How to Know What Real Men Want in Bed

What real men want in bed.


You read articles online and in women’s magazines about What Men Want.


But how true is all this stuff? Are these really things that men want to experience with you in the bedroom?


Not necessarily.


For example: A threesome?


If he’s really in love with you, he’s not just going to want to have another woman in the mix no matter how horny he is …


Another example: Bondage?


He’s a man, but not every man is into that kind of stuff.


So then. What is it that real men want?


Let’s find out.


What Real Men Want When It Comes to Their Partners and Sex


  1. Excitement.


Enthusiasm. Passion. Eagerness.


They want you to be all of these things. And of course, they want you to be these things about him. To convey this … think dirty talk, smiles, moans, sounds, passionate kisses. All of this tells him you want him … you need him. And that makes him go crazy.


The next day when he remembers how you looked into his eyes and told him how bad you wanted him … he’ll hardly able to concentrate on his work. That’s the sign of great sex.


  1. A little bit of a trophy.


“Trophy wife.”


“Trophy girlfriend.”


Most women are aghast at these labels! How dare you!?


But why?


This is what real men want in many cases. Yep. Something they can parade around and show their friends. This does not mean that they don’t love you also.


So when it comes to sex, this comes into play. Real men want to feel like they’ve earned their trophy. It turns ‘em on, gets ‘em going.


He wants someone who is sexy and confident and … who wants him. You don’t have to be stick thin, have model looks, or be “perfect” by traditional standards. But sometimes … be okay being his trophy woman.


  1. A woman who knows what she wants.


In the bedroom, the leading man is usually, well, the man. But guys want desperately to know what it is you crave in the bedroom. If you want him to go down on you. If you want to go down on each other at the same time. For how long? In what way?


He wants you to tell him what you like, and he wants to give you exactly that. And of course, when he gives you what you want … make sure to display to him just how much you’re enjoying it … (See #1).


  1. Shock and surprise.


Ok, probably not the shock you’re thinking of. Don’t jump out and scare him!


We’re talking about shock in terms of surprise sex. He wants to be surprised by something you do sexually. For instance, in a generally non-sexual situation.


So think about it. Do you ever give him a little under the table play when you’re out at a dimly lit restaurant? Have you ever met him at the door after work in your negligée? What about middle of the night sex? Morning sex? Afternoon sex?


If you’re a little apprehensive because you’ve never been the kind of gal to start randomly jumping your guy out of nowhere … don’t fret. Know why you don’t have to fret?


Because guys always want to have sex. In other words, you’ll never “catch him at a bad time.”


  1. Roughness (A little bit and just sometimes).


The thing is, you don’t have to be rough. It’s just that you should not be so concerned with being a delicate little flower. Sure, you’re the woman. Sure, you are delicate in a lot of ways, and yes, that’s what he finds attractive about you.


But a little bit of getting rough and tumble could really get him going. For instance, try kissing him a little rougher, then dialing it back again and moving slowly. Or grab his hair a little tighter. Or wrap your legs a little closer around him while you’re in bed together. There’s no need to get violent, but definitely play rough sometimes, and see his eyes light up.


  1. Compassion.


Sometimes, things don’t always work out the way you (he) planned (Ahem, you know what we mean). And in that case, if you’re at first a bit shocked (and even a little bothered) … he’s going to feel pretty bad.


So if you want your guy to feel his most comfortable in bed with you and thus be extremely satisfied, make sure you make him feel comfortable. And have compassion for him especially during these sometimes awkward moments. It can go a long way.


  1. Adventure.


Be willing to try new things! Men want you to be adventurous and come up with new positions, moves, games and ideas so they don’t always have to. And in conjunction with #6, if he does come up with a new idea, don’t shoot him down and make him feel bad even if you’re not 100 percent on board.


If you’re wondering exactly how to become more adventurous, start slow. Maybe take a shower or bath together, or do massages. You might even try a game.


This will get you started. But then you need a little something more … something that will make you unique to him. After all, it’s possible for a man to be in love with you in a pretty typical way. But it’s also possible for a man to be infatuated with you. So in love with you and dedicated to you that he would never even think of leaving.


To achieve this, though, you need a special program. It’s called Undeniable Passion, and this program has already changed hundreds of women’s lives.


