3 Major Missteps Women Make That Will Make Him Flee For The Hills

3 Major Missteps Women Make That Will

Make Him Flee For The Hills

by Michael Fiore

3 missteps women make that will make him run for the hills

Hey folks, this is Michael Fiore and today’s topic is “3 Major Missteps Women Make That Will Make Him Flee For The Hills”.  Ouch!  Not fun.

 

Why do men pull away?

One of the first and biggest reasons is when women assume you are in a relationship right off the bat.

Assume that she’s the only one, that they are, you know, committed to each other after like two, one, three dates.

We had someone write in to us not too long ago and asked us this question: “Why do guys I date end up disappearing really quickly?”  She’s like, “I’m a really good girlfriend. I meet them, we have wonderful sex, I clean their apartment for them, I make dinner for them. I always make sure they have plenty of time with their friends,” and I was like, “Oh my god you’re a Stepford Wife.” Moving in before you’ve even had a date!? She also asked, “why do these men take advantage of me and leave me?”

Because you’re basically forcing them into a relationship before you even get to know each other!

So that’s the number one thing; assuming a commitment before you’ve actually had one. People always say, “Michael, how do I know if a man is my boyfriend or not?” And I say, “well, have you had the conversation where somebody said the word boyfriend?”

There are even some women out there who think having sex with with a man means you are now a thing. You’re bonded forever…It’s not true.

Especially in the modern day that simply is not true. Whether it should be true is something for somebody else to talk about but in the modern day, especially in the big cities that we live in it is simply not true.

 

What is the number two thing that makes men run away?

Being needy.

But what does neediness mean?

It’s when you need a man to make you happy. You need fulfillment from their feelings, their presence, their attention to you. Constant validation.

Saying things like “Do you really love me? Do you really love me? Are you sure you love me?”

In my program “Secret Survey” I actually surveyed about 25,000 guys about the one thing they desperately wish women knew but could never tell them. And over and over again I kept seeing guys saying things like “I tell her I love her and she doesn’t believe me.”

That insecurity and that neediness. That desperate need to have him constantly reassuring and reaffirming what’s going on in a relationship is absolutely toxic to a man’s love. The more you need a guy to constantly tell you that he loves you, the less in love with you he’s going to become over time. Which sucks by the way.

But neediness in general, neediness is the opposite of attraction.

 

And number three is a little bit of a strange one…

I actually see what makes men run away emotionally is if you come on too strong sexually.

Too strong or too fast?

Let me clarify, too strong and too fast in a weird sort of way. Again, if you sleep with a guy on the first date he probably won’t run away, he’ll usually be quite eager for that kind of thing… Well, that’s if it was good. If it’s really bad probably not so much. “Why did she keep poking me in the eye while we were having sex? I was really confused by it. She kept strangling me, slapped me…” Well some guys like that kind of thing.

But I do remember a time when I was seeing a girl, seemed like a really nice girl and she was a really sexual person which was great but she kind of put me in a position where I basically didn’t have to do any work. It felt like every time we got in a room together, she would get really, really sexually interested and at a certain point, I got bored and ended up not wanting to be there anymore.

The reason being is I felt like it could be anybody there at that point. I mean it’s okay to be into sex and enjoying it as long as you are making a connection with that person.

I felt like I was an appendage to my pnis at that point! Which was fun for awhile and then not so much. And again, it is important to understand what sex actually means to men. Figuring out that yes, men do want that carnal prn star in the bedroom thing sometimes, but they actually want a real person on the other end of it as well. If you see yourself as just a sexual being then they’re only gonna see you that way as well.

If you want to learn more about the Secret Survey program which teaches you about how not to be needy and how to actually have a great relationship with men CLICK HERE!

Mike

Article Source: Digital Romance

9 Reasons He Avoids Commitment

9 Reasons He Avoids Commitment

 
9 Reasons He Avoids Commitment
 

Have you ever been with a guy who seems afraid to commit?  Maybe you’ve dated a guy for years and he just never seems to want to take things to the next level.

