body with his eyes…

Why you might ask?

It’s because men are highly VISUAL creatures. Adding in the ability for him to see how much pleasure he’s giving you sends his brain into sexual overdrive.

Here’s just a few reasons why:

1. Giving him permission to adore and pleasure your body feeds his ego.

Did you know the number one thing that turns a man on is your enthusiasm for sex and how much you enjoy his prowess? Yep, number one. Not how flat your tummy is or the lack of cellulite on your booty.

He wants to feel like he is taking you to the heights of bliss. And if you are too caught up in keeping covered, you can’t possibly surrender to the pleasurable sensations happening. If you refuse certain positions out of insecurity, that definitely affects how he interprets your enthusiasm.

2. Letting him watch himself have sex with you is literally intoxicating.

Two of his senses (three if you are talking dirty and moaning) are involved. Not only does he get to physically feel how amazing the sex is, he gets to watch how amazing it is, too. It’s a double-shot of hot for him. And his brain goes on overdrive releasing all of the amazing feel-good pleasure chemicals that frankly feel insanely incredible.

Plus, with the lights on, it’s like his own personal naughty movie.

Especially in positions like doggie style where he has a front row view of all the action. Or if you strategically place a mirror where he can take in the show. Yowza!

Okay, I get that the idea of putting it all on display sounds scary to some of you reading this. But here is what I want you to remember:
He’s not judging you NEARLY as much as you are.

He’s way more focused on enjoying the hot view of sex with you than on counting how many stretch marks you have. Because, hello! Naked woman having sex with him!

Also, if he tells you that you are beautiful…BELIEVE HIM. Don’t list out your flaws or put yourself down. Let him know that his appreciation is well-received.

In my program The Language of Desire , I give you tons of ways to not only feel your sexiest but also to empower you to know exactly how to blow his mind through dirty talk and specific techniques that reach right into his primal sexual brain. 

If you’d like more information about what goes through your man’s brain when it comes to sex as well as in depth information about how to use sexual fantasies to spice up your intimate connection, make sure to check out The Language of Desire. Click here for the article version (without sound) or here for the video version (with sound). Please just be aware that these are NOT safe for work or if you have little ones nearby.

Go check it out, you’ll BOTH be happy you did!

Felicity

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What Does it Mean When He Closes His Eyes During Nookie?

What Does it Mean When He Closes His Eyes During Nookie?

by Felicity Keith

 has his eyes closed during nookie

You are in bed together…

Passionately in the moment…

Feeling so intimately connected…

And then…

He closes his eyes in order to get to the “finish line”.

What exactly does that mean?

If you are like a lot of women, you might wonder if he’s retreating into a vivid fantasy world. Wondering, is he thinking about another woman?

I’m happy to tell you that his closing his eyes really has nothing to do with escaping from the moment with you and everything to do with actually enjoying the intense sensations happening.

For most guys, they put a certain amount of mental effort toward holding BACK on climaxing during sex. They want to last longer, to please you more, and not race to the finish. So when they actually do shift gears into allowing their orgasm to happen, the physical sensations are powerful. Closing his eyes allows him to fully tune in to what is happening pleasure-wise in his body.

It was explained to me in this way: When you take away one of the five senses, it makes the other senses and sensations stronger and more vivid.

When I surveyed my Man Panel when writing The Language of Desire (and the sexy secondary product, The Sensual Tsunami) about what male orgasm feels like, they set me straight. One man told me: “It’s like a slow-building rollercoaster that takes a very sharp incline almost straight up before you rocket straight back down. And you get this amazing feeling in your stomach right before you climax and then for the next 10-15 seconds the floor drops out and you are drifting in bliss. Then you come back to reality.”

With that kind of intensity, he isn’t even keeping track of what his eyes are doing!

You can also think about it like kissing. We close our eyes when we kiss not because we want to disconnect from the moment but because it actually draws our awareness closer to what is taking place physically. Except when it comes to orgasm, it’s about a million times more physical fireworks.

Could he be thinking about another woman when he closes his eyes?

Sure, it’s possible he’s mentally fantasizing about making love to a Victoria’s Secret model while he’s in bed with you. Just like sometimes you might close your eyes and think about Brad Pitt or Denzel Washington…or whoever floats the little man in your boat. Fantasizing in that manner isn’t a bad thing. It’s totally normal and most people (both men and women) do it on occasion. And it doesn’t damage your relationship when it’s something that happens once in awhile, especially when the fantasy includes a celebrity or someone you aren’t ever actually going to even meet…let alone get naked with.

If you’d like more information about what goes through your man’s brain when it comes to sex as well as in depth information about how to use sexual fantasies to spice up your intimate connection, make sure to check out The Language of Desire.  Click here for the article version (without sound) or here for the video version (with sound).  Please just be aware that these are NOT safe for work or if you have little ones nearby. 

Enjoy!

Felicity

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