Why Men Ignore Your Text Messages

The 10 Second Text That Will Make Him Smile For Hours

In my work as a relationship coach, one of the most common questions I get is “Why doesn’t he text me back?”

I’ve found that the women who ask this question are always making one of these four mistakes.

That’s right. There are four reasons why men ignore your texts. They have to do with why you’re texting, what you’re saying, and when you’re saying it. You need to stop doing these things immediately if you want men to text you back.

Plus, I’m going to share with you a foolproof way to get him to text you first.

  1. Boring texts

If you’re texting him “Hey, what’s up?” you’re not going to get a response. You need to give him something to respond to.

Before you send a text, ask yourself, “If he sent me this, how would I respond?” If you don’t know what to say back, chances are that he won’t either.

If he has to think about his reply, he’ll get distracted and forget all about your message. Pretty soon, when he sees a message from you he won’t even want to bother.

Make it easy for him. Think about what you know about him and make sure your texts are relevant to his interests and personality so he knows what to say. When in doubt, memes and jokes almost always get a response.

  1. Not asking questions

More often than not, when a guy stops responding it’s because he thought the conversation was over. And if he’s asking you questions and you’re not asking questions back, he probably thinks you don’t even want to talk to him!

This is why the best way to get a response is to ask a direct question. Something that he can’t answer with one word.

It’s easy to get fixated on making the perfect response to a text but asking the right questions is even more important. Every man wants a woman who is interested in what he thinks and feels.

  1. “I miss you”

This is a big mistake I see again and again. Texting is supposed to be a conversation. Keep it light, fun, and funny. This means no guilt trips!

I know that’s not what you’re trying to do but it’s difficult to read tone in a text message. If you text him “I miss you” or even a playful “hey stranger”, he may take it the wrong way.

He’s not going to want to text you (or date you) if you make him feel bad, even if that’s not your intention. Texting should give, not take.

  1. Always texting first

Texting is a part of courtship. He needs to feel like he has to chase you a little bit or he won’t be interested.

That’s why less is more. Don’t text him unless you have something to say or a question. I often recommend only texting to make plans.

Talking in person is always going to be easier and more natural. Plus, if you’re someone who agonizes over texting then focusing on the face-to-face is a much better way to go. The less you reach out via text, the quicker he’ll be to try to make plans.

You also shouldn’t always be texting him first. Let him send the first message.

You’re probably asking, “how do I make him text first?”

This can be tricky. That’s why I’ve put together a free video presentation that will show you how, when, and what to text him to have him chasing after you.

The Stupidly Simple "Attention-Pulling"  Text Message That All Men Are Powerless To Resist

My method is super easy and it works on any guy. Plus, he won’t even know you’re doing it! He’ll just feel an uncontrollable urge to text you, call you, and chase after you.

And the women that guys want to text are the ones they want to date. So click here to watch my free video and up your texting game!

5 Texts You Should Never Send Her

5 Texts You Should Never Send Her

 

5 texts you should never send her

 

Penis pics may make women cringe, but there are other, less obvious texts she also hates—and chances are, you’re guilty of sending them. “The biggest problem is that you can’t interpret emotion over a text message,” says Carrie McDermott, co-founder of HeTexted.com, a site where women can post confusing texts from men. In other words, you might be thinking, “Totally nailed that convo!” while she’s feverishly forwarding your message to her gal pals. Here’s how to avoid ending up on McDermott’s website—or worse, in the doghouse.

 

Text from Hell #1: “Hey …”

You think you’re being flirty and suggestive, but this screams “lazy” to her. “You should never send a ‘nothing’ text—which is really just a text that demands the person receiving it does all the work,” says Michael Fiore, founder of textyourexback.com. Checking in via text is fine—as long as you make your intentions clear. Your line: “Hey there! Work is crazy today, but I just wanted to say hi!” or “Was just thinking about our ski trip last month. You’re one hell of a snow bunny :)” No extended conversation necessary.

 

Text from Hell #2: “?”

We get it: Emoticons are fun and a little bit ironic. But if a woman takes a risk and says, “I had a great time tonight,” a smiley face is just going to shut her down—not confirm that you agree, says McDermott. Same goes for “K”, “Haha, nice!” or “LOL!”—which really don’t count as responses at all. “We’re not asking for a novel here,” McDermott says. “Just give us a full sentence.” If she says she had fun, simply reply, “I had a really great time, too. Thanks for coming out with me.” Or if she forwards you a funny link, fire off a text that shows you actually read it, like, “That’s hilarious! Totally on point.”

 

Text from Hell #3: “What do you wanna do tonight?”

This is fine if you’re 5 years into a relationship. But in the early stages, you need to take charge—or at least offer a suggestion or two. “Women want a guy who will invite them on an adventure, not a guy who’s waiting around for them to make a decision,” says Fiore. Even a simple “Italian or Mexican?” will suffice.

 

Text from Hell #4: “I was pretty drunk last night …”

Sending this gem the morning after a hookup is the fastest way to mortify a woman. “No girl wants to see the words, ‘I don’t remember much,’ ” says McDermott. “It usually means the guy remembers everything and he’s embarrassed about it. And no woman is going to say, ‘Oh, let me give you an update. You said you liked me.’ ” If you truly regret what happened, that’s a conversation best had face-to-face—or at the very least, over the phone.

 

Text from Hell #5: “Going out with the guys. See you tomorrow.”

This should score you points—you are, after all, communicating your plans. But unfortunately, the tone of this text does you in. “This says, ‘The guys are more important to me than you are, and you won’t be hearing from me tonight,’ ” says Fiore. The key: Make her feel special when clueing her in. For example, you might say, “Hey, I’m going out with the guys tonight, but I’ll be thinking about you the whole time. Can’t wait to see you tomorrow.” “That way, she knows you’re thinking about her, and also has something to look forward to,” says Fiore.

Now that you’ve discovered 5 types of texts that will get you nowhere, do you want to learn more about how to do texting totally RIGHT?  Click here for the ultimate texting guide for men and women that has sold thousands of copies by best selling author and relationship expert, Michael Fiore.

Article originally posted by Laura Tedesco on menshealth.com