Or perhaps you’re married, and while he wears the ring on his finger … His heart just hasn’t made that commitment yet and you feel your marriage isn’t on solid ground.

Well, I’m going to try my best to shed some light on how the male mind works and why some men are not ready for or downright scared of commitment.

There are 9 main reasons why your man may not want to commit to you. Some of these have nothing to do with you, it’s just where he is at in his life. Others are things that you are doing, so make sure you pay close attention:

 

1) You’re hinting too aggressively

Men need to feel like commitment is their idea, even if pressuring them into committing to you works (some women hint very aggressively until they get engaged), this may lead to resentment and lack of REAL commitment and faithfulness long term.

I’ve seen some guys date girls for 3+ years, only to get engaged to the next one who comes along even though they’ve only been dating for 6 months.

Often the next one who comes along is seen as less ‘suffocating’ due to less commitment pressure. Or it’s simply due to the fact that they are now ready for commmitment when in the past they were not.

Hinting or talking about commitment once isn’t a bad thing, but if you find yourself doing it week in, week out, it’s likely to be doing more harm than good. You may simply be with the wrong person if you feel a need for more commitment right now.

If he wants to commit to you, then allow him to get to that stage on his own.

 

2) You don’t support his ambitions and/or don’t make him feel appreciated enough

Men need their egos stroked, and for him to feel like you are ‘the one’ it will help a lot if you can notice all the good things he does (and his body if you like it, etc).

It is also incredibly important that you don’t try to change him too much, support him in his dreams, whatever they may be (starting his own company, travelling the world, etc).

It sounds obvious, but there are a lot of women out there who try to mould their man into the man they wished they were, rather than supporting them in being the best version of themselves that they can be.

 

3) He hasn’t grown up enough yet.

Men can take a little longer to grow up than women.

It takes a certain amount of maturity to get to the point of commitment, and he may not be quite there yet. An immature man can rarely consider the wants and needs of others above his own.

 

4) The sex isn’t good enough

If he has had a partner before with whom with the sex was better, or more frequent, this can make him nervous about committing to you forever.

If you feel that sex isn’t important, then that attitude could well be a reason for lack of long term commitment.

 

5)  There’s someone else.

Hopefully this isn’t the case, but it is possible he has someone else on his mind, leaving him confused about what kind of future he wants for you and him.

It is also possible he is not over his ex partner, or doesn’t see you as better than them (men want to commit to the best they’ve ever had).

 

6)  He has other priorities.

He balances out everything- work, family, and friends.

If he feels he’s got other areas in his life that require more attention, then that will come first and he will think of you later.

 

7) His close friends haven’t committed yet.

The majority of men will want to commit eventually. But  he may not have wanted to be the first one out of his group of friends, feeling like he misses out on anything with his single friends.

 

8) Loss of free time.

He likes time to himself and to do his own thing. Serious relationships take up an enormous amount of time and energy and he doesn’t want that kind of pressure.

 

9) His history.

When you learn about his past relationships, and his childhood ones, then you may understand why he can’t commit to you.

He could be swearing off new relationships because of pain that was caused by a previous breakup. He may need a little extra time until he feels safe in his new relationship with you.

 

I hope you found great value in these 9 points!  Yes, some may hurt but it’s better to know the truth than to be left in the dark.  Having said that, you can’t be sure of what the real reasons are for him shying away from commitment if he isn’t being up front with you.

Are you still stumped and need more in-depth insights as to why  you’re always the one getting dumped, especially with no explanation?  Ever wondered what you did wrong or what he really wanted?

You’re about to be given THE blueprint to how the male mind works:

Make sure you watch the video below as soon as possible:

==> Video – Why Men Lose Interest

I’m not sure how long this will be online and it’s a must watch short video that shows you why men pull away and how to be the woman that he’ll fall in love with forever.

Kind regards!