5 Reasons Your Red-Hot Connection With Him Suddenly Went Cold

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Tell me if this has happened to you before…


You meet a guy, you like each other and hit it off right out of the gate.

Then you start dating, sparks start flying – and then he does a 180 on you.

Just when you thought things were going perfectly, your soulmate-to-be is finding every excuse NOT to see you.

He’s either busy with work, or has some “personal stuff” to sort out. Or worse, he’s not offering any excuses at all.

He’s gone incommunicado. Off the grid. Dropped off the face of the planet.

Whatever you want to call it, it sucks and you don’t know what you did or said that made him freak out.


Now you’re wondering, “Will every guy I meet seem too sweet at the beginning, only to lose him at the end? Are all my relationships destined to fizzle out and die a quiet death?”


That’s why I want to give you the most common factors that make a guy bail on you.


But aside from that, I want to go one step further and show you how to keep you from falling into the same situation again.


Let’s get into the first reason why guys leave…


#1: He got weirded out


In a guy’s mind, he’s crossed a very significant line once he’s slept with someone. The whole game changes for him and that puts his mind and heart in a strange place.

Some men don’t adapt too well to this period of transition and he can’t articulate what’s going on in his inner world. That’s why he’d rather just drop out of sight instead of hashing it out with you.


#2: He sees commitment differently from you


Ok, before you start labeling guys as “commitment-phobes”, you need to understand what this means exactly.

It’s not so much an actual problem with commitment as it is the RATE that your relationship is growing. There’s a possibility that after sleeping together, he FELT you wanted to get SUPER serious right away.


(The operative word is “felt”, so it’s not because you actually pushed him into committing.)


So it could be just a matter of him misinterpreting your expectations.


Here’s something you need to understand about some men: they get skittish when they think there’s a threat to their personal freedom or independence. It’s not that he wants to date every woman out there, but rather retain his sense of individuality in a relationship.


He might have thought you wanted the whole nine yards ASAP when in reality you just wanted to take it one step further. Like I said earlier, some guys tend to freak out when changes like this comes along.


#3: He has a lot on his plate


Men generally aren’t that keen on juggling too many things at once. It takes up a lot of head space and requires a great deal of mental and physical energy for him.


So from time to time, he’ll be operating on a certain wavelength to deal with “Mission Critical” stuff from time to time – but only out of necessity.


Remember, he’s not intentionally shutting you out of his life. It’s more of him squaring away the things that are stressing him out…like a project at work for example.


As a suggestion, you could be supportive when he gets into this mode. Once he’s tackled those obstacles, he can go back to enjoying your connection and be fully present like before.


#4: The neediness scared him away


Since we’re being honest here, the truth is that some women have issues concerning neediness.


For instance, you might want to justify a casual hookup and make it into something more than it is. But you can also push things too quickly even if you’re interested in a serious boyfriend.


Like guys, the post-sex period can put you in a weird (or even fragile) emotional state. And some women react to this by pushing for commitment before the time is right.


So you have to keep an eye on this sort of thing when it comes up…


#5: He needs “Me Time”


I know that sounds cliché, but hear me out.


With guys, there comes a time when they have to recharge their batteries because they’re feeling depleted. He needs to regain that masculine energy that makes him who he is.


In the same situation, women tend to reach out to others to recharge their own batteries. But with men however, they’d rather fly solo.


It’s not right or wrong – just different.


He’s not trying to prove he’s “man enough” to do it alone. He’s just hardwired to deal with it that way.


Trust me, odds are the connection you share with him WILL pull him back to you in good time.


Freaking out on him at this point will likely freak him out TOO. So I’d advise you to cool your jets and wait it out.


In fact, I’d like you to treat this as the perfect opportunity to reconnect with all the good stuff you have going in your OWN life. Besides, your family, friends, career and hobbies make you the interesting woman that you are.


The more you keep in touch with that part of yourself, the better effect it will have on your relationship with your man.


Also, the happier you are with your own life – even if he WASN’T in the picture – the quicker he’ll want to come back to you.


In fact, that’s the best way to keep that needy voice in your head at bay.


But there is one other way to make sure he’ll NEVER pull away no matter what.


Most women don’t know that men are actually programmed to obey something I call the “Love Law.” You might even say it’s built in to his very genetic code.


This is what compels a guy to stick to his woman even in the face of logic and reasoning. It’s what makes him do all those crazy, romantic things you see in the movies.


More importantly, it’s what prevents him from pulling away from his partner.