Real men can become completely devoted to their partners. And it doesn’t take much … but you have to know a special psychological loophole to get you there. If you think you’ve already tried everything you can think of … you haven’t. In conjunction with the vital steps you’ll learn in Undeniable Passion, the steps above will help you land the man of your dreams for life.

What Men Want in Bed but Would Never Tell You

What do men truly want in bed?

By: Faye Roberts


What men want

Have you ever had a fantasy? Something you thought about all the time, that you really wanted to come true?


Maybe it was a dream you had for your career, a fantasy about being a pop star or an amazing actress. Maybe it was a dream about the kind of guy you wanted to meet… Mr. Darcy anyone?


Ok. Now was this fantasy something you felt comfortable talking to everyone about… ?


Probably not, right?


There are some things that we think about but that we’re not ready to share.


In a nutshell, this is what we’re dealing with when it comes to men… all the time. About everything.




Because men are seriously shy.


Did you know that?


Oh sure, you probably knew that men don’t really like to readily share their feelings. They tend to be a little bit “silent” when it comes to discussing “emotions” in a “relationship” or “where things are going.”


But we’re not sure you’re getting the seriousness of it. Let’s say it again:


Men are shy.


They don’t want to share … well … pretty much anything.


So when it comes to you knowing what men really want in bed…


You don’t know as much as you think, hon.


You’ve “been around the block,” but are you sure you’ve learned everything about what a man wants?


We don’t mean to burst your bubble. Granted, you’ve probably found out some key things based on how he reacts when you’re in bed together (basically every man loves blow jobs, we all know that).


But we’re here to tell you that there is a lot you don’t know. It’s something that you won’t hear often because A) Men won’t be the ones to tell you. And B) Women’s magazines and resources have little way of finding out (they most often derive their information from women, not directly from men, where the information should be coming from!).


Ok. So there’s a lot you don’t know. Where do we go from here?


Well, we’ve got good news.


Someone has asked the men. Finally, someone’s done it.


His name is Michael Fiore. He’s a relationship professional and has been in the relationship field for decades, looking to find the things that men truly want out of relationships—because it is a major mystery to most analysts. In fact, it’s such a mystery that it took scientific data to get to the bottom of it.


And Michael Fiore has gotten to the bottom of it.


He did so by interviewing and surveying 30,000 individual men. He asked what they were looking for in the best sexual partner they could imagine.


The men ranged in age, income level, and race so that Michael was able to get a smattering of honest answers from men of all walks of life.


All of the survey information was kept confidential. And this was the key to enabling men to feel completely comfortable answering the questions 100 percent honestly. The answers Michael received were all raw, truthful responses.


You are unlikely to know this, but most surveys given to men include names and personal information for record. Of course, it makes sense that this causes men to fudge their answers. Naturally, they’re afraid of people (mostly women) finding out what it is they really want during sex. Remember, men are shy. They’re afraid of being vulnerable, and they don’t want to be embarrassed.


So after everything, what do men truly want in bed?

These were the top three answers:


  1. More Blow Jobs


You already knew blow jobs were popular, but did you know just how popular they were? Far and away, blow jobs were the most talked about thing that men wanted in bed.


  1. More Dirty Talk


You may have thought to yourself, “Ok, men like a little dirty talk during sex.” You’re thinking little phrases here and there to spice things up. But the truth is it’s more than that. Men want intense sexy talk and lots more of it.


  1. Threesomes


No, it’s not just a trope in porn that men want threesomes. They seriously want them. And it doesn’t mean that they want them so they can start actual relationships with the “third woman.” It means that you plus another female is what really turns them on. Like a lot.


Why Do Men Want These Things?


This is important!


You thought that the main part of this article would be what men want in bed, and yes, this is important. But what is truly important is why.


Why do men want these things?


This is what you need to know.


Most of it has to do with feeling powerful.


Men want to feel like they are the “alpha male,” like they are in control and feeling respected is paramount. This goes way back to our earliest ancestors: the men were in control. They got the job done. It’s in their DNA.


But of course, we don’t live in the times of cavemen. We live in a modern time where men might be judged for these desires. There is so much that women don’t know about men.


But there are ways to find out.


The best way is to use the findings of Michael Fiore. Everything he has learned has been thankfully compiled into one excellent resource that has been especially adapted for women. It’s called The Secret Survey.


