A woman knows by intuition, or instinct, what is best for herself. ~ Marilyn Monroe
It’s not called “women’s intuition” for nothing. Studies show that there are gender differences in how well someone can read others’ behaviors, intentions, and so on. For more details, follow this link to a Psychology Today article: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201107/women-s-intuition-myth-or-reality
Now that we know that studies indicate that women are generally more intuitive than men when dealing with others, what about when they are faced with what is best for themselves? Personally, I don’t believe that there is biological factor concerned in distinguishing intuitive ability between the genders. I think it has more to do with how self-aware a person is, and to what degree they recognize their own needs in relation to the needs of others. As women, we are conditioned to put the needs and desires of others before ours – the needs of our children, our partner, our parents, our family, our boss, and the list goes on. We are conditioned to take care of others, which, in turn, leaves our own needs low on our list of priorities. We women know all about that nagging feeling that tells us that something isn’t right, or that we’re just not where we want to be, or that we’re not happy with the status quo. That is our intuition or instinct that is telling us that something, or a multitude of somethings, just isn’t working for us.
The same, of course, applies to men. The major difference between the two genders though is that women will be more likely to quash these intuitive feelings so that they can fulfill the caretaker role that is instilled in them. It is not as common to hear a woman say “THIS is what I need.”, as it is to hear a man say it. Women know that if they put their own needs above the needs of their family, for example, they will likely be perceived as bad mothers, selfish spouses, or any other negative social label which is attached to the act of taking care of themselves. Even more significantly, they will likely label themselves as such, as well. As a consequence, in most cases, they don’t do what is best for themselves.
This, of course, is not to say that women should put their own needs and desires before those of the people they love and who depend on them for care. It does, however, mean that their intuition is right – they need to do what is right for themselves at least some of the time and make sure they surround themselves with people who are interested in supporting them. Otherwise, that nagging feeling that something just isn’t right can turn into real, negative consequences for both themselves and those that they care about. ~Gia