But to trigger this kind of reaction in a man, he needs to experience the “Cupid Effect.” This is based on a basic set of psychological principles that make him feel an intense rush of emotions like clockwork.


All guys have this switch in their head – they’re simply waiting for the right woman to flip it. If you want to know more about this straightforward process, check out this free video now.

How to Lose a Man in 5 Easy Steps

How to Lose a Man in 5 Easy Steps

by Rick Wall

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Sometime it seems that men and women are completely on different planets, and that it is absolutely impossible for either gender to understand the other. This can be seen clearly when observing some of the common causes that drive men out of relationships with women (and vice versa, of course). It is often times the result of behavior that is considered appropriate by some women; however, men view it in a negative light.


Following are five steps that will pretty much guarantee that you will lose your man. Keep in mind that these steps don’t have to be in consecutive; as few as one will do.


1. Overanalyzing Certain Situations


One of the most common mistakes that women make that end up driving men away is overanalyzing situations through an emotional lens.


Men will typically say or do things without giving much thought to what they are saying or doing. On the other hand, a woman will spend hours discussing the specific nuances of the same statement or action with another female.


When you overanalyze the actions of a man, it will typically lead you to a conclusion that is absolutely opposed to what he intended. I know that it is hard to believe, but while you are analyzing 20 different reasons why he did it, he actually just did it because he felt it needed to be done. There are no ulterior motives.


2. Become a Drama Queen


If there is anything that a man loathes it is drama. Men want peace, and they really prefer their partner to be the source of their peace.


Although a woman may be coaxed or riled up by those who are trying to show support for her, a drama queen is on a fast track to driving away the man in her life.


There are some women who have no problem bringing drama to their man’s life by doing things such as showing up to his job unannounced and causing a scene or having a public meltdown with a large audience to witness it. This behavior takes a man to a place that he is most uncomfortable, and it will end with him walking away.


Instead of confronting your man when you are worked up, firstly take a moment to calm down and clear your head.  Taking any action while your emotions are high is a bad idea.

When you have had a chance to breathe and think about what you’re angry about logcially, arrange a time to speak with him calmly so that you can sort out whatever you are having an issue with. It will work to your benefit no matter what the result is.  There is no better substitute for keeping it classy.


3. Spewing Perpetual Negativity


The only thing that a man seeks more than the affirmation of a woman is the respect of a woman. Relationship expert, James Bauer, actually calls this The Respect Principle (click here to learn a lot more about it).


Research has shown that men actually prefer being respected over being loved, whereas for women, if they had to choose, they would prefer to be loved.


Yes, men want to be loved too, but they need respect and affirmation the same way that you need to be loved.


When a woman is consistently negative, it slowly eats away at a man’s soul. One of the most negative statements that I have heard aimed at a man by his woman is, “Why don’t you love me anymore?” There is nothing more despairing for a man than to have a heart for a woman and be accused of not loving her.  He feels as though she doesn’t believe him when she makes these kinds of statements or asks these kinds of questions, and when a man feels as though you don’t believe him, he consequently feels as though you don’t respect him.


Further, there is no man or woman alive who wants to be with someone who perpetually has a dark cloud over there head.  Make a conscious effort to identify when you are being negative and do your best to work through what is making you unhappy so that you can be happy and positive in your relationship, too.


4. Constantly Trying to Change Him


Let’s get this clear right up front. When you meet a man, he is who he is. He will grow and mature, but his personality and his style will be pretty much fixed.


There will be certain things he will change to please you; however, hounding about things that he does not want to change will eventually wear thin with him, and he will push back. In the most extreme situations, he will push back by leaving.


5. Moving Things Along Too Fast


Becoming too emotionally attached or too physically clingy is another way to push a man away. It is understandable that you are excited about this new guy in your life; however, most men have learned that when a woman becomes too clingy too soon in the relationship, it typically leads to other issues later on.


Give him the space he needs to miss you and desire you. You also need space to ensure that you don’t lose yourself.


Men are actually very simple creatures, which means they are significantly different from women, and approaching a relationship with them the same way that you approach relationships with your female friend will almost certainly lead to problems in the long run.



Ready for more insights into the surprising things that men crave?  After reading this article, I hope you have started to realize that it’s not what you think. 


For further reading on The Respect Principle and so much more, make sure you check this out.


Respect matters to men in ways women just can’t see (without a little training in male psychology). If you’d like to learn how to implement this concept in your own relationships, follow the link below for a more in-depth explanation of The Respect Principle.  It can literally change EVERYTHING for the better in your current relationship, or in preparing you for a new, healthy relationship.


Click here to learn more!


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