It’s just like the title implies. It’s all of the results of the secret survey that Michael Fiore gave to 30,000 men.


If you have been struggling with confronting your man about what he really wants in bed, The Secret Survey could be your new best friend. It has even more, even deeper secret details on everything we’ve spoken of in this article.


Check out The Secret Survey here. Knowing your man and unlocking the deep, dark desires that he is too shy or too embarrassed to tell you is the key to connecting with him on the deepest level. It’s the key to making him see you as the only woman he can ever imagine being with.

The Top 3 Things Men Want You to Know During Sex

The Top 3 Things Men Want You to Know During Sex

By: Eric Jensen


As a woman, you’ve got little to go on when it comes to knowing what men are thinking at any given time. Does he like your new haircut? Is he planning on taking you out for Valentine’s Day? Did he hear what you just said?

Who knows.

But during sex, the male mystery gets really…real. You’re rolling around in the sheets together, naked, completely vulnerable, and you’ve got no earthly idea what he’s thinking!

Well, straight from the horse’s mouth, here are the 3 things that men are desperate for you to know about during sex.


1. “We’re worried what you think of our bodies.”


We hear a lot of women say they’re nervous about their bodies during sex. But are we considering the shape of your breasts or the fact that you’ve got a little stubble down there? No, we are most definitely not worrying or even thinking about these things. If we’re having sex with you, you look … amazing.


With that being said, we are pretty self-conscious about our own looks. It has a lot to do with whether we have man boobs or a beer gut, but mostly it’s about how big we are. We want to know how we measure up—literally—and it freaks us out that we may be on the small side.


The stats say it all. In a 2015 study from the British Journal of Urology*, the majority of men polled were sure that their penis was smaller than they were in reality. So if we seem a little tense, that’s probably what we’re freaking out about.


2. “We’re just as into cuddling as you are.”


You know those romantic comedies where the guy can’t stand cuddling and just wants sex? Inaccurate. In fact, we love a good cuddle. A study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior actually found that men see cuddling as more important in a relationship than sex*.


Listen, if we’re dating, we like you. We want to be around you. And we probably want to be touching you as much as humanly possible. So it makes sense that being sidled up against you under a cozy blanket on the couch or lying in bed is just about the best case scenario for us, and we love it.


3. “We’re more alike when it comes to sex than you think.”


Men have a rap for being sex maniacs. The trope is that at any given moment, our minds are buzzing with images of breasts, vaginas and flexible bedroom positions. Ok. This may be true sometimes. But really, there’s more going on in there than you know.


Women are emotional beings, and we get that. But we have emotions too; the truth is we just show them differently. While you may be able to gush a whole paragraph about how you feel, we may only be able to muster a, “I really like you a lot.” That sentence may seem dull and short to you, but it took everything we had to get it out, and we really meant it. We’re just as complex and emotional as you. We just often don’t express it the same way you do.


These are definitely three surprising facts that give you more insight into men … so do you want more?


The language of men has long been a mystery to women—especially in the bedroom. What’s going through his mind as you first start kissing and making out? What’s his response when you do that thing with your tongue? Should you say things? What things? What do men want?


Finally, your questions can be answered. An amazing, comprehensive resource is now available to all women who want to finally tap into their inner passionate selves and reveal the secrets of men. It’s called “The Language of Desire,” and it’s chockfull of vital tidbits and serious advice for satisfying the man of your dreams!


Learn the art of silent and verbal seduction. Find what will make his heart stop in bed. Learn how to be so sexually confident and attractive that he can’t stop thinking about you when you’re not there.


If you’ve ever been perplexed or disappointed by a man, you need to watch this and get started immediately!


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* Study about penis size

Link to CBS Article on the study:;jsessionid=14E479767FE3D720852D2F86C2FC4B8C.f03t02?systemMessage=Wiley+Online+Library+will+be+disrupted+on+7th+March+from+10%3A00-13%3A00+GMT+%2805%3A00-08%3A00+EST%29+for+essential+maintenance.++Apologies+for+the+inconvenience.


* Study about men and cuddling

Actual Study Citation:

Heiman, J. Archives of Sexual Behavior, August 2011; vol 40: pp 741-753.

Link to Abstract of the Study:

Link to WebMD Article on the Study: